I don't trust men and i need advice?

my father was never there for me emotionally, and i'm really tired of trying with men, i just don't trust them, all the guys i've been with, have been the same, selfish, and only thinking of themselves. I feel like i can't depend on any guy to be there for me and give me what i need.I don't trust men and i need advice?
Men are pigs.I don't trust men and i need advice?
You indicate having dated a number of men, and found them all the same . . . well one thing constant across your dating pattern is you. That is, maybe you are just bad at picking out men, and subconsciously you are picking out men that are poor choices. Talk to your friends and family about your dating patterns, see what they think, maybe let them set you up with someone who is different from what you usually go for.





Also, try to realize you may be seeing them as something they aren't due to your not trusting your dad. Consider what you find to be evidence that a man is untrustworthy - what test they are failing - and ask yourself if that's a fair test, could you even pass the test?
u should never trust a man.


u should never trust a woman.


you should trust NO ONE
There are ';good'; men in the world; you're just dating the wrong ones. It's your behavior patterns that keep pulling you back into relationship after relationship that ends poorly with you feeling unfulfilled. Examine your patterns and determine to change them.
You can never go wrong with that kind of attitude about men.
To trust someone you first have to learn to trust yourself. I didnt have much of a dad figure either. Im married now and still find it hard to let my husband close to me. This is something your going to have to overcome...Most women who didnt have dad in their life from the start pick losers to date, because you feel like you cant do any better. Set your standards a little higher and understand you dont need a man to justify who you are.
All men arent the same. It sounds to me like the problem is your choice in men! No offense...I too had the same problem until i totally went solo for a bit and learned to love my self and respect myself...then i was open emotionally to date again and what do ya know i found a good one! I refused to settle for less than i deserved and when a man knows you are like that he has the choice to a.) treat you like a lady with respect or b.) leave you alone so he dont get rejected . its easy really...just love yourself and dont settle for less and men will instinctively know that you arent gonna take any crap from them!
you are looking for the wrong things in guys. That is a problem you have to change. Don't blame your father for your faults. You are a grown women i suppose.
i have the same problem :o( and yes it sucks, but hopefully someday you'll find that one guy that you can trust, but you have to give him a chance first





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Hey girl-





You know that not all guys are the same. A lot of them are asses, obviously, but thats just some guys - not all.





Sorry to hear about your father not being there for you and probably not your mother or other family too. You owe it to yourself and your mom/family to really invest time into finding the right guy and finding a committed relationship.





It does take a while to meet that right guy. Trust me - it doesnt happen overnight. You have to really work and search to find love - i don't believe it happens like *that* like we see in the movies lol





I wish you the world~





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hope you still give chance to other guys.not all are like what you mentioned.you need a sensitive man that will love you and protect you and understand you emotionally.i'm willing to bet that someday you will meet him.
';Trust everyone, just not the devil inside them.'; The guy needs to trust you in order for you to trust him.
They're all gonna be like that, untill you start demanding more respect. The more they have to work for you, the more they'll want you. It doesn't hurt to always look hot either. Guys always want what other guys want, so stay on your (A) game!
I know it's hard when all you seem to do is find bad ones but trust me there are some good ones left out there it just takes time.... And you have to open up and trust people or no one is going to open up to you....and if you found the right one on the first time you wouldn't appreciate it so it's better that you had to deal with the wrong ones to appreciate the good ones....Just wait it out and try to open up more and someone will come into your life when you least expect it and surprise you....
NEVER trust men...make your own way and just use them for sex
donot let they know you need them a lot,when you care for yourself a little bit they will think of you if they love you
maybe it's like that because you're the one


that has to change first before falling in love.


or you just keep dating the same guys.


all men are not like that trust me if you


were to get to know me you would see


the way i am deep inside. and about your father


people say those things to make excuses


because saying my father was never around


is like saying a mother can't be independent


without a man.
Unfortunately you are doing the right thing on not trusting men in fact never ever trust no one but yourself and it is good not to depend on some one else, always remember that
aww girl thats because you have not met the right guy yet.. it is true you should not trust every guy out there but once the right comes you will trust that person! i was like that 2... just give it sometime meet new people..
Be independent. You sound too needy.





I was the same way about women and I learned that I don't need them.
Stop focusing on him and work on you. Be clear about what you desire in a mate, pray and leave it alone. When you stop focusing on a man you will get who and what you need.





Work on you and your issues. You may need to deal with all the stuff from the past and your father. I know from experience about the father baggage. Work on you, give you what you need and the rest will work itself out. Sometimes you just need a break to relax, clear your mind and refocus your vision of your life and what you want. Sometimes it means changing old patterns and really paying attention to the mistakes you made in the past. Sometimes we allow people to treat us a certain way and it takes a vigilant effort to change those patterns.





Good luck. I am still a work in progress. I don't think that ever truly changes. We can only live, learn and hopefully evolve.
Find a cute nerdy guy who has never had a girlfriend and your winner will be you.
yeah right do not depend on men.. Trust your self and turn to them only when the is need.
Well, I can certainly understand that. My dad's not around for me either, and I am leery of ending up with a guy like him. My solution is to not date 'till I have a good job and a college degree. Give the guys a little time to grow up, you know??
You are not alone one this one.


Try taking it slower with men.


Develop a few friendships with men and nothing else.


See how they measure up to the trust thing without a commitment hanging over their heads.
Whats your question? If you need affirmation, then yes us men cannot be trusted.
I'm a guy... You can trust me. Trust me!
hi its hariet you can count on me promise i think to your problem or just a suggestion you should not compare your father s guys n naiincounter mo kz different person yan eh you should respect them na lang if i where you think first kung anu lang talaga yung want mung makita sa guy kung over n sila stop entertaining them kung yun sa tingin mo ang dapat. remember guys want to hide their feelings hindi agad sila nag show ng emotion or love don s girl kung hindi pa nila totally know un girl get my point?
you need to resolve your daddy issues because you're dating the same type of men your father was