Advice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?

So you have 2 kids and a partner, but your relationship is not going to well. You definanlty not happy. You go out one night and meet a guy who chats you up and u end up talking most the night. He has just separated from his wife 2 weeks prior and has one child. he drops you home and you talk for two hours in the car, while he tries to kiss you(but u dont kiss him) many times. he wants to give you his no but u decline and say if you like me you can find me on facebook, but he say he wont.





So you spend the next two weeks thinking about him and you cant get him out of you head. YOu look up his name and find his number and call, expecting him to be happy about it.


This is the part i need help to interpret


When you ring he doesnt sound very interested and pretty much staright away goes on to say you should sort things out with your partner cause you have 2 kids to think about. But then says we should catch up, and you say 'maybe'





More commingAdvice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
Well it sounds to me like he is just doing the stand up, right thing. You are technically in a relationship, good or bad, and until you are free and single you are still committed to a life with him and your children.


He's right, your kids have to come first, and you need to sort out your stuff before getting into anything else. Even a casual thing. It's bad dating karma to cheat like that...





Also, he just got out of something pretty heavy duty himself and may not feel ready to get into this much drama so soon.





Take care of you and your situation, whatever that turns out to be. Figure out why you aren't happy in your relationship, and try to fix it, if it doesn't work. Leave. But you have to at least try for the sake of your kids for as long as you can.


It depends on so many factors, which are your business alone.





I honestly think this guy was just being respectful and decent, he may have tried to kiss you, but remember you guys had been out ( I am assuming drinking a bit) and that can lead to all sorts of silliness.





Leave it be for now, deal with your life, if it's meant to be it will happen.





Best of luck!Advice from men pls (women are welcome too if u inderstand men)?
he is not separated --- when you called he was at home and he did not want to say too much with his wife in the house --- when he rings later he is alone --- he is probably looking for someone ';on the side'; --- i would suggest forgetting about him and decide what you want to do with your life --- best wishes
He is feeling the pain of breaking it off with his now ex.


He is feeling like he is going to make you hurt like he is hurting by entering the picture.


You really should talk with him about this and ask him these questions.
I think he wants what is best for you. If you and your partner split then the two of you could give something a try. He probably believes that everything happens for a reason and if it was meant to workout it will. Good luck!
well to me he just want a bit on the side,if he was going to break up he would of.don't be fooled. he sounds like a jerk. you don't need that.
He is looking for a casual sexual relationship and he probably figured you would be interested due to your current situation. Since you shot him down at first, he has since moved on looking for other woman to fit his needs. Since you went looking for him, that tells him you are interested but since he is still looking for casual and you did not prove to be an easy catch, his interest is limited. He probably feels that it would be too complicated with you and that's why he's telling you to work it out. If you are interested in sex, he's your guy. If you want more, look elsewhere.
I may be way off of base but it sounds to this old fool like he doesn't want his wife to know you are calling him at their home. Sorry but sometimes guys (as well as females) will tell tales about their relationships that are not always 100%. Look right now you are married whether things are going good or not. So why not either try and get things on track with your current old man or else give him the traveling card and start afresh while being true for yourself. Best of luck.
If you're relationship with your partner isn't working out, try to fix it and go to a marrige counselor and if you can't handle that get a divorce.


but until then i wouldn't worry about this guy because it doesn't seem like he's going to talk to you as long as you're married..


And he probably said that he doesn't want to wreck a relationship because


1] He genuinely cares about your relationship with your partner and your kids.


2] He was mad that you didn't kiss him and give him your number.


3] He likes you but he doesn't want to get his hopes up and fall in love with you just to be crushed by the fact that you're married.





Take my advice and go to a marrige counselor; It will be better for your kids and don't call this man much..
He likes you...for sex! He isn't serious with you, he just tries to kiss you cuz he's horny!





If he's serious with you, he should help you out, not 'I think you got things to think of, you have 2 kids'. It's like saying ';I like to help you but I don't want anything to do with your kids, I already got mine.'; And when he says you should call him some time, it means 'call him when you're happy..and when you're happy you might actually have sex with him.'





I'm gonna type it again- he only likes your body, for sex. He tried to kiss you many times cuz he was horny- like most men are.