Yes, although our situation was much different than yours. Hang in there. She may forgive you with time. Keep the lines of communication open.Any men have some advice on HOW TO GET MY FAMILY BACK?
it will take hard work but dont give up... Make time...';always put your family first'; who else will help you deal with the cold hard world? You need to leave that other woman alone, i dont care if your still friends, you have ot make a choice...leave her alone..start taking wifey out..go on dates...do fun things, she just wants to be appreciated and spend time with you...do like old high school kids..and take her to the movies and etc..she could see what she's missing..most wifes dont want a divorce.....rekindle your relationship...court HER..get off the pc..and go to her!!!!
If you really love her and are committed to putting in the work to have a good marriage, then write her a letter/ call her/ email her/ send her flowers (all of them!) and tell her:
1) you love her
2) you are a slimball and YOU KNOW IT NOW!
3) you now understand that marriage is not all fun and games, it's hard work, but there is no marriage or family worth working hard for than the one you have.
4) you'll do anything to get back together, even on a temp basis (ie, move in together for a few months)
5) ask her to meet you at the marriage counselor - she can choose whoever she wants and YOU'LL pay!
If that doesn't work, sorry bub, nothing will
Tough. Reap-Sow.
Every case is different
i havent had this situations but i must say you messed up and first step is to acknowledge it and get down on both knees and apoligize as for getting her back it might never happen but i think that giving it a shot for the kids would be good this process will take a while but first be her friend again dont jump straight to lovers again you need to gain her trust it will just all go down hill if you guys jump into things quickly without her trusting you show her your great with the kids and show her you have changed take the kids and her out to the beach or to watch a baseball game something along the line spend time with your two kids and ex wife REMIND HER WHY SHE FELL IN LOVE WITH YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE become more involved and show her that you have got your prioritys straight and when your ready move in together again help around the house and do the dishes together vacum once in a while put the kids to sleep and let her have some time to herself this will show her that you are responsible and your working really hard to gain her trust back surprise your kids and wife with gifts and comming home early from work once in a while to help with dinner or the kids with their h.w then when your ready re propose to your wife and tell her you want her back and that you messed up but you cant see yourself without her and the kids
See if she will go to counseling with you. Pray, go to church and get back on track. Show her that you love her, tell her tht you love her and you re sorry. Come clean with her about everything. NO more games- thats where this started. See if you can start over- try asking her on a date. Perhaps just start be doing stuff with the kids together.
Read some books on rebuilding marriages. The Five Love Languages, Love and Respect...
You need to tell your wife what you've told us. Don't ask her to come back to you, just tell her you understand that you've lost her, but you want to ask her forgiveness anyway. Say that in breaking her heart, you've broken your own as well. Tell her how sorry you are and that you will always love her. You may have said some of these words before, but say them from your heart this time. This is what she wants from you.
Another thing is this: if you want your wife back, you'll have to discontinue the friendship with the other woman--the one you had the affair with. Your wife is not going to accept such a friendship, and you shouldn't expect that of her.
Perhaps the first thing you need to do is be sure you want your family back. Are you ready to be a loving husband and father? Will you hide behind your work again, when things don't go your way? Will you pick up another lover? Seriously, are you ready to commit yourself to your family? If you're not sure, don't waste this woman's time. Let her go, so she can find happiness. She's had enough pain.
wow..i guess physco really let you have it..ha..anyway from a womans point of view and from a woman whos man was playing games and still lied...it hurts like hell to know that a man that you love has betrayed you..the man that you completely trust and would give your life for could do somethig like this...once trust has been broken then it takes alot of time to get that back..although i stayed with my guy i still wonder if he will cheat and if he is talking to other females..if you truly love your wife and really relaize that what you did hurt her and the kids and that you honeslty deep in you hearts of hearts is willing to scarfice and make it work..i think then you have a shot of mending the relationship...like others have said you must cut all ties with the other woman and makes sure it is clear to the other woman that your family comes first..sit down with your wife and expalin to her that you want to be her husband agin and that you know it will take time to ge things back to the way it once was..let her know that your regret what you did and what you made her go through..let her know that you guys are a family and you want that again...good luck
My husband left me for another woman to. i jumped through alot of hoops trying to get my husband back, he even talked me into going on Jerry Springer for him. nothing seemed to be working so i gave up. he took his bimbo and they mooved closer to his mom. i kept our 2 kids and i was carrying our third . 2 months before our third baby arrived he called me saying he new he screwed up but he wanted a chance to make it right. i let him come home and things have been great between us. it has almost been 2 years and he has stuck by me through the death of my dad and 2 miscairages. and he has proven his love for me and our three living children everyday. your wife feels she cant trust you if you are sincere all you can do is try to court her. work your but off to show her that you only want her. and if all works out show her on a daily basis that she is your world and your kids are your precious angles. most women are not as forgiving as i was with my man so the road will not be easy. but if you are serious then you will show it and she will see it.
Wow, man. I dunno. If your wife isn't willing, I don't see what else you can do other than lie in the bed you made.
You can beg, kiss her butt, promise to do whatever it takes. If she still says no, it's a no.
Not while you're still ';friends'; with your little piece of fluff on the side. Who are you trying to fool - your wife or yourself? If you are serious about getting your family back, you'll have to do way better than that.
If I had her email address I would forward this question to her. I assume she will not consider couples therapy? Have you tried begging her to come back ? Tell here that you have made the biggest mistake of your life and will spend the rest of both your lives making it up to her. Say it and mean it. You got yourself into this mess by acting badly. Now you have to fix it if it is possible at all. If she is dead set against working it out there is nothing you can do. Maybe she has met someone else who is willing to be home and faithful. Bad luck dude. Guess you lived and learned on this one.
honestly i dont believe you deserve another chance you messed up by picking some woman over your family!!! Looks to me like you are one big LOSER!!! sorry but its true!!! I hope your ex finds someone better!!!
YOU ARE A SICK ******......GOD DAMN YOU.....if a man and i still feel this way just think how much you would have put your wife and kids through when you just abondoned them for sum woman.........*** HOLE.....GOD SHOULD CURSE EVERYONE LIKE YOU..........
I'm not a guy, but from a woman's point of view the first thing you need to do is completely cut ties with the other woman. If she really is a friend she will understand that it's very important to the renewal of your family that she and you have no further contact. The next thing you need to do is see if your wife would agree to family counseling. Your children are the most important thing right now and you need to see that they are okay, the best way to do that may be counseling.
Good Luck.
wow - tough sale. You've got your work cut out for you. Especially because another woman was involved.
Try some familiy counseling.
Do NOT date. (other people)
Do NOT pressure her.
Try being friends adn re-buildign the trust.
Yall need to address:
problems you both had previously
things you would have changed
things that work now that didnt before
etc
Good luck.
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