we met at my previous job, he still works there.we fell in love and started dating, its been 6 months now. he is divorced with a step daughter (11yrs) and a son (7yrs).he has the kids every 2nd week.hes 37, im 31yrs.
he treated me well and he loved me, we had a very good relationship and sex was also great.
he went with his male friends for skiing for a week, he was calling everyday and we also smsed daily.when he came back home he went to his place instead of mine as we had agreed, coz he had too much lagage and was to come to my place later.i got mad and told him to not contact me till after easter!same day i called him later coz he never replied my sms, we argued about that and he broke up with me.next day he contacts me n wants me back ,broke up coz he was mad!!im so insecure now coz i asked him if he loves me yesterday, he says he dont know coz he has suppresed his feelings as a defence mechanism???what should i make of all this?he presented me to his family, kids and friends!!Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
It's your fault. I wouldn't talk to you either if you told me not to get in touch with you until after Easter. You got mad at him for not wanting to go to your house after he just got back from a ski trip, still had all of his luggage in the car, and wanted to go home for a little bit BEFORE going to your house and to top it off I bet he was probably tired. Then you told him not to contact you until after Easter! That's called TRIPPIN. Do you know what that is? Your lucky he even called you back. I guarantee most people would classify you as a ';crazy ex'; and move on. I know I would.Mostly for men??please advice a hurt woman?????
well im just a few yrs over half ur age,but THESE THINGS HAPPEN! its perfectly normal..maybe u should look back and realise it was too much to argue over an sms..ur gonna go thru this a million times,and the only way to go on is to keep patching up,or better yet avoid arguing and fighting(actually its inevitable but u get points for trying) anyway,this all applies if this is the guy for u,and somehow i think he is,the way to know is just decide wat u feel for him,if he feels good for u then just patch up and keep going on ahead with ur lives..
Why d谋d you get so mad? you need to explain a b谋t more of why you broke up over the phone. You are obv谋ously both 谋n love.
Sort 谋t out sister. Good luck and God bless
This seems incomplete. Why did you get mad in the first place? You say he went to his house as agreed... you got mad and said not to call until after Easter... he stopped talking. Something is missing.
Bottom line is he's been there, done that. If it was me i probably do the same. Who needs the drama? He most likely over reacted and now is trying to apologize. Men are getting tired of the run-around and games some women play. There are plenty of other options and the energy you waste on women who are overly dramatic is too much. Be honest with him, tell him how you feel. Remember he already has a woman in his life (the ex-wife) that has probably put him through Hell. Be honest and no games.
Give it time!!!!
You have to remember he has been hurt and could still be caught up in some things that brings back ';bad memories';...So give it time!I know it hurts not ';knowing';but him keeping his emotions/feeling bottled up is never good!The fact that he called you and wants you back is because of the fact that he has exposed you to his kids,family and friends!What you now need to do(if of course this is what you want)is create a platform safe enough for him to air his views and opinions!!!!Your relationship will never work if ya'll are not communicating cause that is the key in making relationships last!So please do respond on his call and arrange to speak about the ';arguement';...You owe it to each other to act like adults cause two innocent children are also in the picture!!So please do the right thing!
Why did you even get upset in the first place,its not like he wasnt going to come to you,it was just the point of you being patient which clearly you werent!(no offence)Your insecurities are ok,the time it becomes a problem is when you allow it to control your thinking ability...And thus it will affect your decissions!!!!And him not ansewering the question';if he loves you';was also perhaps to safeguard himself....you really think someone that ';doesnt love you';will expose you to his family,friends,kids and keep sooooo in contact if he didnt???
I know I've left you with alot of things to think about,but want you to realise,this is a very fragile situation and anything right now,can either make it or break it for you two!
I wish you all of the best and I hope it works out for you!
pls try n join him again....
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