My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. We talk to each other on the phone about 2-3 hours every day. We live an hour away from each other but get together 2-3 times per week. We are in an exclusive relationship.
He told me that he loved me a few weeks ago but last night he said there is a fine line between love and in love. He said he loves me and cares/worries about me. Said that he enjoys spending time with me, misses me when we aren't together and wants to get to know me better, but that 6 months is too soon to know if you are ';in love';. He said being in love is a gradual thing that doesn't happen overnight and you can't rush it.
So he said that when he says he loves me, he means it but not in an :in love: way yet. That sort of hurt my feelings and I'm wondering if that is a bad sign about our relationship or if he's just being realistic? Does it mean he'll NEVER be in love with me? I've met his family and he introduced me to his 2 teenage kids last week. He talks about the future with me in it.
What is your take on this? Should I be concerned? BTW: He's 45 years old.I really want advice from men out there- ';love'; vs. ';in love';?
Not really, it's just what guys my age, say. Being forty five and dating, we tend to be a little reticent, in saying those dreaded three little words, ';I Love you';, meaning we are in love with you.
But as he's introduced you to his family, it means your relationship, isn't a casual one to him. He's also talking about the future, another good sign.
As it seems he's divorced, he's most likely shy at saying he's in love, having most likely said that to his former wife, and it didn't work out there for them.
So now he's taking it slow and cautiously, so just accept what he says, and understand that he could be right and his falling in love with you will happen.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Hi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
Hi I've been seeing this guy for about 8mths and he seems lovely but i need advice. Ok here goes firstly I am a single mum with a daughter he has never made an attempt to get to know her and when she is in the room he even goes so far as to blank her she is two, secondly we never go out he just come round we have tea and watch telly or talk and some times end up in the bed room if you catch my drift. Tonight i asked him do you ever see us progressing from what he calls us which is friends and he said ' we'll see what happens' . but nothing ever seems to happen and I don't feel it will as he makes no effort and never comes round on a weekend and always after my daughter is asleep is this normal what should I do please answer helpfully thanks in advance xHi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
I'm a 34 yo male... He may just be rubbish with kids... It might be worth trying to do something together which involves his interaction with her... ? a day to the park and tell him you feel tired and see how he does with her...
But my most honest opinion is that he's probably not interested in the family unit, rather you and him as a relationship... it might work ok short term, but long term it may spell disaster.Hi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
I would say that this guy doesn't at all seem like he is really interested at the moment, maybe he will change his priorities soon but if i'm honest, a serious one on one talk wouldn't hurt to reveal how you both see each other, etc.
Hope that helps
If he dont like your kids, he dont like you...
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end it what ever ';it'; is
you need a man that care for you AND your daughter
I think you may need to confront him, you obviously really like this gentleman, and he needs to start being a real man. It sounds like he may be afraid of a ';ready made family'; and might not want to get too close, but let him know how you feel about him and that you need something decisive, try to get into his life a bit more if you haven't already. Ask to meet his friends, go for breakfast, walk in the park, enjoy his hobbies with him or share your own. Let him see how amazing you and your daughter are and he won't be able to dodge you anymore.
P.S. thanks for the answer of mine, it gave me a boost.
maybe the fella doesn't want to do the parental part. i would say that you have to be really honest with yourself and ask is what he gives you enough? if you are happy with the casual relationship then leave things as they are. if you want more from him then maybe you should pick a time to sit down with him and tell him you would like him to be a part of your daughters life as well. i would guess he will either make an effort or stop coming round. you have been with him for 8 months now so i would have thought you would have an honest idea about whether or not he only comes round for the bedroom bit or if he is prepared to commit himself to you and your daughter. with him only coming round at night and not at weekends is it possible that he may have another partner who works nights so he spends his weekends with her? i feel bad about suggesting this but it looks like a possibility.
I think that if you have a daughter you need to pick men carefully. Your daughter is only 2 so she will be the main priority in your life for a long long time to come.
You need a man that will accept you have a daughter and someone that wants to get to know her. A man coming into her life and treating her as if she doesnt exist will confuse her alot.
I dont think this man knows what he wants. It may be the issue of you having a child but if he really liked you then he wouldnt let that bother him.
Talk to him and ask him what he wants. Tell him you dont want to carry on seeing him if he is so indecisive about you. He seems like hes making you feel very unwanted and that shouldnt be how you are feeling wit someone you are seeing.
I'm a 34 yo male... He may just be rubbish with kids... It might be worth trying to do something together which involves his interaction with her... ? a day to the park and tell him you feel tired and see how he does with her...
But my most honest opinion is that he's probably not interested in the family unit, rather you and him as a relationship... it might work ok short term, but long term it may spell disaster.Hi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
I would say that this guy doesn't at all seem like he is really interested at the moment, maybe he will change his priorities soon but if i'm honest, a serious one on one talk wouldn't hurt to reveal how you both see each other, etc.
Hope that helps
If he dont like your kids, he dont like you...
=)
end it what ever ';it'; is
you need a man that care for you AND your daughter
I think you may need to confront him, you obviously really like this gentleman, and he needs to start being a real man. It sounds like he may be afraid of a ';ready made family'; and might not want to get too close, but let him know how you feel about him and that you need something decisive, try to get into his life a bit more if you haven't already. Ask to meet his friends, go for breakfast, walk in the park, enjoy his hobbies with him or share your own. Let him see how amazing you and your daughter are and he won't be able to dodge you anymore.
P.S. thanks for the answer of mine, it gave me a boost.
maybe the fella doesn't want to do the parental part. i would say that you have to be really honest with yourself and ask is what he gives you enough? if you are happy with the casual relationship then leave things as they are. if you want more from him then maybe you should pick a time to sit down with him and tell him you would like him to be a part of your daughters life as well. i would guess he will either make an effort or stop coming round. you have been with him for 8 months now so i would have thought you would have an honest idea about whether or not he only comes round for the bedroom bit or if he is prepared to commit himself to you and your daughter. with him only coming round at night and not at weekends is it possible that he may have another partner who works nights so he spends his weekends with her? i feel bad about suggesting this but it looks like a possibility.
I think that if you have a daughter you need to pick men carefully. Your daughter is only 2 so she will be the main priority in your life for a long long time to come.
You need a man that will accept you have a daughter and someone that wants to get to know her. A man coming into her life and treating her as if she doesnt exist will confuse her alot.
I dont think this man knows what he wants. It may be the issue of you having a child but if he really liked you then he wouldnt let that bother him.
Talk to him and ask him what he wants. Tell him you dont want to carry on seeing him if he is so indecisive about you. He seems like hes making you feel very unwanted and that shouldnt be how you are feeling wit someone you are seeing.
I need some advice from men?
Okay. I'm a virgin. Im 16, he's 18. We've been together for a good 7 months, but the thing that bugs me is the fact that he's not a virgin. He's had sex with 3 other girls, who are known to be trashy skanks who will just about sleep with anything, which is the complete opposite of me. He knows good and well that I'm not planning on having sex with him anytime soon...but do guys get bored after awhile? Do some guys get tired of waiting? He's very attractive, and other girls look at him all the time which makes me nervous. I just want some guy opinions here. I've heard that most guys go through that stage where they have there one night stands, but eventually want to just settle down with one girl. Is this true?? Help..??I need some advice from men?
I think it differs from guy to guy. I personally have hooked up with a few girls but never went all the way because of the risk that is involved. I feel that it would be best to discuss this with him and explain to him how you feel about him and how you really hope he feels the same way about you. This will help you determine just how much he cares about you and if he is for real or just using you as another girl.I need some advice from men?
He's too young to settle. Don't build on this.
Date him as long as it lasts...
I think it differs from guy to guy. I personally have hooked up with a few girls but never went all the way because of the risk that is involved. I feel that it would be best to discuss this with him and explain to him how you feel about him and how you really hope he feels the same way about you. This will help you determine just how much he cares about you and if he is for real or just using you as another girl.I need some advice from men?
He's too young to settle. Don't build on this.
Date him as long as it lasts...
Im 28 and need advice from men at least 25 and older?
First let me start by saying Im not looking for men who are still in high school to answer this question, looking for guys who have had serious relationships or are in them. I want your opinion on how you feel, not a general idea, ok. How long does it take for you to get involved in a relationship with a female? What makes her a good choice for a girlfriend? What are signs that you are interested in her? Signs you are just tryin to be nice not to hurt her feelings? Im just trying to figure some stuff out, havent had too many serious guys in my life, most turn out bad, so maybe there is something i might be missingIm 28 and need advice from men at least 25 and older?
It will and probably should take about 6 months to develop a solid relationship.
A woman for me needs to be a friend and partner. Marriage and such is not all bliss. She needs to be someone I can confide in, ask advice of, and help run our lives together as a partnership. If/when that partnership forms you will recognize it. You may find yourselves doing things as a couple. He asks advice and vice-versa. You shop, buy things, share things. She should realize that I had friends, likes, dislikes, hobbies, work, and a life before I met her. That won't change. But I'm now interested in sharing those things with her, and she with me. Communication is key. You must both be able to talk about anything, and I mean anything, that comes up.
It's ridiculous to think that one person only, out of all 6.6 billion, can satisfy all of your needs for the rest of your life. It just doesn't work that way. It's not all flowers and smiles.
It should not be hard work. If you're working hard at maintaining the relationship you probably shouldn't be in it.
I've been happily married 12 years, getting better every day, and don't recommend it for anyone. That is not a shot against marriage. That simply means that it is not for everyone and should not be a life goal.Im 28 and need advice from men at least 25 and older?
The best advice is to establish a good friendship with romance that grows into love. This type of LTR lasts the longest. The ';instant'; love thing can happen, but it is ';chemistry'; not love and doesn't last very long, unless friendship also develops. Both work, but the first has the best probabilities of lasting and being good.
It will and probably should take about 6 months to develop a solid relationship.
A woman for me needs to be a friend and partner. Marriage and such is not all bliss. She needs to be someone I can confide in, ask advice of, and help run our lives together as a partnership. If/when that partnership forms you will recognize it. You may find yourselves doing things as a couple. He asks advice and vice-versa. You shop, buy things, share things. She should realize that I had friends, likes, dislikes, hobbies, work, and a life before I met her. That won't change. But I'm now interested in sharing those things with her, and she with me. Communication is key. You must both be able to talk about anything, and I mean anything, that comes up.
It's ridiculous to think that one person only, out of all 6.6 billion, can satisfy all of your needs for the rest of your life. It just doesn't work that way. It's not all flowers and smiles.
It should not be hard work. If you're working hard at maintaining the relationship you probably shouldn't be in it.
I've been happily married 12 years, getting better every day, and don't recommend it for anyone. That is not a shot against marriage. That simply means that it is not for everyone and should not be a life goal.Im 28 and need advice from men at least 25 and older?
The best advice is to establish a good friendship with romance that grows into love. This type of LTR lasts the longest. The ';instant'; love thing can happen, but it is ';chemistry'; not love and doesn't last very long, unless friendship also develops. Both work, but the first has the best probabilities of lasting and being good.
Diabetic men... need an advice...?
do diabetic men really have a low sperm count??? does this affect the possible pregnancy???Diabetic men... need an advice...?
One of my good male friends is diabetic and he got his wife pregnant first time. He has two beautiful children, and diabetes has not affected his sperm count. I think it depends on the person.
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One of my good male friends is diabetic and he got his wife pregnant first time. He has two beautiful children, and diabetes has not affected his sperm count. I think it depends on the person.
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Please I need love advice from men and women?
Please give me advice. I date a diver and he is offshore for 2 weeks. We are exclusive. He has been offshore for 8 days. I can only talk to him buy email but he came onshore today at the dock. I called him and he said he couldn't talk for more than 8 mins. bc he was shooting pool at a local bar. I asked him to please step aside and talk to me for at least 10 mins. He said he couldn't bc it was raining outside and he was shooting pool. he said he would call later if he had service or time. if not he would email later tonight or today. Do you think I should write him off? I mean he could of talked to me I haven't seen or talk except by email.to him in a week and I won't for another week or so. i just wanted to talk to him before he got back on the boat. He could of called after his pool before he got on the boat. Am I being need or is he being an ***?Please I need love advice from men and women?
It sounds like he's got someone else more important than you??black heads
It sounds like he's got someone else more important than you??
He says... i need advice from men and woman on this.?
Me and my guy have been together for almost 6 months. I've had one relationship prior to him and he's had 20+. He tells me he loves me all the time, and he does a lot for me. We are still kinda young, and he's talking about our future together. He talks about living together and he talks about us getting married some time in the future and having kids. Does he say this because he loves me and wants these things or could there be a hidden motive. Let me know what you think. I want to make sure I'm making the right choices.He says... i need advice from men and woman on this.?
Instead of coming to YA, how about talking to him about these issues. No one on YA, can get inside some one Else's mind.
So just talk to him honestly.
Instead of coming to YA, how about talking to him about these issues. No one on YA, can get inside some one Else's mind.
So just talk to him honestly.
OMG im in serious need of advice..from men and women.. please!?
Hi, my name is Jazmine. I'm 15, and i am having a difficult time with a guy that i have like for a while now. I've been told i'm very mature for a 15 year old and this is a serious situation that i need advice on. I met the guy about 6 months ago. He introduced himself, shook my hand :), gave me his name and number. We set up a date to hang out, and it was great! I really felt a connection between me and him.Hetold me he was 20 :-/ BUMMER....But some of my friends told me there was nothing wrong with this Plus i really like this guy!Anyway, i have been waiting for the relationship term to be brought up, but it hasn't. All that has come up is the sex discussion.He keeps bringing it up! I hate to think that he is just trying to have sex with me,plus im not that type of girl,im saving it for marriage. He invites over to his house ALOT when he's ALONE. Someone smart on yahoo warned me about him n told me what he's doing can fall into staturary RAPE. WOW, that scared me. I need advice..OMG im in serious need of advice..from men and women.. please!?
Usually if a guy his age is going after girls your age, he's only looking for sex. Don't listen to your friends, trust me I'm 22 and all the decent guys my age are looking for girls 18+. You need to get away from him, he's a pervert. If he keeps pestering you, tell your parents or call the police.OMG im in serious need of advice..from men and women.. please!?
yes its dangerous for both of you --- so its best you dont see him when he is alone --- for his sake as much as yours --- it does sound like all he is after is sex so really it would be better for you to not see him again well at least until you are 20 yourself --- best wishes
It's statutory rape and he can go to jail for a long time!
HE IS TRYING TO USE YOU FOR SEX! TWENTY YR OLDS ARENT INTERESTED IN DATING 15 YR OLD. WHAT IF HE DOES RAPE YOU. I THINK YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM THAT SITUATION BEFORE YOU GET IN TOO DEEP AND DO SOMETHING STUPID. OH AND ...MUCHO RESPECT FOR A FEMALE THAT RESPECTS HER BODY ENOUGH TO WAIT....TRUE LOVE WAITS..AS YOU KNOW I AM SURE. BUT RAPE IS SOMETHING YOU CANT CONTROL IF HE DECIDES TO. I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER GET RAPED TOO...HA DONT BE A DA..ED FOOL!
You're seeing the picture already, Jaz. The age difference isn't the problem. You like him and you see liking him as a reason to have a relationship. He likes you and sees liking you as a reason to have sex. There's a basic difference in values here.
You did not mention if your parent's knows of this bf and the fact that he is 20 yrs old. It is called statutory rape , if he influences you into having sex with him. I would certainly be careful and not let him talk you into this. For one thing, you sound like a very descent young lady and want to save your self for marriage. Do not!!! let this guy talk you into this, it is criminally wrong on his part and you need to keep your own self respect, and save yourself for marriage. You do not need to be going to this guy's house alone, from what you have wrote, I do not trust him.
Run. Do not look back. One of these times when you are alone with him, he won't take NO for an answer. Have you ever watched ';To Catch A Predator'; on NBC's Dateline? He will probably show up on there.
