ok so me and my fella were due to marry in 3 months but yesterday he turns round and says he doesn't think he can do it! (something just feels wrong'; he says) i dont know why? we are both single apart from to each other no other commitment, and been together for six years! he has now gone home to think about things, but we agreed before he left that we would stay together as i would rather forget the marriage than throw away 6 years! so when he left he promised he would let me know when he was on train and stuff and when he got home as he knows how much i worry! now phone is off and i cant get through and i wonder is he having major cold feet, am i fool for saying we will stay together i dont know what to do! do i say f$%k it and move on although my heart truly does not want to!!! help please!!!!!Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
dont make any hasty decisions. wait until he has had time to think it through properly, then sit down and discuss it together. he may just have cold feet and want to stay together. if you say f$%k it and walk away your not giving him a chance.Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
u can live without him. u need to follow that line of thinking to your own happiness.
sorry to hear about your suffering, but you are not going to get through this evenly if you subjugate your well-being to his whims. take a break and find your inner peace before you hastily decide on anything but figuring out how to move on in a positive direction either way.
good luck.
Sounds like commitment jitters. Don't strangle him - if he decides it's not for him, then you're better off anyway. It might take a bit of cool distance to make him understand what life will be like without you by his side. Get out with your own mates a bit and check in with him when you can. Best bet - don't get in his face and let him have his distance. I suspect he'll be lonely before your are!
I think you just need to give him space, and let him get his head together. Weddings are a huge stress and he may just need some time alone to work things through in his mind. I dont think you should move on, you havent even split up so why should you !!!
I would wait for him to contact you, then at least you know he has gotten in touch because he really wants to and not because he has to.
The time apart will make you stronger, 6 years is a long time - it was maybe just too intense for him.
Hope he calls soon!
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whats with the whole ';marriage'; thing. what are you a pair of 18 year olds? is there a family dowry thing going? I mean, just think about it? Just LEAVE IT AS IT IS!!! So, youwear a pretty dress and get into loads of debt and nothing really changes does it? except thee added pressure on the realtionship i cant see how this is a move forward.
%26gt;%26gt;What i mean is, maybe you should just give up on it. its really not a big deal. And if it matters to you, then just move on. Some guys just react really badly to the idea
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