Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?

Today's society has very relaxed rules as it pertains to the what is proper etiquette between men and women, and because of it infidelity, divorce, and STDs are at an all time high. It is my view that once men and women are in committed relationships or married they need to be a damper on seeking advice, insight, and conversation from members of the opposite sex. Far too often ';male'; and ';female'; friends have ulterior motives and hidden agendas when dishing out relationship advice. After all is said and done when one decides upon a companion of the opposite sex it should be a person intelligent enough to resolve the issues that will arise or at least sensible enough to seek out a solution and bring it back home.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
Seeking advice from and confiding in a person of the opposite sex is the first step to an affair. My husband and I have an agreement that we will not discuss each other and our marriage with the opposite sex. It is great, though, to have these discussions with members of the same sex who have stable, strong marriages. Their advice can be invaluable.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
I disagree. The happiest, most resilient people are the ones with more strong relationships, with both genders. Research confirms this over and over again. Different people offer different perspectives and other sources of support. I don't like stereotyping, but often a ';female perspective'; or ';male perspective'; can be helpful. Why limit your friendships to half the people you might otherwise connect with in some fashion?





If your spouse is committed and you can trust him/her, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, then your relationship is on rocky ground regardless. As for ';friends'; with ulterior motives, these aren't true friends and you and your spouse will figure that out quickly enough. You should be sharing information enough to figure that out.
Agreed.





Me and my husband do not allow anyone into our union. Physically, spiritually or otherwise.
It is not okay only because this has so much potential for turning into a relationship. I have seen this happen.
you are right but i suppose that us humans just need to feel validated. but most trouble begins when we bring others into our relationship
Its not always alterior motives or secret agendas, its more the fact that seeking comfort from the opposite sex will lead you more into their arms because they understand and you can cry on their shoulder, and further away from your spouse. My husband and I both agree not to go to the opposite sex for advice or comfort. There are exceptions of course... siblings and cousins. But in general, it's never a good idea and usually leads to disaster