I'm being serious.
listen hun im big R and yes he could go to jail! he's to old for you and Yes hes just wanting sex from you,your very Smart not wanting to have sex,and the only reason he's bringing up sex,is Because thats ';all'; he wants from you,him being nice and charming is all for show! save your virgentey for the right kinda man who loves you for you
Usually if a guy his age is going after girls your age, he's only looking for sex. Don't listen to your friends, trust me I'm 22 and all the decent guys my age are looking for girls 18+. You need to get away from him, he's a pervert. If he keeps pestering you, tell your parents or call the police.OMG im in serious need of advice..from men and women.. please!?
yes its dangerous for both of you --- so its best you dont see him when he is alone --- for his sake as much as yours --- it does sound like all he is after is sex so really it would be better for you to not see him again well at least until you are 20 yourself --- best wishes
It's statutory rape and he can go to jail for a long time!
HE IS TRYING TO USE YOU FOR SEX! TWENTY YR OLDS ARENT INTERESTED IN DATING 15 YR OLD. WHAT IF HE DOES RAPE YOU. I THINK YOU NEED TO GET AWAY FROM THAT SITUATION BEFORE YOU GET IN TOO DEEP AND DO SOMETHING STUPID. OH AND ...MUCHO RESPECT FOR A FEMALE THAT RESPECTS HER BODY ENOUGH TO WAIT....TRUE LOVE WAITS..AS YOU KNOW I AM SURE. BUT RAPE IS SOMETHING YOU CANT CONTROL IF HE DECIDES TO. I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER GET RAPED TOO...HA DONT BE A DA..ED FOOL!
You're seeing the picture already, Jaz. The age difference isn't the problem. You like him and you see liking him as a reason to have a relationship. He likes you and sees liking you as a reason to have sex. There's a basic difference in values here.
You did not mention if your parent's knows of this bf and the fact that he is 20 yrs old. It is called statutory rape , if he influences you into having sex with him. I would certainly be careful and not let him talk you into this. For one thing, you sound like a very descent young lady and want to save your self for marriage. Do not!!! let this guy talk you into this, it is criminally wrong on his part and you need to keep your own self respect, and save yourself for marriage. You do not need to be going to this guy's house alone, from what you have wrote, I do not trust him.
Run. Do not look back. One of these times when you are alone with him, he won't take NO for an answer. Have you ever watched ';To Catch A Predator'; on NBC's Dateline? He will probably show up on there.
I'm being serious.
listen hun im big R and yes he could go to jail! he's to old for you and Yes hes just wanting sex from you,your very Smart not wanting to have sex,and the only reason he's bringing up sex,is Because thats ';all'; he wants from you,him being nice and charming is all for show! save your virgentey for the right kinda man who loves you for you
Need a mans advice..?
Well, this past while me and my fianc茅 have been sort of growing apart. We have been going out almost 2 years and im 38 weeks pregnant with his child.
Obviously sex isnt going to be at its best at the moment and i am being quite grumpy most of the time. But im trying real hard as i dont want us to loose interest in each other,
Im a lot younger than he is (he's 42) and im not sure what i can do to keep him interested. I dont work at the minuite so cant afford to take him out anywhere, all we do most nights is sit in infront of TV or go 4 a run in the car.
Any thoughts.?Need a mans advice..?
Well, I think you could grow back together and it would be best if you do since you are going to be partners in parenting. Its too difficult and not good for the kid to have only a single parent.
I suggest you play some games instead of only watching t.v. and ask him for some back rubs and give him some oral sex. Read some jokes together. Have fun and laugh together.
Include him on a dream for your future together.
If you're grumpy you could be low on calcium or folic acid. Don't take more than the recommendation on iron because its recently been discovered this isn't good for a fetus or for you.
Never mind what that other answerer said about you shouldn't be with this older guy. You're with him already and you need his help now becdause youare carrying his kid. Stick with him for the time being. You don't need to be lonely or going through heart break whiile you're pregnant. That guy doesn't have his thinking cap on.
Be happy, I think you're depressed partly because you're feeling insecure. Fatty acids in the form of flax seed oil will probably elevate your mood. And be sure to exercize! Walk or dance around the house.
This is a wonder ful time in your live, having your first child. Rekindle your romance and create happiness in your lives. You should be thrilled, lots of people want to have a child but they can't. What a wonderful blessing and you are so lucky not to be working while pregnant. You can take a nap when you need to and stay off your feet.
Write down on a piece of paper all the things you have to be happy about and include that you have access toa computer to write on as one of them! LOLNeed a mans advice..?
if you arn't working at the moment I think he could treat you to at least a cinema date or something like that, maybe mention it in a calm way that you would like to see this certain movie and would he take you? you shouldn't have to TRY to keep him interested maybe he is the one who needs to make some effort as well
Funny how you mentioned his age and not yours,so you can't take him out because you don't work, and what about him? can't he take you out? isn't he working either? I think your relationship has gone stale in less than 2 years already,god help you when your child is born,just hope for you, it gets better.
why dosent he take you out then if you cant afford it?
does he have a job if the answer is no you dont want your kid around him anyway and how old are you exactly?
you prolly shouldnt go out with a man in his 40's if your in your 20's which is what i am assuming
Its a shame you are growing apart when this should be a time to be happy awaiting the birth of your child, perhaps you should try %26amp; involve him more with the baby eg get him to help choose the pram etc.good luck
was the child planned???
sounds like age compounded by mortality... maybe he is looking at issues with regards to his age and bringing up a child...
that can cause stress... and some guys just go off sex...
R u really 38 weeks pregnant. Something new.......... and interesting.....
Well even if you are not especially interested in sex you seem to be worried about him and thats a good thing. You care enough to ask a question on yahoo thats not really embarrassing but very personal. Good for you.
Well thats a tough time sexually especially since it may be very hard to get comfortable and the body image issues. Well if you are not into it it doesnt mean he isnt. I am sure there are things you can do for him (sexually)to keep a big smile on his face.
Good luck and dont sweat it your pregger hormones might be working overtime and freaking you out. It does happen and that is natural!
Obviously sex isnt going to be at its best at the moment and i am being quite grumpy most of the time. But im trying real hard as i dont want us to loose interest in each other,
Im a lot younger than he is (he's 42) and im not sure what i can do to keep him interested. I dont work at the minuite so cant afford to take him out anywhere, all we do most nights is sit in infront of TV or go 4 a run in the car.
Any thoughts.?Need a mans advice..?
Well, I think you could grow back together and it would be best if you do since you are going to be partners in parenting. Its too difficult and not good for the kid to have only a single parent.
I suggest you play some games instead of only watching t.v. and ask him for some back rubs and give him some oral sex. Read some jokes together. Have fun and laugh together.
Include him on a dream for your future together.
If you're grumpy you could be low on calcium or folic acid. Don't take more than the recommendation on iron because its recently been discovered this isn't good for a fetus or for you.
Never mind what that other answerer said about you shouldn't be with this older guy. You're with him already and you need his help now becdause youare carrying his kid. Stick with him for the time being. You don't need to be lonely or going through heart break whiile you're pregnant. That guy doesn't have his thinking cap on.
Be happy, I think you're depressed partly because you're feeling insecure. Fatty acids in the form of flax seed oil will probably elevate your mood. And be sure to exercize! Walk or dance around the house.
This is a wonder ful time in your live, having your first child. Rekindle your romance and create happiness in your lives. You should be thrilled, lots of people want to have a child but they can't. What a wonderful blessing and you are so lucky not to be working while pregnant. You can take a nap when you need to and stay off your feet.
Write down on a piece of paper all the things you have to be happy about and include that you have access toa computer to write on as one of them! LOLNeed a mans advice..?
if you arn't working at the moment I think he could treat you to at least a cinema date or something like that, maybe mention it in a calm way that you would like to see this certain movie and would he take you? you shouldn't have to TRY to keep him interested maybe he is the one who needs to make some effort as well
Funny how you mentioned his age and not yours,so you can't take him out because you don't work, and what about him? can't he take you out? isn't he working either? I think your relationship has gone stale in less than 2 years already,god help you when your child is born,just hope for you, it gets better.
why dosent he take you out then if you cant afford it?
does he have a job if the answer is no you dont want your kid around him anyway and how old are you exactly?
you prolly shouldnt go out with a man in his 40's if your in your 20's which is what i am assuming
Its a shame you are growing apart when this should be a time to be happy awaiting the birth of your child, perhaps you should try %26amp; involve him more with the baby eg get him to help choose the pram etc.good luck
was the child planned???
sounds like age compounded by mortality... maybe he is looking at issues with regards to his age and bringing up a child...
that can cause stress... and some guys just go off sex...
R u really 38 weeks pregnant. Something new.......... and interesting.....
Well even if you are not especially interested in sex you seem to be worried about him and thats a good thing. You care enough to ask a question on yahoo thats not really embarrassing but very personal. Good for you.
Well thats a tough time sexually especially since it may be very hard to get comfortable and the body image issues. Well if you are not into it it doesnt mean he isnt. I am sure there are things you can do for him (sexually)to keep a big smile on his face.
Good luck and dont sweat it your pregger hormones might be working overtime and freaking you out. It does happen and that is natural!
Need a mans advice?
Well where can I start I was with my ex boyfriend for almost two years. We broke up and he went overseas due him being in the military and I live here in the states. We have remained friends best friends since our break up witch was over a year ago. But thru out that year of us talking..We have still been sexual with each other..tell each other we love one another talked about our future togehter our kids..he supports me with everything that I do.we talk on the phone every single day... only thing is I asked him if we were getting back together he says he dont wanna talk about it until he see's me face to face..then the other day we were on the phone he thought i had fallen asleep on him, and he said to me baby i love you so much im going to marry you I promise. but im still confused because we are not offically boyfriend and girlfriend right now and he said he does not want to talk about it right now..can any one help me do you think he is playing games with me?Need a mans advice?
You need to take thing with an optimistic point of view. I know the only way I'd tell a woman I love that I'll marry her is if I'm madly in love. And he thought you were asleep? I don't whanna get your hopes up but I think he's serious about this. In case you didn't notice we're not very good with touchy-feely stuff. Anyway I wish you the best of luck.
You need to take thing with an optimistic point of view. I know the only way I'd tell a woman I love that I'll marry her is if I'm madly in love. And he thought you were asleep? I don't whanna get your hopes up but I think he's serious about this. In case you didn't notice we're not very good with touchy-feely stuff. Anyway I wish you the best of luck.
Please advice from men only....Thanks?
HERE'S MY STORY.I MET THIS GUY ABOUT 19 YEARS AGO,HE WAS MARRIED WITH A PREGNANT WIFE OF 2 YEARS.STARTED OUT JUST AS FRIENDSHIP THEN GREW INTO MORE. I WAS ALSO MARRIED .WHEN I REALIZED I HAD DEVELOPED STONG FEELINGS FOR HIM,I DIVORCED MY HUSBAND,BUT BECAUSE HE WAS ABUSIVE NOT FOR THE OTHER MAN.I STOPPED SEEING THE OTHER MAN AFTER 6 OR 8 MONTHS AND MOVED ON.I THEN REMARRIED AND HAD A CHILD AND TRIED TO FORGET ABOUT THIS OTHER MAN.AFTER 3 YEARS I THREW IN THE TOWEL WITH MY THEN HUSBAND,AND DIVORCED HIM ALSO BUT FOR REASONS I DO NOT CARE TO MENTION.I RAN INTO THE OTHER MAN AND WE PICKED UP RIGHT WHERE WE LEFT OFF AND I CONTINUED TO SEE HIM FOR ABOUT A YEAR OFF AND ON.I AGAIN BROKE IT OFF BECAUSE I KNEW IT WAS WRONG.SO I MET SOMEONE NEW AND WHILE WE WERE DATING THE OTHER MAN COMES TO ME AND WANTS TO SEE ME AGAIN BUT I CUT HIM OFF.I EVENTUALLY MARRIED THE MAN I'M WITH NOW AND HAVE BEEN FOR 10 YEARS.WITH IN THE PAST YEAR I RAN INTO THE OTHER MAN AGAIN AND WE STARTED TALKING AGAIN. THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT FROM THE TIMES BEFORE.HE TOLD ME HE LOVED ME AND THAT HE WAS GOING TO LEAVE HIS WIFE.I HAVE NEVER ASKED OR EVEN INSINUATED THAT I WANTED HIM TO END HIS MARRIAGE WITH HER.EVEN THOUGH I SO DESPERATLEY DO.HE SAYS HE WILL LEAVE HER ONCE HE CAN TRUST THAT I WON'T WALK OUT ON HIM LIKE I DID MY OTHER HUSBANDS.HE SAYS THAT HE FEELS LIKE I THINK OF HIM AS A CHALLENGE AND ONCE I GET HIM I'LL PROBALLY NOT WANT HIM ANYMORE SO THAT IS WHY HE NEEDS MORE TIME TO SEE IF MY FEELINGS FOR HIM ARE GENUINE. I TRULY LOVE THIS MAN. I HAVE FOR 20 YEARS NOW AND NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY TO MOVE ON AND FORGET ABOUT HIM I JUST CAN'T.BY THE WAY HE TOLD ME HE LOVED ME FIRST.HE HAS BEEN CALLING ME EVERYDAY SINCE WE STARTED TALKING AGAIN AND WE SEE EACH OTHER OFTEN EVEN IF IT'S JUST FOR A FEW MINUTES.WE DON'T ALWAYS ENGAGE IN SEX,MOST OF THE TIME IT IS JUST TALKING. HE SAYS HE JUST WANTS TO BE NEAR ME AND SEE MY FACE AND HOLD ME.I KNOW WHAT WE ARE DOING IS WRONG AND I ASKED HIM IF HE EVER FEELS GUILTY AND HE SAID NOT REALLY BECAUSE HE TRULY LOVES ME. HE DOES LOVE HIS WIFE BUT NOT THE WAY HE LOVES ME.DOES ANYBODY WHO'S BEEN IN THIS SITUATION HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME?
Please advice from men only....Thanks?
whew, I agree with baby. This is a serious cat n mouse game and I am not sure who is which and if the game ends if there is anyone left to play.
I agree what you need to do is get into some intensive therapy and find out what and why makes you tick. To bad for all the kids that are growing up around this.mmhh my future clients. So you sound like self will run riot love and sex addict and or relationship addict if nothing else. I expect that then what you want to do is dump your current and grab onto this ';lover of your life'; and you won't be happy until you do that. So I would take a deep breath pause and hit the reset button. Get into therapy and or a 12 step program for sex and love addiction and commit to not changing anything for a time 6 months. If this guy and you are ordained and destined it has waited 20 years so it can wait another few months while you deal with you.Please advice from men only....Thanks?
Would you leave the man you are married to now(whichever that one is)for any reasons just based on your relationship to him. If so, leave him, but just for yourself. And then tell the old flame to jump in the lake.
Why are you shouting? I want to give your situation some consideration, but I just cannot when you are shouting. [Hint: apply the Shift key to selectively create capitals when appropriate - it's really not difficult]
If it was meant to be with thus guy, you and him would have made a serious go of things 20 years ago. Leave it be. Be content on being his friend. You owe that to your current husband.
He has no intention of leaving his wife. You keep doing the same thing and therefore your results will be the same. Don't ruin their marriage.
if he really wanted you and plan to leave his wife for you,you seriously think it would take him 20 years to do that?i dont think so
The endless caps on and bottomless paragraph defy this even being read.
Have a look at your question - does it look easy to read to you? Turn the caps off.
another question
i have experienced that and yes i know what you mean no answer really its a tough one
i have advice....turn caps lock off...
spare us
your entire life revolves around one or another man. is this what women fought the sexual revolution for? how much of your time is tied up on creating drama over some man?
';HE SAYS HE WILL LEAVE HER ONCE HE CAN TRUST THAT I WON'T WALK OUT ON HIM LIKE I DID MY OTHER HUSBANDS.';
ROTFL!!! classic!
you are a piece of trash, and he is a piece of trash - the difference is, HE isn';t leaving HIS partner for a piece of trash. He is using you for entertainment and sex. don't you get it - he will never trust you because he CAN'T trust you.
