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Please give me advice. I date a diver and he is offshore for 2 weeks. We are exclusive. He has been offshore for 8 days. I can only talk to him buy email but he came onshore today at the dock. I called him and he said he couldn't talk for more than 8 mins. bc he was shooting pool at a local bar. I asked him to please step aside and talk to me for at least 10 mins. He said he couldn't bc it was raining outside and he was shooting pool. he said he would call later if he had service or time. if not he would email later tonight or today. Do you think I should write him off? I mean he could of talked to me I haven't seen or talk except by email.to him in a week and I won't for another week or so. i just wanted to talk to him before he got back on the boat. He could of called after his pool before he got on the boat. Am I being need or is he being an ***?Advice from men and women?
you guys dont know what you're talking about





my boyfriends a coast guard and he leaves for two months at a time, and all i can do is email him until every OTHER weekend when they pull in to port.





if my boyfriend told me he couldnt talk to me because he was shooting pool, i would absolutely kill him, especially if i didnt have a few minutes to talk to him before hand. that's just showing that he doesnt care.





if he doesn't call you back then theres something to worry about.





idk see how his attitude is in his email at the very leastAdvice from men and women?
you are being so incredibly rediculous I can't even begin to decribe it.





you want to write him off because he chose not to talk to you for an extra 2 minutes - 120 seconds...a blink of an eye in the scheme of a lifetime...no offense - but wtf?





he has a life outside of dating you - it includes his passion, diving, his friends (pool) and other things - you need to allow him to have his happiness - you aren't the center of the universe and the world does not revolve around you.





He very easily could have said - I'm going diving for two weeks - I'll talk to you when I get home....you are lucky he even has internet access to e-mail you.





grow up - get a life of your own and find things to do besides waiting for his call or e-mail.
I don't know what his problem was ... but what he did to you was not good.





You may be needy .. but you did not show it by asking him to talk to you for 10 minutes ... omg . He was many things to you .. he was rude, inconsiderate , hurt you, uncaring of your feelings .. he probably embarrassed you, too.





To say the least, he would not be nice.





If I were in your shoes .. if this guy got to talk to ME any time soon ... he would have to hunt for me ';long-and-hard'; with not much luck of getting to hear my voice any time soon ... I would just be unavailable. If he did not want to talk to me - then it WOULD BE ... NO TALK. But! .. you will have to be tuff to stand-up to this .. and be able to hang-in-there to get the point across to him.





Let this be an example of what he is capable of.





Don't let him get by with doing you this way. You don't have to take it. Don't let him push your buttons with a punch of lame excuses WHY he did it ... it was his choice .. he did what he wanted to do. He will come up with a bunch of excuses to tell you - and it will be things he thinks you want to hear. He thinks he can get by with this.





Surprise him ... don't be available to talk to HIM. Go play pool - and if he calls - have your message saying that you can't talk right now - that you are playing pool.
if you are exclusively dating each other, then let the guy go. you would think that you would be more important than a beer and a game of pool to him, but i guess you're not. no offense or anything, but that's what he's telling you. you deserve better. let him go.
Wait a minute , he only comes onshore that little bit and he would rather shoot pool? Dump him ! He was using you.
He knows that you are waiting for him so why should he put any effort into it. The ball is in your court as to how you want to deal with the relationship. Do you really want to sit around for a guy that won't take 5 min. out of his pool game to talk to you. I think that you guys should remain friends but have an open relationship. The worst thing you can do is wait around for some guy. You only have one life to live don't waste it on some guy that won't give you the time or day.
he is taking you for granted, not appreciating you at all and disrespecting you. lose him immediately and find a guy who would do anything to be with you, not the other way around.
If he doesn't have time for you; do not have time for him.
Honey, if this guy can't show you 10 minutes of his time then he's definitely not worth waiting around for. That is very insensitive of him. Now, if you are only 'dating' then he may not have feelings for you as you have for him and you are only a 'date' to him, not his girlfriend. Being friends may work better for you both but I don't think I would look for anything more serious with this guy. Look for someone who shows some interest in 'you' not pool. Good luck.
I'm thinking maybe he only had 8 minutes left on his phone or something.. it's just an odd number to throw out there.. I could see if he just said ';I can only talk for a couple minutes'; or ';I can only talk for 5 minutes'; - not that he shouldn't talk to you longer, it just would be a ';normal'; statement.. but 8 minutes is just odd.
He was already shooting pool when you called him.


Why are you so insecure that you feel the need to test him?


If he called you, and you said you were doing something and he insisted you stop, as a measure of your love for him, wouldn't that seem weird to you?


Give the guy a break. You're doing all this freaking out, over a 2 minute difference in the duration of a phone conversation that wasn't even planned.


You are waaaaayyyy too needy babe. Sorry, but it's the truth.


Sounds to me like you have male abandonment issues.


Did your dad leave you guys when you were young? This usually is at the heart of this problem with women.
You are portraying desperation. NEVER ask one of us men species to talk to you in a way that makes us think you are begging. We love to be chased. Sit back, let him chase you. Let him have it his way for a few days and see how he likes it. Have some willpower. Be prepared for a backfire. If he really is being bugged by you and doesn't like you anymore, he will welcome your backing off. If he really is into you, he will chase you down with an apology for resembling a long-eared horse like creature.