Hi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?

Hi I've been seeing this guy for about 8mths and he seems lovely but i need advice. Ok here goes firstly I am a single mum with a daughter he has never made an attempt to get to know her and when she is in the room he even goes so far as to blank her she is two, secondly we never go out he just come round we have tea and watch telly or talk and some times end up in the bed room if you catch my drift. Tonight i asked him do you ever see us progressing from what he calls us which is friends and he said ' we'll see what happens' . but nothing ever seems to happen and I don't feel it will as he makes no effort and never comes round on a weekend and always after my daughter is asleep is this normal what should I do please answer helpfully thanks in advance xHi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
I'm a 34 yo male... He may just be rubbish with kids... It might be worth trying to do something together which involves his interaction with her... ? a day to the park and tell him you feel tired and see how he does with her...





But my most honest opinion is that he's probably not interested in the family unit, rather you and him as a relationship... it might work ok short term, but long term it may spell disaster.Hi I need advice please men's views would be gr8?
I would say that this guy doesn't at all seem like he is really interested at the moment, maybe he will change his priorities soon but if i'm honest, a serious one on one talk wouldn't hurt to reveal how you both see each other, etc.





Hope that helps
If he dont like your kids, he dont like you...


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end it what ever ';it'; is


you need a man that care for you AND your daughter
I think you may need to confront him, you obviously really like this gentleman, and he needs to start being a real man. It sounds like he may be afraid of a ';ready made family'; and might not want to get too close, but let him know how you feel about him and that you need something decisive, try to get into his life a bit more if you haven't already. Ask to meet his friends, go for breakfast, walk in the park, enjoy his hobbies with him or share your own. Let him see how amazing you and your daughter are and he won't be able to dodge you anymore.





P.S. thanks for the answer of mine, it gave me a boost.
maybe the fella doesn't want to do the parental part. i would say that you have to be really honest with yourself and ask is what he gives you enough? if you are happy with the casual relationship then leave things as they are. if you want more from him then maybe you should pick a time to sit down with him and tell him you would like him to be a part of your daughters life as well. i would guess he will either make an effort or stop coming round. you have been with him for 8 months now so i would have thought you would have an honest idea about whether or not he only comes round for the bedroom bit or if he is prepared to commit himself to you and your daughter. with him only coming round at night and not at weekends is it possible that he may have another partner who works nights so he spends his weekends with her? i feel bad about suggesting this but it looks like a possibility.
I think that if you have a daughter you need to pick men carefully. Your daughter is only 2 so she will be the main priority in your life for a long long time to come.





You need a man that will accept you have a daughter and someone that wants to get to know her. A man coming into her life and treating her as if she doesnt exist will confuse her alot.





I dont think this man knows what he wants. It may be the issue of you having a child but if he really liked you then he wouldnt let that bother him.





Talk to him and ask him what he wants. Tell him you dont want to carry on seeing him if he is so indecisive about you. He seems like hes making you feel very unwanted and that shouldnt be how you are feeling wit someone you are seeing.