Seems to me that you have been dating to many men and that you are confused in who do you love. He is playing you, he's not leaving his wife he's been with her all this time. Do you really think he would be sticking with his wife all these years and feel nothing for her. He is pulling your leg. He wants to use you and dump you. You are falling for the oldest trick in the book. Stop marrying people you don't love. You should go to get help with a Psychologist to help you deal with this weakness you have towards men. Love your self first.
First of all, the relationship started off wrong. Yes you may love him, that's not for me to judge or decide and he may love you. You really have to ask yourself do you really love this man? It seems like your relationships have all turned out badly and you have to ask yourself why. I'm not suggesting that you being abused or anything like that is your fault, but what I am saying is that maybe you should look closer at the type of men that you attract and attract you. Does he fit into the same category in any way as your previous husbands and boyfriends that didn't work out? Is there a common denominator among them all?
Secondly, HE IS MARRIED! Whether you suggested it or not, it seems as though his whole reason for wanting to leave his wife are solely because of you and not because he believes he and his wife aren't meant to be together. His concerns about leaving her are very valid, especially considering your past relationships.
Should he leave his wife? Only if he takes you completely out of the equation and decides he truly doesn't want to continue a relationship with his wife.
Should he get into a relationship with you? Probably not.
Should you get into a relationship with him? No way... You also should be concerned about a man ready to leave his wife of so long at the drop of a hat because he could do the exact same thing to you. And you should definitely be concerned about the way your relationship has started off because chances are, it's going to end the same way.
Please advice from men only....Thanks?
whew, I agree with baby. This is a serious cat n mouse game and I am not sure who is which and if the game ends if there is anyone left to play.
I agree what you need to do is get into some intensive therapy and find out what and why makes you tick. To bad for all the kids that are growing up around this.mmhh my future clients. So you sound like self will run riot love and sex addict and or relationship addict if nothing else. I expect that then what you want to do is dump your current and grab onto this ';lover of your life'; and you won't be happy until you do that. So I would take a deep breath pause and hit the reset button. Get into therapy and or a 12 step program for sex and love addiction and commit to not changing anything for a time 6 months. If this guy and you are ordained and destined it has waited 20 years so it can wait another few months while you deal with you.Please advice from men only....Thanks?
Would you leave the man you are married to now(whichever that one is)for any reasons just based on your relationship to him. If so, leave him, but just for yourself. And then tell the old flame to jump in the lake.
Why are you shouting? I want to give your situation some consideration, but I just cannot when you are shouting. [Hint: apply the Shift key to selectively create capitals when appropriate - it's really not difficult]
If it was meant to be with thus guy, you and him would have made a serious go of things 20 years ago. Leave it be. Be content on being his friend. You owe that to your current husband.
He has no intention of leaving his wife. You keep doing the same thing and therefore your results will be the same. Don't ruin their marriage.
if he really wanted you and plan to leave his wife for you,you seriously think it would take him 20 years to do that?i dont think so
The endless caps on and bottomless paragraph defy this even being read.
Have a look at your question - does it look easy to read to you? Turn the caps off.
another question
i have experienced that and yes i know what you mean no answer really its a tough one
i have advice....turn caps lock off...
spare us
your entire life revolves around one or another man. is this what women fought the sexual revolution for? how much of your time is tied up on creating drama over some man?
';HE SAYS HE WILL LEAVE HER ONCE HE CAN TRUST THAT I WON'T WALK OUT ON HIM LIKE I DID MY OTHER HUSBANDS.';
ROTFL!!! classic!
you are a piece of trash, and he is a piece of trash - the difference is, HE isn';t leaving HIS partner for a piece of trash. He is using you for entertainment and sex. don't you get it - he will never trust you because he CAN'T trust you.
Seems to me that you have been dating to many men and that you are confused in who do you love. He is playing you, he's not leaving his wife he's been with her all this time. Do you really think he would be sticking with his wife all these years and feel nothing for her. He is pulling your leg. He wants to use you and dump you. You are falling for the oldest trick in the book. Stop marrying people you don't love. You should go to get help with a Psychologist to help you deal with this weakness you have towards men. Love your self first.
First of all, the relationship started off wrong. Yes you may love him, that's not for me to judge or decide and he may love you. You really have to ask yourself do you really love this man? It seems like your relationships have all turned out badly and you have to ask yourself why. I'm not suggesting that you being abused or anything like that is your fault, but what I am saying is that maybe you should look closer at the type of men that you attract and attract you. Does he fit into the same category in any way as your previous husbands and boyfriends that didn't work out? Is there a common denominator among them all?
Secondly, HE IS MARRIED! Whether you suggested it or not, it seems as though his whole reason for wanting to leave his wife are solely because of you and not because he believes he and his wife aren't meant to be together. His concerns about leaving her are very valid, especially considering your past relationships.
Should he leave his wife? Only if he takes you completely out of the equation and decides he truly doesn't want to continue a relationship with his wife.
Should he get into a relationship with you? Probably not.
Should you get into a relationship with him? No way... You also should be concerned about a man ready to leave his wife of so long at the drop of a hat because he could do the exact same thing to you. And you should definitely be concerned about the way your relationship has started off because chances are, it's going to end the same way.
Need some advice from both men and women?
I have known a guy for almost 6 years and we were just friends because I was dating someone. He has been such a great friend to me. Recently, while drinking he called me and confessed he likes me as more than a friend. I admitted that I also like him. One problem, he has a girlfriend that he has been a year. He tells me things like sometimes he thinks she is a little sketchy towards him and that I have always been truthful. He says he can't just leave a relationship because i became single. Should I wait for him to become single or am I being put on hold as a backup?Need some advice from both men and women?
I would live my life and don't put it on hold. He's not done with his girlfriend yet, no matter how sketchy the relationship is. Don't waste your time unless he is completely done with her and willing to let her go to be with you.
Otherwise it would be drama and games. You don't need that hon.Need some advice from both men and women?
Move on with your life. You are just a back up. Be careful.
u are being put on hold ..... i wouldn't wait around
You're being put on hold. Tell him you're not going to wait and see what he does. That will tell you a lot.
Ur situation sounds like mine - and I'm waiting! My guy is really worth waiting for. Urs is too, I bet.
don't put your life on hold for him. keep living your life. meet new people, go on dates, keep your options open. if he is really serious then he would have stepped up and made the choice to be with you. i think he is just venting out his frustrations with his girlfriend to you but he most likely will stay with her. waiting for him or any guy for that matter will just make you meiserable and then resentful towards him later on. dont wait for him to make up his mind sweetie cause you will end up wasting all your time and energy thinking about him being with you and then in the end, your the one that is left out in the cold. if he wants you badly enough, he won't risk losing the opportunity of you being by his side. Besides, life is too short to wait around for someone that doesn't know what they want. hope this helps!
Natalie
wow tough......well depends do u want any1 else? if no then wait btu if youve meet some1 else then go for them but if u really like this guy then wait for him
you better tell him straight about his decision... he has to make a choice.. its either his present gf or you that he confessed that he loves...
I think your relationship is very deep-rooted and should never end. But it kind of seem as though you are being put on hold. Don't take that. Tell him it is now or never. This is probably where you'd find out if that is how he wants you. As a backup.
Hope you find what you're looking for!!!!!!black heads
I would live my life and don't put it on hold. He's not done with his girlfriend yet, no matter how sketchy the relationship is. Don't waste your time unless he is completely done with her and willing to let her go to be with you.
Otherwise it would be drama and games. You don't need that hon.Need some advice from both men and women?
Move on with your life. You are just a back up. Be careful.
u are being put on hold ..... i wouldn't wait around
You're being put on hold. Tell him you're not going to wait and see what he does. That will tell you a lot.
Ur situation sounds like mine - and I'm waiting! My guy is really worth waiting for. Urs is too, I bet.
don't put your life on hold for him. keep living your life. meet new people, go on dates, keep your options open. if he is really serious then he would have stepped up and made the choice to be with you. i think he is just venting out his frustrations with his girlfriend to you but he most likely will stay with her. waiting for him or any guy for that matter will just make you meiserable and then resentful towards him later on. dont wait for him to make up his mind sweetie cause you will end up wasting all your time and energy thinking about him being with you and then in the end, your the one that is left out in the cold. if he wants you badly enough, he won't risk losing the opportunity of you being by his side. Besides, life is too short to wait around for someone that doesn't know what they want. hope this helps!
Natalie
wow tough......well depends do u want any1 else? if no then wait btu if youve meet some1 else then go for them but if u really like this guy then wait for him
you better tell him straight about his decision... he has to make a choice.. its either his present gf or you that he confessed that he loves...
I think your relationship is very deep-rooted and should never end. But it kind of seem as though you are being put on hold. Don't take that. Tell him it is now or never. This is probably where you'd find out if that is how he wants you. As a backup.
Hope you find what you're looking for!!!!!!
Need advice...any men online?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3months. Its been fun fun fun, no fights, lots of laughs! Friday night we had our first 'fight'; for lack of a better word. He said something that kind of hurt my feelings........I reacted and we got into this back and forth thing where he was saying ';that's not what i meant'; ect and I was being too sensitive.......at the end of the conversation we were both frustrated.......and we hung up/said goodnight. I have not heard from him since. I called and apologized saying that ';the conversation didn't go so well.....a first for us and it wasn't fun and said that i hoped he had a good day. He usually calls every night.........no call! And no call today! is it possible that one small fight like that could cause him hit the bricks? Since we haven't had a fight....I have no idea what he's like with conflict.......but in all the talks we've had, I NEVER would've expected the silent treatment or to be completely blown off like this..............how do I proceed? Not knowing what is up with him is driving me crazy......but at the same time, I'm getting pissed because I don't think I deserve this reaction.............HELP!!Need advice...any men online?
Its either he is to dumb to realize he should respond to your apology or he just doesn't care. Either way your better off without him.Need advice...any men online?
well im a girl.and i and i no thats girls are very sensitive. and i dont no your boyfriend and his actions.but if your stressing about it.just tell him that he really hurrt your feelings. and whatever he says i would break up with him. there are many other fish in the sea probly waiting for you. good luck
well im a girl.and i and i no thats girls are very sensitive. and i dont no your boyfriend and his actions.but if your stressing about it.just tell him that he really hurrt your feelings. and whatever he says i would break up with him. there are many other fish in the sea probly waiting for you. good luck
A little time is good for things like this. Maybe he's just wise enough to know this.
Hmm ... I don't know if you two have already made up by now, but here is my though....
Just as girls get sensitive very easily.... guys get frustrated very easily, also we forget things very easily as well; and believe it or not us guys are very sensitive just like you gals (we just never show it).
We forgive and forget much faster than you gals do, and so for him to take his time on forgiving you is quite interesting... He might have already forgave you but he's now just playing game with you, he's looking for a little more ';Plz... me sorry ... you still like me right? ... I'll make it up to you ... xoxo'; .. etc .. or maybe he's just a big baby.
My advice to you here is don't worry so much about it, and try give him the silence treament back and see how it goes ... now if he cares enough about you, then he'll call you after so many days you don't call him; if he still being a big baby and don't call you, then you should think .... will you be able to handle this kind of behavior everytime you two get into an arguement ? ... and is it worth the headache to deal with an immature guy ... ??
Hope that helps. Good luck.
ease up its not the end of the world, just give him some time to cool down, hes been with you for 3 months dont think any man would end a relationship because of one little fight.
get him a present or seomthing, something you know he will like, like something that hes fave team is affiliated with or soemthing like that.
go to hes house and tell him how much you dont want this fight to escelate, tell him how much you care for him and how much you want things to go back to normal. im sure he will understand and welcome you back with open arms.
Its either he is to dumb to realize he should respond to your apology or he just doesn't care. Either way your better off without him.Need advice...any men online?
well im a girl.and i and i no thats girls are very sensitive. and i dont no your boyfriend and his actions.but if your stressing about it.just tell him that he really hurrt your feelings. and whatever he says i would break up with him. there are many other fish in the sea probly waiting for you. good luck
well im a girl.and i and i no thats girls are very sensitive. and i dont no your boyfriend and his actions.but if your stressing about it.just tell him that he really hurrt your feelings. and whatever he says i would break up with him. there are many other fish in the sea probly waiting for you. good luck
A little time is good for things like this. Maybe he's just wise enough to know this.
Hmm ... I don't know if you two have already made up by now, but here is my though....
Just as girls get sensitive very easily.... guys get frustrated very easily, also we forget things very easily as well; and believe it or not us guys are very sensitive just like you gals (we just never show it).
We forgive and forget much faster than you gals do, and so for him to take his time on forgiving you is quite interesting... He might have already forgave you but he's now just playing game with you, he's looking for a little more ';Plz... me sorry ... you still like me right? ... I'll make it up to you ... xoxo'; .. etc .. or maybe he's just a big baby.
My advice to you here is don't worry so much about it, and try give him the silence treament back and see how it goes ... now if he cares enough about you, then he'll call you after so many days you don't call him; if he still being a big baby and don't call you, then you should think .... will you be able to handle this kind of behavior everytime you two get into an arguement ? ... and is it worth the headache to deal with an immature guy ... ??
Hope that helps. Good luck.
ease up its not the end of the world, just give him some time to cool down, hes been with you for 3 months dont think any man would end a relationship because of one little fight.
get him a present or seomthing, something you know he will like, like something that hes fave team is affiliated with or soemthing like that.
go to hes house and tell him how much you dont want this fight to escelate, tell him how much you care for him and how much you want things to go back to normal. im sure he will understand and welcome you back with open arms.
Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him, but he has said time and time again thatdoesn'ttt have the same intensity of feelings for me because of all the rocky times we have had in the beginning * he cheated on me, i found out and since ididn't trust him i began to nag which kinda made it hard for the first few months* now he is getting ready to move out of town and I really dont want him to go but he says he has to and not only that, he does not want me to go with him. SO here are the series of questions I have for you all
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay
2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??
HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!
any advice would help! thanks!Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear
you are wonting to make him feel something he does not
as hard as it is move on
you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them
after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him
move on love you can do so much better Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?
If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.
You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.
Don't be too serious with this guy. If he doesn't ';chase'; you find some one who will.
We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.
Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.
i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....
First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.
Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that
You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:
You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!
honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.
Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating. You shouldnt have to put up with that. No man is worth it if he cheats.
I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.
No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.
But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .
Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.
Some advice on men please people!?
I have asked a similar question before, but here is some more detail.
I have been married for almost 4 years now. I was only 20 at the time, and he was 25. He has 2 children to 2 prior relationships.
We now have a child together. I believe our marriage won't last as he continues to believe I am the one with all the problems. And that there is nothing wrong with him. (We have a very rocky relationship and he is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive)
I am currently seeing a psychologist as he refuses to get counseling together. Even she says that there really isn't much future for us as he is not willing to change at all.
What do you think, should I keep trying?Some advice on men please people!?
Sorry you're in such a ';rut.'; At least you're seeking help, that's a good thing....there's nothing wrong with picking up advice that way, or even this way (through Yahoo answers, web articles, self-help books, etc). I once took marriage counseling with the belief that my ex wouldn't change, either... but the counsellor said, ';If I didn't think people could change, then I wouldn't be in this business.'; I never forgot that. So, yes.. your hubbie will change- the question is when, and how long are you willing to wait for it? Could be years and years, sweetie... then again, something drastic could suddenly happen to MAKE him change in an instant (like his tongue gets a disease or something)
Verbal and emotional abuse is the only way he knows how to solve problems or express his anger. Sad. It sucks when you're with someone who is ';dull'; in problem-solving because they'd have to be a willing student in order to learn new skills.... which it sounds like he doesn't have any desire. Guys don't like change, either... especially if they have to read or study crap. If you ever do end up solo, be sure to learn all the ';red flags'; in bad dudes prior to getting committed again!! But, nevertheless, ya'll have a kid, so it's worth trying for a little while longer: Here's my advice-
Anytime your relationship starts to turn sour or isn't ';fulfilling'; anymore, you will need to step back to the ';beginning block'; and that is YOU. Take your focus OFF of him and start investing it in YOU. The more you focus and pull on him, the more he will drift and fight- so forget it, it's a waste of energy. Go back to the girl you were when you first met him, better yet...before him. Start filling your whole schedule with fun and exciting things to do to and be so busy that you don't have the brain power to even worry about **** anymore. You have a kid, now... start doing stuff with the baby. Start a new project, ie; garden, salt-water fish tank, a new home based business, hell, even learn how to file your own taxes. Anything that will consume all of your thoughts!!! Be SO busy, that your hubbie would actually have to be ';penciled in'; to your adjenda! LOL! What will happen, is that he will notice that all of your thoughts, energy and worry on him has suddenly disappeared, yet, you're still happy and even enjoying life (which he isn't) and then his curiosity will start to focus on you and he will cut out the verbal bashing and it will change into ';so,what are you and junior doing again this weekend?'; and ';that sounds like fun, can I come along?'; And what happens is that you will end up with the control again, which gives you more bargaining power to try to ease him into actually LISTENING to you, and your concerns about him being verbally ';rough'; with you... and then he will want to begin trying to change. If not, in the meantime you are actually having a GREAT time and not sweating **** as much anymore! LOL! Trust me, ';ol stick in the mud'; will come around and become that Prince again, I promise. Just remember NOT to be rude, revengeful or untrustworthy as you're ';doing your thing,'; OK?
Good luck and have fun!! You deserve it and so does junior!! :DSome advice on men please people!?
No, I do not think you should keep trying. Not unless, you can accept unacceptable behavior. He can only change if he is willing to change. It sounds as if he is not so therefore you need to take care of yourself and your child. I know it is difficult because your lives have been somewhat melded together and you have also become a part of his other children's lives but it is possible. I'm really glad to hear that you are seeing a psychologist. You know, I think us women can come to accept many things from our husbands but any type of abuse and disrespect should never be accepted.
Good luck to you.
it sounds to me like he is the one with the problems. If he is unwilling to seek counseling with you I doubt if really cares all that much about you. Your still young, maybe you should consider getting a divorce. Although I know nothing about your relationship it seems to me that it is headed for big trouble. Are his children with you? Think of your child,please.It is always the children seem to have to suffer. By all means make sure your child's interest are looked after. He/she are your number one concern.
I don't think so, you say he his mentally and emotionally abusive, that cant be much fun for you or for your child. Why have his past relationships failed is this how he has always been and if so why is he likely to change now.
You do not want to stay with someone who is making you unhappy or could make your child think that his kind of behaviour is normal.
Good Luck
xx
well yes ... getting divorced is not so easy especially that you have a baby ... so yes i would recommend to keep trying for a while ... maybe tehre is things that you didnt try yet ... till the moments you feel that you 100% sure you cannot work things out together .. then you can divorce .. but at least you will know that you've done your best to safe your marriage ...
(NOT SHOUTIN) WHY SHOULD U KEEP TRYING WHEN HE IS NOT WILLING 2 MEET U HALFWAY. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH U CAN DO. LET HIM KNOW THAT THE NEXT TIME HE IS VERBALLY/EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE 2 U THAT U AND YOUR BABY ARE OUT THE DOOR. U AND THE BABY DESERVE BETTER. BECAUSE YOUR CHILD WILL GROW UP THINKING THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE BCUZ THIS IS WHAT HE/SHE HAS WITNESSED. IT SEEMS U HAVE DONE ALL U CAN DO, BUT IF HE'S NOT WILLING 2 TRY AND HELP HIMSELF THE BEST THING 4 U MAY BE 2 WALK AWAY
if he doesnt listen to you, then your marriage isnt really a marrigae....its dictatorship...marriages are based on equality and compromise...if he is unwilling to do so...then you better think hard if you can see yourself as his slave for the rest of your long life....because believe me you are going to have one if he doesnt change his attitude!
WELL YOU KNOW YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A MAN WHO'S ALREADY SET IN HIS WAYS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL AND THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED BUT IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE TO LEAVE HIM A WOMAN CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH UNTIL SHE GETS FED UP ( AND YOU WILL KNOW) DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE CERTAINT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ONLY FOR A SEASON AND THERES CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR A LIFE TIME.
GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!! AND IF YOU ARE GOD FEARING THEN PRAY O.K
Frankly, I think you chose the wrong guy. Also, anybody can notice the pattern using the given data; he marries, has a child, marriage ends, he gains custody. wash rinse repeat. I'm thinking this abuse started AFTER the child was born. He sounds like he is deliberaltely, yet cleanly trying to end the marriage, he isnt hitting you but emotional and verbal is enough to go for splitting, him refusing to see a counselor defines either his denial or a deliberate attempt to reconcile the marriage. Trust your instincts, not what he has let you believe about him and judge for yourself. Either way, I don't see much glimmer either, BUT i do see an insolent, jerk who should be .........never mind me.......hope it helps
I have been married for almost 4 years now. I was only 20 at the time, and he was 25. He has 2 children to 2 prior relationships.
We now have a child together. I believe our marriage won't last as he continues to believe I am the one with all the problems. And that there is nothing wrong with him. (We have a very rocky relationship and he is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive)
I am currently seeing a psychologist as he refuses to get counseling together. Even she says that there really isn't much future for us as he is not willing to change at all.
What do you think, should I keep trying?Some advice on men please people!?
Sorry you're in such a ';rut.'; At least you're seeking help, that's a good thing....there's nothing wrong with picking up advice that way, or even this way (through Yahoo answers, web articles, self-help books, etc). I once took marriage counseling with the belief that my ex wouldn't change, either... but the counsellor said, ';If I didn't think people could change, then I wouldn't be in this business.'; I never forgot that. So, yes.. your hubbie will change- the question is when, and how long are you willing to wait for it? Could be years and years, sweetie... then again, something drastic could suddenly happen to MAKE him change in an instant (like his tongue gets a disease or something)
Verbal and emotional abuse is the only way he knows how to solve problems or express his anger. Sad. It sucks when you're with someone who is ';dull'; in problem-solving because they'd have to be a willing student in order to learn new skills.... which it sounds like he doesn't have any desire. Guys don't like change, either... especially if they have to read or study crap. If you ever do end up solo, be sure to learn all the ';red flags'; in bad dudes prior to getting committed again!! But, nevertheless, ya'll have a kid, so it's worth trying for a little while longer: Here's my advice-
Anytime your relationship starts to turn sour or isn't ';fulfilling'; anymore, you will need to step back to the ';beginning block'; and that is YOU. Take your focus OFF of him and start investing it in YOU. The more you focus and pull on him, the more he will drift and fight- so forget it, it's a waste of energy. Go back to the girl you were when you first met him, better yet...before him. Start filling your whole schedule with fun and exciting things to do to and be so busy that you don't have the brain power to even worry about **** anymore. You have a kid, now... start doing stuff with the baby. Start a new project, ie; garden, salt-water fish tank, a new home based business, hell, even learn how to file your own taxes. Anything that will consume all of your thoughts!!! Be SO busy, that your hubbie would actually have to be ';penciled in'; to your adjenda! LOL! What will happen, is that he will notice that all of your thoughts, energy and worry on him has suddenly disappeared, yet, you're still happy and even enjoying life (which he isn't) and then his curiosity will start to focus on you and he will cut out the verbal bashing and it will change into ';so,what are you and junior doing again this weekend?'; and ';that sounds like fun, can I come along?'; And what happens is that you will end up with the control again, which gives you more bargaining power to try to ease him into actually LISTENING to you, and your concerns about him being verbally ';rough'; with you... and then he will want to begin trying to change. If not, in the meantime you are actually having a GREAT time and not sweating **** as much anymore! LOL! Trust me, ';ol stick in the mud'; will come around and become that Prince again, I promise. Just remember NOT to be rude, revengeful or untrustworthy as you're ';doing your thing,'; OK?
Good luck and have fun!! You deserve it and so does junior!! :DSome advice on men please people!?
No, I do not think you should keep trying. Not unless, you can accept unacceptable behavior. He can only change if he is willing to change. It sounds as if he is not so therefore you need to take care of yourself and your child. I know it is difficult because your lives have been somewhat melded together and you have also become a part of his other children's lives but it is possible. I'm really glad to hear that you are seeing a psychologist. You know, I think us women can come to accept many things from our husbands but any type of abuse and disrespect should never be accepted.
Good luck to you.
it sounds to me like he is the one with the problems. If he is unwilling to seek counseling with you I doubt if really cares all that much about you. Your still young, maybe you should consider getting a divorce. Although I know nothing about your relationship it seems to me that it is headed for big trouble. Are his children with you? Think of your child,please.It is always the children seem to have to suffer. By all means make sure your child's interest are looked after. He/she are your number one concern.
I don't think so, you say he his mentally and emotionally abusive, that cant be much fun for you or for your child. Why have his past relationships failed is this how he has always been and if so why is he likely to change now.
You do not want to stay with someone who is making you unhappy or could make your child think that his kind of behaviour is normal.
Good Luck
xx
well yes ... getting divorced is not so easy especially that you have a baby ... so yes i would recommend to keep trying for a while ... maybe tehre is things that you didnt try yet ... till the moments you feel that you 100% sure you cannot work things out together .. then you can divorce .. but at least you will know that you've done your best to safe your marriage ...
(NOT SHOUTIN) WHY SHOULD U KEEP TRYING WHEN HE IS NOT WILLING 2 MEET U HALFWAY. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH U CAN DO. LET HIM KNOW THAT THE NEXT TIME HE IS VERBALLY/EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE 2 U THAT U AND YOUR BABY ARE OUT THE DOOR. U AND THE BABY DESERVE BETTER. BECAUSE YOUR CHILD WILL GROW UP THINKING THIS BEHAVIOR IS ACCEPTABLE BCUZ THIS IS WHAT HE/SHE HAS WITNESSED. IT SEEMS U HAVE DONE ALL U CAN DO, BUT IF HE'S NOT WILLING 2 TRY AND HELP HIMSELF THE BEST THING 4 U MAY BE 2 WALK AWAY
if he doesnt listen to you, then your marriage isnt really a marrigae....its dictatorship...marriages are based on equality and compromise...if he is unwilling to do so...then you better think hard if you can see yourself as his slave for the rest of your long life....because believe me you are going to have one if he doesnt change his attitude!
WELL YOU KNOW YOU REALLY CAN'T CHANGE A MAN WHO'S ALREADY SET IN HIS WAYS. I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND ALL AND THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED BUT IF YOU'RE NOT HAPPY THEN YOU MIGHT HAVE TO LEAVE HIM A WOMAN CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH UNTIL SHE GETS FED UP ( AND YOU WILL KNOW) DID YOU KNOW THAT THERE ARE CERTAINT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE ONLY FOR A SEASON AND THERES CERTAIN PEOPLE FOR A LIFE TIME.
GOOD LUCK SWEETY!!!! AND IF YOU ARE GOD FEARING THEN PRAY O.K
Frankly, I think you chose the wrong guy. Also, anybody can notice the pattern using the given data; he marries, has a child, marriage ends, he gains custody. wash rinse repeat. I'm thinking this abuse started AFTER the child was born. He sounds like he is deliberaltely, yet cleanly trying to end the marriage, he isnt hitting you but emotional and verbal is enough to go for splitting, him refusing to see a counselor defines either his denial or a deliberate attempt to reconcile the marriage. Trust your instincts, not what he has let you believe about him and judge for yourself. Either way, I don't see much glimmer either, BUT i do see an insolent, jerk who should be .........never mind me.......hope it helps
Babymaking sex advice (Men only)?
My wife and I are trying to make a baby. I want to plan something romantic, that she will remember for the rest of her life (you know what I mean) What should I plan? What should I wear to seduce her? My guy friends tell me to show of my abs and chest.Babymaking sex advice (Men only)?
This seems like a question you should be asking the ladies, but awww, sweet.
Your friends are wrong about showing off any part of yourself. Make it all about her. Take her out for dinner and while there tell her what you'd like to do for her (sensually) when you get home.
Drag out dessert to get her all hot-and-bothered.
If you make it in the door after all that eye-contact and sexy talk, then show off your abs and chest as you lay her down on the bed of rose petals you spread out earlier. This she won't forget.
Also, go down on her before penetration. You want her really wet with her natural juices for the sperm to have successful swims.
I think that it is so great that you want to do this for her!
Kudos, my friend.Babymaking sex advice (Men only)?
Just be yourself. If your wife loves you it dosen't matter. If its your wife, you should worry about what to wear,
And why should you have to seduce her, when there is no need, Just be yourself ,thats the best you can do. never try to be what you are not. women prefer it that way.
Just take her out to a dinner, movie, and cook a good meal for her if you can. Or even by her a gift of some sort.. sometimes its best to use common sense to get your way .
Ummmm...look she's seen you naked a million times. She doesn't give a sh*t about your abs. Abs don't make the baby. At this point, she probably doesn't care if the sex is any good. The best thing you can do is get done, turn on the TV, put 2 pillows up under her butt, tell her to lay their for 20 minutes, and get her a coke with a straw.
............ur married....there isnt much to seduce.
You sound weird dude. If a broad wanted to get pregnant, she'd be on all of this before you were. You just tryin to get advice on gettin some *** period. Yeah You need help dude....more than likely from a female, because you sure as as hell dont know them.
Not wearing anything or naked is the sexiest thing a husband can show to a wife. Romancing a wife is not bringing her to a exotic place, buying her expensive gift,etc. It's about bringing her to the right mood with the right words and touch. If you are able to arouse her and make her turn on, that's the most romantic move you had done to her. After which, intimacy or love-making is completely different, it's fulfilling, pleasurable and satisfying. Conception will come naturally provided it's the right time in her cycle. Wishing you both all the best.
If you have a baby, He or She will make sure to remind you what you have done every minute passes on you .
Im not a guy but all i came here to say was GRoss on the internet? Consult a doctor ol' dude.
no offense, but you sound like a nervous guy about to lose his virginity
here's an idea: get naked with her and talk to her - ask her what she likes and do it - and if she doesn't know, experiment - let her be on top, go doggy style, try it sideways - maybe check this out, too: www.cosmomag.com
mindblowing sex has NOTHING to do with attraction or romance- it has EVERYTHING with how it feels - emotionally and physically
also, keep in mind, once you have kids, sex is over the way you know it now (that doesn't mean it stops or gets worse - but its harder to make the time)- so don't be in such a hurry - test the waters out with her now before you have a 3 yr old climbing in your bed at 3 am
If she wants to make a baby, the only thing she is interested in at present is your sperm. Maybe you could paint a loving message on your penis. As I said, she wont care, all she wants is your sperm
This seems like a question you should be asking the ladies, but awww, sweet.
Your friends are wrong about showing off any part of yourself. Make it all about her. Take her out for dinner and while there tell her what you'd like to do for her (sensually) when you get home.
Drag out dessert to get her all hot-and-bothered.
If you make it in the door after all that eye-contact and sexy talk, then show off your abs and chest as you lay her down on the bed of rose petals you spread out earlier. This she won't forget.
Also, go down on her before penetration. You want her really wet with her natural juices for the sperm to have successful swims.
I think that it is so great that you want to do this for her!
Kudos, my friend.Babymaking sex advice (Men only)?
Just be yourself. If your wife loves you it dosen't matter. If its your wife, you should worry about what to wear,
And why should you have to seduce her, when there is no need, Just be yourself ,thats the best you can do. never try to be what you are not. women prefer it that way.
Just take her out to a dinner, movie, and cook a good meal for her if you can. Or even by her a gift of some sort.. sometimes its best to use common sense to get your way .
Ummmm...look she's seen you naked a million times. She doesn't give a sh*t about your abs. Abs don't make the baby. At this point, she probably doesn't care if the sex is any good. The best thing you can do is get done, turn on the TV, put 2 pillows up under her butt, tell her to lay their for 20 minutes, and get her a coke with a straw.
............ur married....there isnt much to seduce.
You sound weird dude. If a broad wanted to get pregnant, she'd be on all of this before you were. You just tryin to get advice on gettin some *** period. Yeah You need help dude....more than likely from a female, because you sure as as hell dont know them.
Not wearing anything or naked is the sexiest thing a husband can show to a wife. Romancing a wife is not bringing her to a exotic place, buying her expensive gift,etc. It's about bringing her to the right mood with the right words and touch. If you are able to arouse her and make her turn on, that's the most romantic move you had done to her. After which, intimacy or love-making is completely different, it's fulfilling, pleasurable and satisfying. Conception will come naturally provided it's the right time in her cycle. Wishing you both all the best.
If you have a baby, He or She will make sure to remind you what you have done every minute passes on you .
Im not a guy but all i came here to say was GRoss on the internet? Consult a doctor ol' dude.
no offense, but you sound like a nervous guy about to lose his virginity
here's an idea: get naked with her and talk to her - ask her what she likes and do it - and if she doesn't know, experiment - let her be on top, go doggy style, try it sideways - maybe check this out, too: www.cosmomag.com
mindblowing sex has NOTHING to do with attraction or romance- it has EVERYTHING with how it feels - emotionally and physically
also, keep in mind, once you have kids, sex is over the way you know it now (that doesn't mean it stops or gets worse - but its harder to make the time)- so don't be in such a hurry - test the waters out with her now before you have a 3 yr old climbing in your bed at 3 am
If she wants to make a baby, the only thing she is interested in at present is your sperm. Maybe you could paint a loving message on your penis. As I said, she wont care, all she wants is your sperm
Need a Mans Advice?
What can I do to really wow a guy and show him that I really love him. I have been with him for 4 months now and I want to do something meaningful and special and completely out of the blue to show him that I appreciate him and never want to be without him. What are guys into now a days? What would be the things not to do??Need a Mans Advice?
hi sweetie i'm a man so your going to get a man's advice. be yourself first of all. he has to accept you as you are. the good, bad, and indifferent. be attentive to him when your at a social setting no matter how insignificant or important the occasion is. don't smother him but at the same time don't ignore him either. men don't like obsessive, controlling women. real men anyway. and be there when you guys make plans to hook up and go out. don't start making excuses and if you do it better be a good one. also your man comes first before your girl friends. if your not there yet forget about it it isn't going to last too long. and last and not least if he gets sick one day and you guys are still together, be there for him. even if he insists that it's ok and you don't need to come see him. this last thing if it happens should definitely convince him that you really love him and want to be with him. ok. good luck. i'm rooting for you.Need a Mans Advice?
Oral sex.
That's what guys really want.
I'm going to get a lot of thumbs down, but its the truth. Sorry if you don't like it, but there it is.
Personally I'd like a surprise meal somewhere coupled with a long walk down a nice spot maybe with a sea view whilst there is a clear and big moon on an acute angle.
I'm a romantic though.
Generally food is the way to our hearts!
well there are all the things with that ';wow'; factor... but ... it is the small spontaneous things that really say ';i love you';. such as a random love note or an out of the blue hug or even letting him know that you are proud of him for something that he has acheived. all those little things that make him realise that you are thinking of him 24/7. anyone can put in a one off effort with ';wow'; but love is a continuous commitment, not something that you turn on once in a while. by all means do the ';wow'; thing but back it up with the small spontaneous and frequent things
MARRY HIM! jk! i dont know
Think about some of things that your man likes to do or eat. What is in to? Maybe a nice home cooked meal ( his favorite) with some music and candles. Dress up really sexy and then for desert.....
I know that I am just a different kind of guy! What in 4 months have you learned that makes you say that you are really in love with him. Can you appreciate him? Sure! Can you really wow him? NOT! What ever you do, PLEASE make it non-sexual. You don't really know this guy at 4 months. Why don't you sit him down, take off his socks and shoes, place his feet in a basin with some warm water, wash them, pat them dry, massage them with some warm oil, kiss each one as you finish(optional), tell him thank you for being there for you for the last four months, hand him the remote and then snuggle up next to him on the couch while he finds a sports channel to watch. Then be quiet while the game is on. Good Luck
One time when I was in college, my roommate's gf dressed up as a sexy maid and made and served him a nice dinner in the dorm room. Needless to say, I excused myself after checking how much time he needed alone with her.
Always thought that was really great what she did though and I never even got the details.
Guys aren't as funny as women when it comes to these things. Just saying ';I love you more than anything in the world'; with a cute smile/cutsey smirk on your face would be enough for me.
I don't think you have to dress up for him, and I definitely don't think you have to do any sexual favors like some other answerer suggested.
But we each probably respond differently to something a girl does. Think about what your guy likes. If he likes a certain sort of movie or a certain activity, plan a date revolving around that.
However, there is some truth to the saying that the 'fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach'. Maybe you could make him a good meal. ;)
Good luck.
hi sweetie i'm a man so your going to get a man's advice. be yourself first of all. he has to accept you as you are. the good, bad, and indifferent. be attentive to him when your at a social setting no matter how insignificant or important the occasion is. don't smother him but at the same time don't ignore him either. men don't like obsessive, controlling women. real men anyway. and be there when you guys make plans to hook up and go out. don't start making excuses and if you do it better be a good one. also your man comes first before your girl friends. if your not there yet forget about it it isn't going to last too long. and last and not least if he gets sick one day and you guys are still together, be there for him. even if he insists that it's ok and you don't need to come see him. this last thing if it happens should definitely convince him that you really love him and want to be with him. ok. good luck. i'm rooting for you.Need a Mans Advice?
Oral sex.
That's what guys really want.
I'm going to get a lot of thumbs down, but its the truth. Sorry if you don't like it, but there it is.
Personally I'd like a surprise meal somewhere coupled with a long walk down a nice spot maybe with a sea view whilst there is a clear and big moon on an acute angle.
I'm a romantic though.
Generally food is the way to our hearts!
well there are all the things with that ';wow'; factor... but ... it is the small spontaneous things that really say ';i love you';. such as a random love note or an out of the blue hug or even letting him know that you are proud of him for something that he has acheived. all those little things that make him realise that you are thinking of him 24/7. anyone can put in a one off effort with ';wow'; but love is a continuous commitment, not something that you turn on once in a while. by all means do the ';wow'; thing but back it up with the small spontaneous and frequent things
MARRY HIM! jk! i dont know
Think about some of things that your man likes to do or eat. What is in to? Maybe a nice home cooked meal ( his favorite) with some music and candles. Dress up really sexy and then for desert.....
I know that I am just a different kind of guy! What in 4 months have you learned that makes you say that you are really in love with him. Can you appreciate him? Sure! Can you really wow him? NOT! What ever you do, PLEASE make it non-sexual. You don't really know this guy at 4 months. Why don't you sit him down, take off his socks and shoes, place his feet in a basin with some warm water, wash them, pat them dry, massage them with some warm oil, kiss each one as you finish(optional), tell him thank you for being there for you for the last four months, hand him the remote and then snuggle up next to him on the couch while he finds a sports channel to watch. Then be quiet while the game is on. Good Luck
One time when I was in college, my roommate's gf dressed up as a sexy maid and made and served him a nice dinner in the dorm room. Needless to say, I excused myself after checking how much time he needed alone with her.
Always thought that was really great what she did though and I never even got the details.
Guys aren't as funny as women when it comes to these things. Just saying ';I love you more than anything in the world'; with a cute smile/cutsey smirk on your face would be enough for me.
I don't think you have to dress up for him, and I definitely don't think you have to do any sexual favors like some other answerer suggested.
But we each probably respond differently to something a girl does. Think about what your guy likes. If he likes a certain sort of movie or a certain activity, plan a date revolving around that.
However, there is some truth to the saying that the 'fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach'. Maybe you could make him a good meal. ;)
Good luck.
Man's advice...?
I fancy this man and i think he fancies me too. How can I figure if he feels the same (without asking)?Man's advice...?
if you do not want to ask him out right. then you are just going to have to rely on the body language.
when two or more people are into one another, you will often find them mirroring your body language.
so to test if he does indeed like you, then when around him make a few deliberate moves, changes of body language positions.
if he moves to copy (mirror you) then a good chance he likes you. but short of asking him, either speech or letter. you will not know for shure.
to be honest, your best bet would be to ask him out socialy and make it clear it is a date not just as friends. if he has morals or guts and he does not want to be with you romantically then he will tell you.
Remember he may be a shy guy and so approaching a woman he fancies is hard for him. so if a woman aproaches him he would be pleasantly shocked especialy if he liked her and wanted to get to know more about her.
good luck.Man's advice...?
Try a clairvoyant
If you go and tell him about it,you may mess things up.Find another way.
Is he male - are you female? If the answer to these two questions is ';yes'; he fancies you!
You should sense it by the body language
Good luck
the only sure way to find out is to ask him im afraid.Having said that you could drop hints about wanting to go out but not easy when your single and see if he goes for it,if he fancies you he will.good luck.x
Spill some coffee on his lap ant attempt to clean it all up. If he smiles he fancies you and if he goes all red and wants to explode in a ball of flames then run a mile.
flirt with him and show some cleavage and he will fancy you.
That's the trick. Men are stupid. They don't take hints too well. If you want to know how he feels, ASK HIM. Be open about it and he will more than likely be open with you about it.black heads
if you do not want to ask him out right. then you are just going to have to rely on the body language.
when two or more people are into one another, you will often find them mirroring your body language.
so to test if he does indeed like you, then when around him make a few deliberate moves, changes of body language positions.
if he moves to copy (mirror you) then a good chance he likes you. but short of asking him, either speech or letter. you will not know for shure.
to be honest, your best bet would be to ask him out socialy and make it clear it is a date not just as friends. if he has morals or guts and he does not want to be with you romantically then he will tell you.
Remember he may be a shy guy and so approaching a woman he fancies is hard for him. so if a woman aproaches him he would be pleasantly shocked especialy if he liked her and wanted to get to know more about her.
good luck.Man's advice...?
Try a clairvoyant
If you go and tell him about it,you may mess things up.Find another way.
Is he male - are you female? If the answer to these two questions is ';yes'; he fancies you!
You should sense it by the body language
Good luck
the only sure way to find out is to ask him im afraid.Having said that you could drop hints about wanting to go out but not easy when your single and see if he goes for it,if he fancies you he will.good luck.x
Spill some coffee on his lap ant attempt to clean it all up. If he smiles he fancies you and if he goes all red and wants to explode in a ball of flames then run a mile.
flirt with him and show some cleavage and he will fancy you.
That's the trick. Men are stupid. They don't take hints too well. If you want to know how he feels, ASK HIM. Be open about it and he will more than likely be open with you about it.
Ladies, or men, I need advice on my period?
Sorry its a little much, but this is pretty serious to me; worrisome.
Yeah so this isn't my first time having a period and all and I'm still irregular after like three years, so my gynecologist put me on some pills to help regulate it. But all of a sudden everything is out of wack I've been on my period since the last week of January and it's almost March it just keeps going its so irritating because its supposed to last like 8 days right, enh no more like 30. And its not getting lighter its getting heavier which is worrying me. I'm going to the doctor in two weeks because thats the closet date they had open and my mom told me to stay patient and wait it out but I want to know if there is anything else I can do. Plus it's really hard during the school day because we only have so long to go to the bathroom and we're not allowed to go during class which is gay but I flood within a few hours and if I cant go to the restroom I bleed through which is embarrassing.
I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to slow it down or do I really just have to wait? And should I send an email to my guidance counselor so she can help or tell my teachers or something?
Any advice is well appreciated.Ladies, or men, I need advice on my period?
If you can't get an appt with your doc, maybe go to a walk in clinic or the hospital. Your period shouldn't last any longer than 10 days tops. And the pill should make your period predictable and lighter - way lighter! For example, mine last 3-4 days and is extremely light. This amount of continuos bleeding could cause anemia, beyond being uncomfortable and tiring. For the time being a tampon and pad will help, but you really should get checked out and your Mom should understand that. If need be, go to the hospital yourself - then they can call your parents down. Maybe that's what they need to understand that this is serious.Ladies, or men, I need advice on my period?
Talk to your guidance counselor asap.
She/He will talk to your teachers right away and then you won't have to worry so much.
You could try wearing a tampon and a pad as the same time is you wear pads to make sure if you leak that you are still covered. One of my friends wore multiple pads at the same time though I'm not sure if that helped.
Try wearing tampons and a pad. Wear thick clothes or multiple layers. Ex: Leggings under jeans. Wear as much as you can so you don't leak. I don't know many ways to stop the bleeding. Maybe try alot of water. That helps bloating that's all i know. Try that.
i would get myself off to hospital no period last that long. you must be going thru hell. i don't want to be alarmist but it does not seem right i would tell your teacher must be uncomfortable sitting in class and you need the bathroom.
Take birth control. Really. No joke. It helps keep the cycle (period. some people don't know what I'm talking about) before it comes and I think it helps with the cramps. idk 4 sure. ask your mom about it. Good luck!
That sux, yeah def tell your guidance counselor, so she'l tel your teachers to let you go to the toilet.
wear tampons and a pad. that will help the bleeding through, but you just have to wait untill you see your obgyn
Yeah so this isn't my first time having a period and all and I'm still irregular after like three years, so my gynecologist put me on some pills to help regulate it. But all of a sudden everything is out of wack I've been on my period since the last week of January and it's almost March it just keeps going its so irritating because its supposed to last like 8 days right, enh no more like 30. And its not getting lighter its getting heavier which is worrying me. I'm going to the doctor in two weeks because thats the closet date they had open and my mom told me to stay patient and wait it out but I want to know if there is anything else I can do. Plus it's really hard during the school day because we only have so long to go to the bathroom and we're not allowed to go during class which is gay but I flood within a few hours and if I cant go to the restroom I bleed through which is embarrassing.
I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to slow it down or do I really just have to wait? And should I send an email to my guidance counselor so she can help or tell my teachers or something?
Any advice is well appreciated.Ladies, or men, I need advice on my period?
If you can't get an appt with your doc, maybe go to a walk in clinic or the hospital. Your period shouldn't last any longer than 10 days tops. And the pill should make your period predictable and lighter - way lighter! For example, mine last 3-4 days and is extremely light. This amount of continuos bleeding could cause anemia, beyond being uncomfortable and tiring. For the time being a tampon and pad will help, but you really should get checked out and your Mom should understand that. If need be, go to the hospital yourself - then they can call your parents down. Maybe that's what they need to understand that this is serious.Ladies, or men, I need advice on my period?
Talk to your guidance counselor asap.
She/He will talk to your teachers right away and then you won't have to worry so much.
You could try wearing a tampon and a pad as the same time is you wear pads to make sure if you leak that you are still covered. One of my friends wore multiple pads at the same time though I'm not sure if that helped.
Try wearing tampons and a pad. Wear thick clothes or multiple layers. Ex: Leggings under jeans. Wear as much as you can so you don't leak. I don't know many ways to stop the bleeding. Maybe try alot of water. That helps bloating that's all i know. Try that.
i would get myself off to hospital no period last that long. you must be going thru hell. i don't want to be alarmist but it does not seem right i would tell your teacher must be uncomfortable sitting in class and you need the bathroom.
Take birth control. Really. No joke. It helps keep the cycle (period. some people don't know what I'm talking about) before it comes and I think it helps with the cramps. idk 4 sure. ask your mom about it. Good luck!
That sux, yeah def tell your guidance counselor, so she'l tel your teachers to let you go to the toilet.
wear tampons and a pad. that will help the bleeding through, but you just have to wait untill you see your obgyn
Need advice from leo men?
i'm an aries (so i'm compatible with you)
i'm not being arrogant or anything, but i'm really attractive
i'm just wondering what kind of things I should say/do to please the leo men.
what do you guys like in particular?
my bf likes it when i pat his back and compliment him, but what else can i do?Need advice from leo men?
Leo men like it when you let them take control.
i'm not being arrogant or anything, but i'm really attractive
i'm just wondering what kind of things I should say/do to please the leo men.
what do you guys like in particular?
my bf likes it when i pat his back and compliment him, but what else can i do?Need advice from leo men?
Leo men like it when you let them take control.
Men that go to ';titty'; bars....what type of men are these? advice please!?
Well there is this guy i have been talking to and i juss recently find out he goes to ';titty'; bars as in strip clubs and im not sure of what to think of it. if its normal or do men just go there to find a quick 1 night stand? im a little confused and i like him alot but. i don`t want to put myself in a bad situation him using me or a hit and quit. Is there anything i can really tell from a guy that goes to places like that? It's not on a regular as far as i know. Im curious to know what men get of it or what they really go for. or what type of men go. thanks!
serious answers only please!Men that go to ';titty'; bars....what type of men are these? advice please!?
there is no sex there, but the illusion of it is.Men that go to ';titty'; bars....what type of men are these? advice please!?
One night stand? No one but rock stars and NBA players ever get anywhere with strippers. Every guy knows they only like you 'til the singles run out. The guy you're talking about is just a guy who likes to see women naked and is not the kind of creep who peeks in windows :). The women play along, take the money, and nothing happens. There are large men with short tempers who make sure that nothing happens. It's actually pretty annoying how little happens.
Low-Lifes go to ';titty-bars'; where women get nude or nearly nude and dance around. Last time I went to one was in 2003, I was bored after 1 minute and left. No such thing as a one night stand at a titty-bar.
What goes on, nude or nearly nude women dance around.
They generally don't serve alcohol
The women there don't date the ';clientele';
REALLY flithy prosititues hang-out side.
If you don't want a lap dance and say ';No thank you'; they will get PISSED.
I hate those type of places.
This man is like a hunter who doesn't mind illegally clubbing baby seals for sport- think about it.
Run from that guy. Guys who do this like to publicly humiliate women, and have a low opinion of us. Literally, these are the men who 'take advantage' of women.
The women who work there almost always have drug issues and have been sexually abused. Some if not all are prostitutes.
most of my guy friends that go to titty bars say its just for fun and nothing happens...if you really like this guy then you need to talk to him...if he really likes you back then he will tell you why he goes to titty bars..or maybe he will stop if you tell him that you are uncomfortable with him going..if not then hes not worth your time.
I go to them.. and most of the time, they just like to watch. It might change a bit if he has someone who he can get it from on a regular basis, and doesnt have to pay for it.
But hes single.. why not. Although alot of guys I know go just to watch, few of them will actually SLEEP with a stripper. Maybe a lap dance, but strippers pretty much have a whore image, so.. who wants to be with someone dirty like that?
My friends and I go there too once in a while to have a change in scenery from the usual spots we go to. It's nothing wrong with it, sometimes my friends girlfriends tag along to come with us, its all in a line of fun and a good time.
alot of singles go there and they are bored. its not really something you shoud want the boyfriend to do but hopefully thi sis just a means to end. but one never knows i would ask him but be careful if hes into this then i would drop him period.
Usually drunk men that just got paid. What's the big deal it's just entertainment. I'm gay and used to go with friends to titty bars all the time. Don't worry it didn't turn me straight I'm still gay, lol.
NORMAL GUYS go to titty bars. Some guys like to go there to get aroused by something unfamiliar(new Girls unlike their wives, girlfriends, repeat porn). its an excitement and their is nothing wrong with it..
Desperate guys, losers, adulters, cheaters, guys trying hide the fact, they would rather watch a guy dance.
It's just good entertainment.
perverts
Scum bags go there.
men don't go 2 strip bars 2 hook-up, It's just eye candy !
pigs!disrespectful , ugly cuz if they were good lookn they would have a girlfriend not out at a bar?
horny men go there!
strip for him and he won't have to go
what do you mean??
been in them before, not my bag..most men that go in them places are horny loser's..
These are creepy guys who want nothing but to stare at womens bodys
serious answers only please!Men that go to ';titty'; bars....what type of men are these? advice please!?
there is no sex there, but the illusion of it is.Men that go to ';titty'; bars....what type of men are these? advice please!?
One night stand? No one but rock stars and NBA players ever get anywhere with strippers. Every guy knows they only like you 'til the singles run out. The guy you're talking about is just a guy who likes to see women naked and is not the kind of creep who peeks in windows :). The women play along, take the money, and nothing happens. There are large men with short tempers who make sure that nothing happens. It's actually pretty annoying how little happens.
Low-Lifes go to ';titty-bars'; where women get nude or nearly nude and dance around. Last time I went to one was in 2003, I was bored after 1 minute and left. No such thing as a one night stand at a titty-bar.
What goes on, nude or nearly nude women dance around.
They generally don't serve alcohol
The women there don't date the ';clientele';
REALLY flithy prosititues hang-out side.
If you don't want a lap dance and say ';No thank you'; they will get PISSED.
I hate those type of places.
This man is like a hunter who doesn't mind illegally clubbing baby seals for sport- think about it.
Run from that guy. Guys who do this like to publicly humiliate women, and have a low opinion of us. Literally, these are the men who 'take advantage' of women.
The women who work there almost always have drug issues and have been sexually abused. Some if not all are prostitutes.
most of my guy friends that go to titty bars say its just for fun and nothing happens...if you really like this guy then you need to talk to him...if he really likes you back then he will tell you why he goes to titty bars..or maybe he will stop if you tell him that you are uncomfortable with him going..if not then hes not worth your time.
I go to them.. and most of the time, they just like to watch. It might change a bit if he has someone who he can get it from on a regular basis, and doesnt have to pay for it.
But hes single.. why not. Although alot of guys I know go just to watch, few of them will actually SLEEP with a stripper. Maybe a lap dance, but strippers pretty much have a whore image, so.. who wants to be with someone dirty like that?
My friends and I go there too once in a while to have a change in scenery from the usual spots we go to. It's nothing wrong with it, sometimes my friends girlfriends tag along to come with us, its all in a line of fun and a good time.
alot of singles go there and they are bored. its not really something you shoud want the boyfriend to do but hopefully thi sis just a means to end. but one never knows i would ask him but be careful if hes into this then i would drop him period.
Usually drunk men that just got paid. What's the big deal it's just entertainment. I'm gay and used to go with friends to titty bars all the time. Don't worry it didn't turn me straight I'm still gay, lol.
NORMAL GUYS go to titty bars. Some guys like to go there to get aroused by something unfamiliar(new Girls unlike their wives, girlfriends, repeat porn). its an excitement and their is nothing wrong with it..
Desperate guys, losers, adulters, cheaters, guys trying hide the fact, they would rather watch a guy dance.
It's just good entertainment.
perverts
Scum bags go there.
men don't go 2 strip bars 2 hook-up, It's just eye candy !
pigs!disrespectful , ugly cuz if they were good lookn they would have a girlfriend not out at a bar?
horny men go there!
strip for him and he won't have to go
what do you mean??
been in them before, not my bag..most men that go in them places are horny loser's..
These are creepy guys who want nothing but to stare at womens bodys
Calling all MEN!!!! a little advice please?
So, theres this 86 firebird that my mother and father are looking at getting me for my first car.. is it ok for a GIRL to drive one of those? lol... what would you men say to seeing a girl driving an 86 firebird? help... lol thanks..is it hot? or not? lol
just tell me what you would think of a girl driving a 86 firebird..Calling all MEN!!!! a little advice please?
If it still looks good, its a very nice car. I had an 86 Chevy Camaro and it is a car that I will never forget--had alot of good memories with that car....Back then I saw quite a few women driving sports cars like these and I don't have any problem with it. As long as it's a car that you like, then you enjoy it.....Calling all MEN!!!! a little advice please?
Spoiled brat...
haha. you redneck.
seriously though, most guys would be fine with it.
very hot and i pretty good sized back seat we guys love that yes get it
just tell me what you would think of a girl driving a 86 firebird..Calling all MEN!!!! a little advice please?
If it still looks good, its a very nice car. I had an 86 Chevy Camaro and it is a car that I will never forget--had alot of good memories with that car....Back then I saw quite a few women driving sports cars like these and I don't have any problem with it. As long as it's a car that you like, then you enjoy it.....Calling all MEN!!!! a little advice please?
Spoiled brat...
haha. you redneck.
seriously though, most guys would be fine with it.
very hot and i pretty good sized back seat we guys love that yes get it
Men i need a piese of advice?
do men shave their legs?Men i need a piese of advice?
I do as I find it less irritating with some of the clothing I wear. Shaving your legs has nothing to do with being gay. Its just a matter of preference. Some people, like myself, do not like body hair. Some find body hair un-hygenic. If men could get off thier masculinity kick they might learn something. Try shaving the arm pits. You'll find you will probably sweat less. Less hair there means less heat retention. Think about it! Your face gets less cold when you have a beard. Thats because the hair acts as insulation and traps the heat. But back to the question, yes they do. And I personally know many guys that do.Men i need a piese of advice?
only if they are gay or bodybuilders
forget that. i am straighter than a ruler and i ';trim'; my legs because i dont wanna look like no warewolf. i dont shave though. i just trim a little off so it does not get thick.
i don't but i am American ind i have no chest , arm or leg i get ask all the time if i do but i don't
!NOT SUPPOSE TO!
Not on purpose. Unless a bodybuilder or pro wrestler.
hell no thats for females not guys!
I don't, and I don't think that most do.
Normal men do not.
Some should really do it !!!
i havent seen it to much just in muscle mags the body builder shaves most to all hair legs included.
I do as I find it less irritating with some of the clothing I wear. Shaving your legs has nothing to do with being gay. Its just a matter of preference. Some people, like myself, do not like body hair. Some find body hair un-hygenic. If men could get off thier masculinity kick they might learn something. Try shaving the arm pits. You'll find you will probably sweat less. Less hair there means less heat retention. Think about it! Your face gets less cold when you have a beard. Thats because the hair acts as insulation and traps the heat. But back to the question, yes they do. And I personally know many guys that do.Men i need a piese of advice?
only if they are gay or bodybuilders
forget that. i am straighter than a ruler and i ';trim'; my legs because i dont wanna look like no warewolf. i dont shave though. i just trim a little off so it does not get thick.
i don't but i am American ind i have no chest , arm or leg i get ask all the time if i do but i don't
!NOT SUPPOSE TO!
Not on purpose. Unless a bodybuilder or pro wrestler.
hell no thats for females not guys!
I don't, and I don't think that most do.
Normal men do not.
Some should really do it !!!
i havent seen it to much just in muscle mags the body builder shaves most to all hair legs included.
I need men and womens advice on the army...?
I'm an 18 year old female wanting to join the army. My mom is really worried of course because she knows there would be a great chance of me going to Iraq or over in that area and she said compared to the other branches the army is the least respected.
If any females reading this have been in the army please tell me what you did in the army and if you had any close calls while in Iraq or over in that area.
And males, please tell me if there were any females you worked with in the army and what they did and how they liked it.
Thanks, I'm trying to debate whether to do it or not and it's a big decision so I want to make sure I'm making the correct one.I need men and womens advice on the army...?
Consider the source of your information....does your mom have any military experience?
I worked in aviation. I have deployed one time. A few incidents did occur. Close calls with my own life, none. A few sniper rounds shot will on guard duty. My platoon sergeant was killed on a convoy. A couple of pilots died in accidents.
I was the squad leader over 10 male soldiers. I earned their respect through hard work and not pulling the I'm female card. I never asked them to do anything I would not do myself. That included burning our crap.
Do some research and look at all your options. Just keep in mind if you are worried you might die over there you can just has easily die in an accident over here.
EDIT: Not anyone can get into the Army give me a break. You are 18 be an adult.
Just curious why do you want to join? Let me guess college money?I need men and womens advice on the army...?
According to your mother she says the Army is less respected than the other branches. Where did she get her information? Is she an Army Veteran? Does she work with people who are veterans of all services and they have given her verifiable evidence of this? You're 18 and legally an adult. You can join which ever branch of the military you so desire without your mothers consent.
I worked with many females during my time in the Army, enlisted and officer both and from all branches. I remember them being hard working and efficient at what they did. There were times that they start b!tchin' about something but hell, who doesn't. And contrary to popular belief, all the women in the military are not fat ugly dykes.
4% of the women ever get to experience combat and/or die. And what the heck? ';Least respected';. That's Bull ****
From 1965 - 1973 9,000,000 men and women served in uniform.
2,600,000 set foot in Viet Nam.
1,700,000 were drafted.
650,000 of them went to Viet Nam
43,000 went to the Marines
There are currently close to 60,000 names on The Wall. that is 2.3% of those that set foot there.
About 1,500,000 have deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan.
The list of KIA is around 4700. That is .31% as in 1/3 of 1 %.
That's for Mom!
I will leave the rest to some young ladies that have been there.
SSG US Army 73-82
Check out Army's website and see what kind of careers are available to women.
As far as what it's like in a war zone - just b/c women aren't allowed in ';combat'; doesn't mean you wont see combat or have close calls. I'm a Navy LT who served 15months in Iraq and worked side by side w/ my Army brothers and sisters in arms. You could be driving trucks or find yourself on daily convoys. Anytime you go outside the wire and come back is considered a brush with death b/c you never know what could have happened. Not to mention many of the outposts and bases, where you could be located, are being attacked with either indirect fire (IDF) or insurgents trying to overrun the outpost. I had several close calls while there, but I came back in one piece and I would go back again (Iraq or Afghanistan) in a heartbeat. It's the most rewarding experience I've had while in the military. It takes a special type of person to willingly place themselves in harms way, but it's such an honor to serve your country.
what i know that closest a woman gets to combat is MP any other MOS you should be fine
All Military services are respected. The Army is respected and the Marines as well. I do not know why your mother can be so judgmental. Lets hope once you make your choice of service, she will support you in your decision rather than criticize. Sounds to me like she has something against the Military, not just worried that you may join.
She enjoys her freedom because of brave people who joined the Military and did what they were trained to do and the sacrifices they and their families made.
Take care and good luck
This is a legitimate concern, I worked in 2/75 Ranger Battalion up in FT. Lewis Washington, I've been deployed twice.
Now, because of the unit I was in my advice should be taken with a grain of salt, but my experience is THIS.
You have a choice of the job you will do in the Army, THEREFOR, you can choose a job that is not directly related to combat as my job was.
You could work in supply, or you could be a medic as my sister is, but BEWARE, you could end up being a medic for a Military Police unit that does do regular patrols through Afghanistan.
Also just because you are deployed does not mean you are in any danger, these bases such as Bagrahm Air Field Afghanistan have been established for many years, attacks on such places are rare but do occur once in a blue moon. Also these places have the amenities of home, and yes I am serious, Pizza Huts and Burger Kings.
Again, this is really related to what you decide to do in the military, if you work in supply then NO, you should not be in any danger, if you work as a Cook again NO you should not be in any danger, but if you decide to become a Medic, you could possibly be assigned to a unit that does do patrols through the cities of Afghanistan.
Keep asking and think about the job you decide to do. Good luck to you.
I served with many stellar women in the Army. Granted, there were a few duds, too, but that can be said of the men I served with as well.
As an MP, I found that most of the women I served with were as dedicated as anyone else I served with, and they performed admirably.
Two of my commanders were female as well, and I had a lot of respect for them.
As far as deployment goes, you will likely get deployed overseas, and also to the Middle East.black heads
If any females reading this have been in the army please tell me what you did in the army and if you had any close calls while in Iraq or over in that area.
And males, please tell me if there were any females you worked with in the army and what they did and how they liked it.
Thanks, I'm trying to debate whether to do it or not and it's a big decision so I want to make sure I'm making the correct one.I need men and womens advice on the army...?
Consider the source of your information....does your mom have any military experience?
I worked in aviation. I have deployed one time. A few incidents did occur. Close calls with my own life, none. A few sniper rounds shot will on guard duty. My platoon sergeant was killed on a convoy. A couple of pilots died in accidents.
I was the squad leader over 10 male soldiers. I earned their respect through hard work and not pulling the I'm female card. I never asked them to do anything I would not do myself. That included burning our crap.
Do some research and look at all your options. Just keep in mind if you are worried you might die over there you can just has easily die in an accident over here.
EDIT: Not anyone can get into the Army give me a break. You are 18 be an adult.
Just curious why do you want to join? Let me guess college money?I need men and womens advice on the army...?
According to your mother she says the Army is less respected than the other branches. Where did she get her information? Is she an Army Veteran? Does she work with people who are veterans of all services and they have given her verifiable evidence of this? You're 18 and legally an adult. You can join which ever branch of the military you so desire without your mothers consent.
I worked with many females during my time in the Army, enlisted and officer both and from all branches. I remember them being hard working and efficient at what they did. There were times that they start b!tchin' about something but hell, who doesn't. And contrary to popular belief, all the women in the military are not fat ugly dykes.
4% of the women ever get to experience combat and/or die. And what the heck? ';Least respected';. That's Bull ****
From 1965 - 1973 9,000,000 men and women served in uniform.
2,600,000 set foot in Viet Nam.
1,700,000 were drafted.
650,000 of them went to Viet Nam
43,000 went to the Marines
There are currently close to 60,000 names on The Wall. that is 2.3% of those that set foot there.
About 1,500,000 have deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan.
The list of KIA is around 4700. That is .31% as in 1/3 of 1 %.
That's for Mom!
I will leave the rest to some young ladies that have been there.
SSG US Army 73-82
Check out Army's website and see what kind of careers are available to women.
As far as what it's like in a war zone - just b/c women aren't allowed in ';combat'; doesn't mean you wont see combat or have close calls. I'm a Navy LT who served 15months in Iraq and worked side by side w/ my Army brothers and sisters in arms. You could be driving trucks or find yourself on daily convoys. Anytime you go outside the wire and come back is considered a brush with death b/c you never know what could have happened. Not to mention many of the outposts and bases, where you could be located, are being attacked with either indirect fire (IDF) or insurgents trying to overrun the outpost. I had several close calls while there, but I came back in one piece and I would go back again (Iraq or Afghanistan) in a heartbeat. It's the most rewarding experience I've had while in the military. It takes a special type of person to willingly place themselves in harms way, but it's such an honor to serve your country.
what i know that closest a woman gets to combat is MP any other MOS you should be fine
All Military services are respected. The Army is respected and the Marines as well. I do not know why your mother can be so judgmental. Lets hope once you make your choice of service, she will support you in your decision rather than criticize. Sounds to me like she has something against the Military, not just worried that you may join.
She enjoys her freedom because of brave people who joined the Military and did what they were trained to do and the sacrifices they and their families made.
Take care and good luck
This is a legitimate concern, I worked in 2/75 Ranger Battalion up in FT. Lewis Washington, I've been deployed twice.
Now, because of the unit I was in my advice should be taken with a grain of salt, but my experience is THIS.
You have a choice of the job you will do in the Army, THEREFOR, you can choose a job that is not directly related to combat as my job was.
You could work in supply, or you could be a medic as my sister is, but BEWARE, you could end up being a medic for a Military Police unit that does do regular patrols through Afghanistan.
Also just because you are deployed does not mean you are in any danger, these bases such as Bagrahm Air Field Afghanistan have been established for many years, attacks on such places are rare but do occur once in a blue moon. Also these places have the amenities of home, and yes I am serious, Pizza Huts and Burger Kings.
Again, this is really related to what you decide to do in the military, if you work in supply then NO, you should not be in any danger, if you work as a Cook again NO you should not be in any danger, but if you decide to become a Medic, you could possibly be assigned to a unit that does do patrols through the cities of Afghanistan.
Keep asking and think about the job you decide to do. Good luck to you.
I served with many stellar women in the Army. Granted, there were a few duds, too, but that can be said of the men I served with as well.
As an MP, I found that most of the women I served with were as dedicated as anyone else I served with, and they performed admirably.
Two of my commanders were female as well, and I had a lot of respect for them.
As far as deployment goes, you will likely get deployed overseas, and also to the Middle East.
Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
Today's society has very relaxed rules as it pertains to the what is proper etiquette between men and women, and because of it infidelity, divorce, and STDs are at an all time high. It is my view that once men and women are in committed relationships or married they need to be a damper on seeking advice, insight, and conversation from members of the opposite sex. Far too often ';male'; and ';female'; friends have ulterior motives and hidden agendas when dishing out relationship advice. After all is said and done when one decides upon a companion of the opposite sex it should be a person intelligent enough to resolve the issues that will arise or at least sensible enough to seek out a solution and bring it back home.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
Seeking advice from and confiding in a person of the opposite sex is the first step to an affair. My husband and I have an agreement that we will not discuss each other and our marriage with the opposite sex. It is great, though, to have these discussions with members of the same sex who have stable, strong marriages. Their advice can be invaluable.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
I disagree. The happiest, most resilient people are the ones with more strong relationships, with both genders. Research confirms this over and over again. Different people offer different perspectives and other sources of support. I don't like stereotyping, but often a ';female perspective'; or ';male perspective'; can be helpful. Why limit your friendships to half the people you might otherwise connect with in some fashion?
If your spouse is committed and you can trust him/her, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, then your relationship is on rocky ground regardless. As for ';friends'; with ulterior motives, these aren't true friends and you and your spouse will figure that out quickly enough. You should be sharing information enough to figure that out.
Agreed.
Me and my husband do not allow anyone into our union. Physically, spiritually or otherwise.
It is not okay only because this has so much potential for turning into a relationship. I have seen this happen.
you are right but i suppose that us humans just need to feel validated. but most trouble begins when we bring others into our relationship
Its not always alterior motives or secret agendas, its more the fact that seeking comfort from the opposite sex will lead you more into their arms because they understand and you can cry on their shoulder, and further away from your spouse. My husband and I both agree not to go to the opposite sex for advice or comfort. There are exceptions of course... siblings and cousins. But in general, it's never a good idea and usually leads to disaster
Seeking advice from and confiding in a person of the opposite sex is the first step to an affair. My husband and I have an agreement that we will not discuss each other and our marriage with the opposite sex. It is great, though, to have these discussions with members of the same sex who have stable, strong marriages. Their advice can be invaluable.Is it prudent for women/men to seek advice, insight, and conversation from other men when they are married?
I disagree. The happiest, most resilient people are the ones with more strong relationships, with both genders. Research confirms this over and over again. Different people offer different perspectives and other sources of support. I don't like stereotyping, but often a ';female perspective'; or ';male perspective'; can be helpful. Why limit your friendships to half the people you might otherwise connect with in some fashion?
If your spouse is committed and you can trust him/her, then you have nothing to worry about. If not, then your relationship is on rocky ground regardless. As for ';friends'; with ulterior motives, these aren't true friends and you and your spouse will figure that out quickly enough. You should be sharing information enough to figure that out.
Agreed.
Me and my husband do not allow anyone into our union. Physically, spiritually or otherwise.
It is not okay only because this has so much potential for turning into a relationship. I have seen this happen.
you are right but i suppose that us humans just need to feel validated. but most trouble begins when we bring others into our relationship
Its not always alterior motives or secret agendas, its more the fact that seeking comfort from the opposite sex will lead you more into their arms because they understand and you can cry on their shoulder, and further away from your spouse. My husband and I both agree not to go to the opposite sex for advice or comfort. There are exceptions of course... siblings and cousins. But in general, it's never a good idea and usually leads to disaster
I want to have sex with other men, but i love my husband..any advice?
I love my hubby and been with him for 10 yrs now, but i recently started having these temptations...ugh..i get so confused..I want to have sex with other men, but i love my husband..any advice?
he is probably too good for youI want to have sex with other men, but i love my husband..any advice?
If you still really loved him then you would not have any questions. You need to take a long hard look at your marriage. You can't Truly love your husband and want to have sex with other men. In my first marriage, yes I wanted to have sex with other men, I have now been with my current husband for 14 years and I can't even imagine thinking about being with someone other than him. The thought is just disgusting to me.
What's to be confused about? EVERYONE feels tempted at some time or another - sometimes a lot. But it is up to the individual to say no to the temptation.
I read an article about cheating men that said the difference between men and women is that men actually continue to follow the temptation until they have decided to cheat. Women turn away as soon as they realize there is temptation there. That's not what you are doing but you need to learn to do it.
If you were on a strict diet and had a sugar habit, would you enjoy working in a bakery? Yeah! Would it be good for your health? No. Would you be smart to stay out of bakeries if you had that weakness? Yeah.
Its a shame that so many would slam a person for having basic human feelings and urges.The key here is to get back to the passion stage with your husband,ya know,those feelings you had ten years ago for him.Its easy to fall into a rut,but its possible to rekindle that fire.Cheating will only empty your soul,Im telling you from experience that after the initial rush a crushing feeling of guilt will consume you for making such a mess.Do what you have to if you love this man,date night,vacation,church,whatever it takes.If I had been paying attention to my reckless behavior I would have been able to hang on to my wife and family.You don't want to be where I was,trust me.Work hard at keeping things interesting.
Every woman has had those feelings at one time or another it is called lust. You need to ask yourself to think about how you feel about your husband and why you are thinking about other men. Are things in the bedroom boring? Spice it up, make a date night and even a sex night. Leave him little sexy notes about what you want him to do, get a game, make out like teenagers!
I would first think about why you are having these urges. Is there something going on in your life that is causing you to be dissatisfied with him. If the answer is no, then you can go ahead and explore what these urges consist of. Then you want to talk to him. Have an open dialogue about it and be HONEST! Then only with his permission can you pursue an open marriage. Don't forget he may want the same thing. You cannot get mad either.
That's pretty typical. Join the club - it's a fairly large one. I will advise you not to cheat - the emotional trauma an affair causes ripples everywhere and isn't worth it. For me, I find alternate outlets - which I don't want to describe here. There are ways of using self-expression and creativity to draw out these desires and play with them in a safe way.
What is with you? You are going to throw away 10 years of your marriage over your selfishness. You are not being fair to your husband ad you should be kicked in the butt. All marriages go through tough times. Take your fantasies and let your husband fulfill them. Think of your family and what your juvenile ideations would do to them. What an example for children you would give???? Grow up.
IS 2009 THE MIGHTY YEAR OF WIVES WHO WANT TO BETRAY THEIR HUSBANDS LOL? DONT LISTEN TO Uaskedianswerd's answer she is a lady who brags about cheating on her husband without him knowing it and then brings advice on your question that defines the word hypocrisy
if you loved your husband you would not cheat think about it! if you love your husband start doing fun things with him! bring the spark back in your marriage! cheating is for unhappy couples that are not getting what they need at home! so think cause you will mess up your marriage!
There is nothing confusing about it. If you love your husband you can have any temptation you want as long as you don't act on it. To do so is cruel and selfish. End of story, bottom line.
This is a normal and healthy demand. The best would be that if you could discuss it with your husband. If, not then you have to do it in a secret way.
Just think about them while you have sex with your husband. Maybe it will be enough. Don't cheat on someone you have loved for that long. You will end up regretting it.
Get a divorce first, then sleep with anyone you want. You should at least give him that much. It will hurt him but not as bad as finding out you slept with someone then get a divorce. Not good if you really love him.
Your a terrible wife. You made a commitment. Even thinking it is adultry. Open the bible
Well, you could ask him how he feels about your idea. But before you do that, perhaps consider how YOU would feel if he came to you with that idea. Does that help your confusion any?
You are a pathetic excuse for a human. Get a divorce so that your husband can find a woman that deserves him.
obviously you dont love him if you want to have sex with other men. just think if your husband wanted to have sex with other women and think how bad that would hurt you.
You need to talk to someone about your feelings. You are obviously not getting something you need from your marriage.
maybe you just need to spice up your sex life with your husband
www.avaloninbloom.com
Dont cheat! Dont be another divorce statistic.
the talk to him about swinging... let him enjoy the roses too, not just the thorns
sounds like your uncommited to the commitment you made.....i feel bad for your husband.
Go buy a vibrator and stop giving the rest of us bad names!
Your such a dumb ***.
Go %26amp; Njoy life...it will nevr *** agn!
Can't have it both ways. How can you love him and still want to do that?
ok...go tell him that
he is probably too good for youI want to have sex with other men, but i love my husband..any advice?
If you still really loved him then you would not have any questions. You need to take a long hard look at your marriage. You can't Truly love your husband and want to have sex with other men. In my first marriage, yes I wanted to have sex with other men, I have now been with my current husband for 14 years and I can't even imagine thinking about being with someone other than him. The thought is just disgusting to me.
What's to be confused about? EVERYONE feels tempted at some time or another - sometimes a lot. But it is up to the individual to say no to the temptation.
I read an article about cheating men that said the difference between men and women is that men actually continue to follow the temptation until they have decided to cheat. Women turn away as soon as they realize there is temptation there. That's not what you are doing but you need to learn to do it.
If you were on a strict diet and had a sugar habit, would you enjoy working in a bakery? Yeah! Would it be good for your health? No. Would you be smart to stay out of bakeries if you had that weakness? Yeah.
Its a shame that so many would slam a person for having basic human feelings and urges.The key here is to get back to the passion stage with your husband,ya know,those feelings you had ten years ago for him.Its easy to fall into a rut,but its possible to rekindle that fire.Cheating will only empty your soul,Im telling you from experience that after the initial rush a crushing feeling of guilt will consume you for making such a mess.Do what you have to if you love this man,date night,vacation,church,whatever it takes.If I had been paying attention to my reckless behavior I would have been able to hang on to my wife and family.You don't want to be where I was,trust me.Work hard at keeping things interesting.
Every woman has had those feelings at one time or another it is called lust. You need to ask yourself to think about how you feel about your husband and why you are thinking about other men. Are things in the bedroom boring? Spice it up, make a date night and even a sex night. Leave him little sexy notes about what you want him to do, get a game, make out like teenagers!
I would first think about why you are having these urges. Is there something going on in your life that is causing you to be dissatisfied with him. If the answer is no, then you can go ahead and explore what these urges consist of. Then you want to talk to him. Have an open dialogue about it and be HONEST! Then only with his permission can you pursue an open marriage. Don't forget he may want the same thing. You cannot get mad either.
That's pretty typical. Join the club - it's a fairly large one. I will advise you not to cheat - the emotional trauma an affair causes ripples everywhere and isn't worth it. For me, I find alternate outlets - which I don't want to describe here. There are ways of using self-expression and creativity to draw out these desires and play with them in a safe way.
What is with you? You are going to throw away 10 years of your marriage over your selfishness. You are not being fair to your husband ad you should be kicked in the butt. All marriages go through tough times. Take your fantasies and let your husband fulfill them. Think of your family and what your juvenile ideations would do to them. What an example for children you would give???? Grow up.
IS 2009 THE MIGHTY YEAR OF WIVES WHO WANT TO BETRAY THEIR HUSBANDS LOL? DONT LISTEN TO Uaskedianswerd's answer she is a lady who brags about cheating on her husband without him knowing it and then brings advice on your question that defines the word hypocrisy
if you loved your husband you would not cheat think about it! if you love your husband start doing fun things with him! bring the spark back in your marriage! cheating is for unhappy couples that are not getting what they need at home! so think cause you will mess up your marriage!
There is nothing confusing about it. If you love your husband you can have any temptation you want as long as you don't act on it. To do so is cruel and selfish. End of story, bottom line.
This is a normal and healthy demand. The best would be that if you could discuss it with your husband. If, not then you have to do it in a secret way.
Just think about them while you have sex with your husband. Maybe it will be enough. Don't cheat on someone you have loved for that long. You will end up regretting it.
Get a divorce first, then sleep with anyone you want. You should at least give him that much. It will hurt him but not as bad as finding out you slept with someone then get a divorce. Not good if you really love him.
Your a terrible wife. You made a commitment. Even thinking it is adultry. Open the bible
Well, you could ask him how he feels about your idea. But before you do that, perhaps consider how YOU would feel if he came to you with that idea. Does that help your confusion any?
You are a pathetic excuse for a human. Get a divorce so that your husband can find a woman that deserves him.
obviously you dont love him if you want to have sex with other men. just think if your husband wanted to have sex with other women and think how bad that would hurt you.
You need to talk to someone about your feelings. You are obviously not getting something you need from your marriage.
maybe you just need to spice up your sex life with your husband
www.avaloninbloom.com
Dont cheat! Dont be another divorce statistic.
the talk to him about swinging... let him enjoy the roses too, not just the thorns
sounds like your uncommited to the commitment you made.....i feel bad for your husband.
Go buy a vibrator and stop giving the rest of us bad names!
Your such a dumb ***.
Go %26amp; Njoy life...it will nevr *** agn!
Can't have it both ways. How can you love him and still want to do that?
ok...go tell him that
Military Men HELP! any advice is welcomed?
2 years ago i went down to MEPS with the navy, i aced the physical but when sat down at the docters interview a question came up about anxiety which i gave a ';yes... i mean no... no'; answer to. needless to say this stopped me. So hear we are 2 years later, im trying to join again, the recruiter says to get an evaluation from a phyciatrist saying i dont have it which is no problem because....... i dont. When i get this evaluation will i be cleared for a physical? i hate how these guys work. i am in tip top shape and theres no reason i shouldnt be servingMilitary Men HELP! any advice is welcomed?
So get the eval. You get the eval, the recruiter works the waiver and that's it.
Frankly if you get this worked up over something like this, instead of just executing what you were told, you ain't gonna like the militaryMilitary Men HELP! any advice is welcomed?
somehow that reminds me of that Monty Python sketch with the bridge of death.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4b4bGAoVR鈥?/a>
Important lesson here that it is better to be confident and wrong than unconfident and right in the military.
I don't see how you wouldn't be cleared for a physical once the evaluation is out of the way.
My advice.
Just tell them everything they ';want'; to know, regardless of how truthful it is. They are anal to the point of stupidity. Do you have anxiety = no, have you taken any drugs = no, do you have add/adhd and have taken medication = no.
Common sense. Trust me.
Bill
If that is your only issue you should be able to get in. It is going to be a pain in the *** though with the waiver paperwork, doc appointments, waiting and then waiting for an answer. If you get back to the meps again, the answer to everything is NO.
So get the eval. You get the eval, the recruiter works the waiver and that's it.
Frankly if you get this worked up over something like this, instead of just executing what you were told, you ain't gonna like the militaryMilitary Men HELP! any advice is welcomed?
somehow that reminds me of that Monty Python sketch with the bridge of death.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4b4bGAoVR鈥?/a>
Important lesson here that it is better to be confident and wrong than unconfident and right in the military.
I don't see how you wouldn't be cleared for a physical once the evaluation is out of the way.
My advice.
Just tell them everything they ';want'; to know, regardless of how truthful it is. They are anal to the point of stupidity. Do you have anxiety = no, have you taken any drugs = no, do you have add/adhd and have taken medication = no.
Common sense. Trust me.
Bill
If that is your only issue you should be able to get in. It is going to be a pain in the *** though with the waiver paperwork, doc appointments, waiting and then waiting for an answer. If you get back to the meps again, the answer to everything is NO.
Men and women....advice about this guy!!!?
Be honest...
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women....advice about this guy!!!?
it is really hard for a guy to be just a friend with a girl. Most guys have all the intention of being friends, but sooner or later we will want to cross that line. Even though we know that will change everything and we can never go back to being just friends. When you are friends you tend to open up more with each other and that leads to knowing and understanding each other.
Then you find out that you have lots of things in common and you really enjoy being with each other. So one day out of no where you want to cross that line. I really don't believe that it is possible for two good looking people to remain friends unless one is (and don't take this the wrong way) gay.
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women....advice about this guy!!!?
it is really hard for a guy to be just a friend with a girl. Most guys have all the intention of being friends, but sooner or later we will want to cross that line. Even though we know that will change everything and we can never go back to being just friends. When you are friends you tend to open up more with each other and that leads to knowing and understanding each other.
Then you find out that you have lots of things in common and you really enjoy being with each other. So one day out of no where you want to cross that line. I really don't believe that it is possible for two good looking people to remain friends unless one is (and don't take this the wrong way) gay.
Men and women...advice about this guy!!!!?
Be honest...
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women...advice about this guy!!!!?
OMG.. yah i know exactly what this guy is talking about... cuz basically its me...He doesnt want a relationship because he has some goals that he has to achieve...
In my case i want a relationship, but i cant have one.. because i can not deal with the daily tasks that a boyfriend has to do.. such as talking on the phone, seeing u, texting, etc.... in my case i date text and talk to girls but have to pull away so i can achieve my goals and not skwander my possible future.. (im in pre med and im on my college mens volleyball team.. so my time is limited)
to me he is a good guy.. like probably a really good catch.. goal orenited, driven... he is just trying to do right by u and not lead u on.. a good guy with values..
but even though he says no.. i would still go after him.. cuz he seems like a keeper thats hard to find ;).. he wants u stillMen and women...advice about this guy!!!!?
he wants more than friendship, but maybe he is starting a new faze in life and feels u might not fit in to the plan, but he definitely likes u
He probably likes you but it sounds like he can't have a relationship right now.
He likes you alot, he cares about your feelings. He seems like someone who truly cares about you hehe. That's why he's having a hard time not texting or talking to you. He enjoys your company. Just continue talking and being friends. He probably just told you that he didn't want to give you the wrong impressions because he didn't want to reject a possible proposal for a date or to go out and hurt your feelings by it. So don't worry about it so much
(also because you stopped talking to him for a bit he might have thought that he hurt your feelings)black heads
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women...advice about this guy!!!!?
OMG.. yah i know exactly what this guy is talking about... cuz basically its me...He doesnt want a relationship because he has some goals that he has to achieve...
In my case i want a relationship, but i cant have one.. because i can not deal with the daily tasks that a boyfriend has to do.. such as talking on the phone, seeing u, texting, etc.... in my case i date text and talk to girls but have to pull away so i can achieve my goals and not skwander my possible future.. (im in pre med and im on my college mens volleyball team.. so my time is limited)
to me he is a good guy.. like probably a really good catch.. goal orenited, driven... he is just trying to do right by u and not lead u on.. a good guy with values..
but even though he says no.. i would still go after him.. cuz he seems like a keeper thats hard to find ;).. he wants u stillMen and women...advice about this guy!!!!?
he wants more than friendship, but maybe he is starting a new faze in life and feels u might not fit in to the plan, but he definitely likes u
He probably likes you but it sounds like he can't have a relationship right now.
He likes you alot, he cares about your feelings. He seems like someone who truly cares about you hehe. That's why he's having a hard time not texting or talking to you. He enjoys your company. Just continue talking and being friends. He probably just told you that he didn't want to give you the wrong impressions because he didn't want to reject a possible proposal for a date or to go out and hurt your feelings by it. So don't worry about it so much
(also because you stopped talking to him for a bit he might have thought that he hurt your feelings)
Men and women...advice about this guy!!!?
Be honest...
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women...advice about this guy!!!?
sounds like he likes you but needs a rude awakening make him think your interested in someone else not someone you both know though, then you will know if he really likes you.Men and women...advice about this guy!!!?
Well, since he considers you a friend, he's acting like a friend would (ie: calling you, talking to you, being nice to you, being friendly, and hell, even being concerned for your feelings). He likes you as a friend for sure, as for anything else, obviously he can't or he won't, so don't even think about it for now. It does sound like he's letting you down easy, though.
It sounds like he is afraid of something going wrong or he doesn't know what he wants, such as staying single for a while and changing his mind and decide to go back to texting you. I wish you and him the best. You know what you want. So that's what I would go for whether it upsets him or makes him happy. Good luck.
Well, obviously he likes you and doesn't want you to go away. He wants to make sure you wait for him until his other goals have been reached, so he can start some sort of relationship with you.
He is involved with someone else and wants to slip out that commitment then move on to his next conquest. Or he just wants to be friends and his name is Lance Bass or The Dell Dude
He just wants to be your friend!! He didn't dump you, he was just making his position clear. Don't read too much into it.
He just wants to be friends with benefits.
He sounds like a dork to me...
friends w/benifits
sweet mildred is my leader...crawl into her playpen with me
There's this guy I've known for about a month or so. He calls or texts me just about every day. We were just friends. But a couple days ago, he called me and said he wanted to talk to me about something that had been on his mind for a while...about how he hoped he hadn't given me ';the wrong impression';...that he really appreciated my ';friendship';, but had to ';stay single'; for a while to reach some goals. (These goals require him to be single for a time...and I know what they are...they're legitimate goals.)
So I deleted his # from my phone so that I wouldn't be tempted to contact him again. And here he goes calling and texting me again, to make sure that he didn't ';hurt my feelings'; and that our ';friendship hasn't changed.'; We just had another hour long conversation, and even continued texting after that!
What does he want from me? Guys, put yourself in his shoes....what are you thinking?Men and women...advice about this guy!!!?
sounds like he likes you but needs a rude awakening make him think your interested in someone else not someone you both know though, then you will know if he really likes you.Men and women...advice about this guy!!!?
Well, since he considers you a friend, he's acting like a friend would (ie: calling you, talking to you, being nice to you, being friendly, and hell, even being concerned for your feelings). He likes you as a friend for sure, as for anything else, obviously he can't or he won't, so don't even think about it for now. It does sound like he's letting you down easy, though.
It sounds like he is afraid of something going wrong or he doesn't know what he wants, such as staying single for a while and changing his mind and decide to go back to texting you. I wish you and him the best. You know what you want. So that's what I would go for whether it upsets him or makes him happy. Good luck.
Well, obviously he likes you and doesn't want you to go away. He wants to make sure you wait for him until his other goals have been reached, so he can start some sort of relationship with you.
He is involved with someone else and wants to slip out that commitment then move on to his next conquest. Or he just wants to be friends and his name is Lance Bass or The Dell Dude
He just wants to be your friend!! He didn't dump you, he was just making his position clear. Don't read too much into it.
He just wants to be friends with benefits.
He sounds like a dork to me...
friends w/benifits
sweet mildred is my leader...crawl into her playpen with me
Men!!? Help!! Need advice - Male perspective please!?
I am asking this at different times to get different views-although they are all the same!
A guy I went out with a couple of times suddenly got very nasty. We only met once and then went on a date and chatted daily on MSN webcam.
It seemed to be going well, and then suddenly he went cold and sent me a very hurtful and personal text ending it(it never reaslly began!).
I retaliated and then said I didn't want to talk to him again. He hounded me with calls for days which I ignored and then a few weeks later asked to talk to me on MSN.
We chatted a bit and I am very cautious about what he wants now.
Anyway at the Weekend we chatted again and he said he missed me and, to cut a long story short, said he only said those things as he was scared of getting hurt!?!?
This sounds like rubbish to me, but I want a male perspective.
He is in his late 30's and from what he has told me has not had a serious relationship in over 6 years!!
Men...can I trust what he says?
I am asking as being a female we think about things alot more and I think it is BS...but maybe there is a chance he is being honest ( a small chance).
He is about 7 years older than me. He is also of a different nationality.
I do like him..and want to believe him..but why would he be nasty like that and then say he is sorry and misses me and was just scared he was going to get hurt.
so...?Men!!? Help!! Need advice - Male perspective please!?
well. maby.
but then again, it happened once whats stopping it happening again?
it may be true he was protecting numero uno, but in a relationship you cant allways think about yourself frist.
then again... 6 years no is enough to make anyone cranky:P
but on a serious note, how do you feel with him? is it right? or is it just a fling.
if i was you, i would cut of contact.
he needs to know that you can't f*ck a girl about then expect everything to be okay.Men!!? Help!! Need advice - Male perspective please!?
do yourself a favour and forget it.if he can do that after 1 date he has problems that you can live without.x
A guy I went out with a couple of times suddenly got very nasty. We only met once and then went on a date and chatted daily on MSN webcam.
It seemed to be going well, and then suddenly he went cold and sent me a very hurtful and personal text ending it(it never reaslly began!).
I retaliated and then said I didn't want to talk to him again. He hounded me with calls for days which I ignored and then a few weeks later asked to talk to me on MSN.
We chatted a bit and I am very cautious about what he wants now.
Anyway at the Weekend we chatted again and he said he missed me and, to cut a long story short, said he only said those things as he was scared of getting hurt!?!?
This sounds like rubbish to me, but I want a male perspective.
He is in his late 30's and from what he has told me has not had a serious relationship in over 6 years!!
Men...can I trust what he says?
I am asking as being a female we think about things alot more and I think it is BS...but maybe there is a chance he is being honest ( a small chance).
He is about 7 years older than me. He is also of a different nationality.
I do like him..and want to believe him..but why would he be nasty like that and then say he is sorry and misses me and was just scared he was going to get hurt.
so...?Men!!? Help!! Need advice - Male perspective please!?
well. maby.
but then again, it happened once whats stopping it happening again?
it may be true he was protecting numero uno, but in a relationship you cant allways think about yourself frist.
then again... 6 years no is enough to make anyone cranky:P
but on a serious note, how do you feel with him? is it right? or is it just a fling.
if i was you, i would cut of contact.
he needs to know that you can't f*ck a girl about then expect everything to be okay.Men!!? Help!! Need advice - Male perspective please!?
do yourself a favour and forget it.if he can do that after 1 date he has problems that you can live without.x
Men...need your advice please? On this guy.....is he really into me or looking for some silly fling?
We met a few weeks ago in a chat interest group and just clicked, the usuall swopped photos, talk for hours with cam and I was able to check he is single through mutual friends. He has told me he really likes me and me too. I will be in his country soon on vacation and we're meeting up. I asked what he sees me as and he said 'probably something that won't work due to the distance'. This threw me back a bit as I believe in love, I could move if it worked. (I didn't tell him this)%26gt; I said, 'so maybe we should stop chatting?' , he said 'no, lets go with the flow if something happens it could be nice, if not, you're a really nice woman I chatted to for a while'. I just want to know he doesn't just see me as a sort of a fling. I'm a sensitive girl and would get hurt. How do I know?Men...need your advice please? On this guy.....is he really into me or looking for some silly fling?
Well, I'm not a man, but you probably need to adjust your perception of the situation. Even chatting a lot (online or on the phone) won't give you the full ';picture'; of a person. If you're going to be where he is while you're on vacation, and you'll be able to work it into your itinerary without going out of your way... meet somewhere for coffee or lunch and see if you still get ';sparks'; in person.
Been there done that many, many times sweetie, and it doesn't always work out even when you live just a few miles away. Don't get so wrapped up in a ';possible'; relationship that you miss something that might be right under your nose.Men...need your advice please? On this guy.....is he really into me or looking for some silly fling?
in my opinion i think hes really into you because you guys talk a lot and message each other a lot. but long distance relationships don't work out to well.
He wants to take you for a test drive and I don't blame him for that.
You are really just strangers and need to see if there is any physical chemistry there. Who knows, you might not like the way he smells.
Well, I'm not a man, but you probably need to adjust your perception of the situation. Even chatting a lot (online or on the phone) won't give you the full ';picture'; of a person. If you're going to be where he is while you're on vacation, and you'll be able to work it into your itinerary without going out of your way... meet somewhere for coffee or lunch and see if you still get ';sparks'; in person.
Been there done that many, many times sweetie, and it doesn't always work out even when you live just a few miles away. Don't get so wrapped up in a ';possible'; relationship that you miss something that might be right under your nose.Men...need your advice please? On this guy.....is he really into me or looking for some silly fling?
in my opinion i think hes really into you because you guys talk a lot and message each other a lot. but long distance relationships don't work out to well.
He wants to take you for a test drive and I don't blame him for that.
You are really just strangers and need to see if there is any physical chemistry there. Who knows, you might not like the way he smells.
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