I have been talking to this great guy on MSN for 2 years, but during that time I was in a relationship. I have been single for about a month or so now, and last weekend him and I ran into each other at a local nightclub. We spent the entire night together, and he complimented me and kissed me. He said he was glad we finally met. Then, the next day he texted me, the day after he initiated conversation on MSN, and the day after that he asked me to go out with him on Friday. Well, last night (Friday) we went on a little date. Nothing too fancy, we just went for a long walk and then we just watched a movie at my parent's house. He didn't try kissing me or doing anything we just snuggled. At the end of the night he said ';we have to do this again sometime';. Does he like me? Should I ask him out next time? I really have a huge crush on him and I want him to know I'm really into him without him thinking I'm too clingy. What should I do? I can't get him off my mind!!!MEN: Need Relationship Advice... Help! (ladies can answer too!)?
Just keep talking to him the way you have been and casually mention that you had a nice time with him. If you want to, it would be ok to ask him out on another date. That's not being clingy.MEN: Need Relationship Advice... Help! (ladies can answer too!)?
yes he likes you :) and no you can never be too clingy lol and yes i think you should plan to see eachother again!
reel him in girl, he respects you
the next time you see him, kiss him the first chance you get. i think he didn't want to seem too forward the second time you hung out and that's why he didn't kiss you. I'd probably do the same thing he did because you don't want to rush/force anything without knowing the other person is going to respond positively. you want to kiss him and he wants to kiss you. just go for it.
If he initiated the contact (texting and im's), he is probably waiting for you to show some initiative.
At this point, the next time you are together, just give him a passionate kiss.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Men's haircut advice?
i want to get this kind of haircut but i don't know what to say. do i hav to say tapered or is that already part of the cut? how long is it on the sides and top? 3? 4?
http://www.haircutshairstyles.com/mens_short_layer_haircut-159.shtmlMen's haircut advice?
Yeah, your best bet is to take the picture to the salon. Be careful though - make sure it works well with your face shape. Ask their opinion and maybe they can suggest other stuff?Men's haircut advice?
Print it out and show it to the lady. She'll know what to do.
http://www.haircutshairstyles.com/mens_short_layer_haircut-159.shtmlMen's haircut advice?
Yeah, your best bet is to take the picture to the salon. Be careful though - make sure it works well with your face shape. Ask their opinion and maybe they can suggest other stuff?Men's haircut advice?
Print it out and show it to the lady. She'll know what to do.
Men urgent health advice needed............?
i emit a whole lot of pre *** are there meds that i shud take ?
any names in canada?Men urgent health advice needed............?
Adeeb... Why do you need medication? You normal! Yes alot of us have a lot of lubrication or pre ejaculate. Good Luck Enjoy it! SteveMen urgent health advice needed............?
This is natural. I'm not sure of your habits, but normally if you pre*** a lot, it means that you don't masturbate often, therefore it builds up inside the seminal vesicle and leaks out when you actually do masturbate. If you want the amount to decrease, simply ejaculate more often.
What color is your pee?Do you have a good sodium(salt) intake?People with low salt intake usually pee more frequently since sodium retains water. If its a dark color maybe you should drink more water. Or maybe you drink TOO much water. We cant really tell you much unless your sick.
Me too. As long as it isn't cloudy or bloody, there isn't a problem. Honestly, my wife really likes that I have so much.
EDIT: There are meds that can be prescribed but they can cause impotence.
I don't think that is a big concern. I mean, it's not like it's blood, so it should be okay. It's just your body.
Congratulations.
Its just a lube for sperm...no worries.
that didnt make any sensenatural beauty tips
any names in canada?Men urgent health advice needed............?
Adeeb... Why do you need medication? You normal! Yes alot of us have a lot of lubrication or pre ejaculate. Good Luck Enjoy it! SteveMen urgent health advice needed............?
This is natural. I'm not sure of your habits, but normally if you pre*** a lot, it means that you don't masturbate often, therefore it builds up inside the seminal vesicle and leaks out when you actually do masturbate. If you want the amount to decrease, simply ejaculate more often.
What color is your pee?Do you have a good sodium(salt) intake?People with low salt intake usually pee more frequently since sodium retains water. If its a dark color maybe you should drink more water. Or maybe you drink TOO much water. We cant really tell you much unless your sick.
Me too. As long as it isn't cloudy or bloody, there isn't a problem. Honestly, my wife really likes that I have so much.
EDIT: There are meds that can be prescribed but they can cause impotence.
I don't think that is a big concern. I mean, it's not like it's blood, so it should be okay. It's just your body.
Congratulations.
Its just a lube for sperm...no worries.
that didnt make any sense
Men and Women advice...?
Ok, I need some advice. My husband just recently switched careers after going back to college and everything. This has been a long time coming. He is a very private person and told me not to tell anyone right now. Well, I have told a few people because I have a lot of connections and when I tell people they always give me some really good information and I always go back and tell my husband. Yesterday, I told my neighbor and they gave me some good info and I told my husband and he got so mad! He said he has already told me not to tell anyone. I told him that the reason why I tell people is because I am proud of him and also I get good information with my connections so really I am doing him a service, right? I don't understand why he would be so mad. Can you shed some light on this?Men and Women advice...?
I see how you really want to help him and are proud of him, but I do believe you should be trustworthy towards your husbands wishes.Men and Women advice...?
Would you be mad if your husband was out dishing info on you after you told him not to? That's why he's mad, you have loose lips! He doesn't want your help because he feels the need to do for himself, so why not just let him do things his way?
I am so totally with your husband. There are so many reasons... it might upset some people where he is working, he might have some unwanted competition, it is plain embarassment to hear his career being discussed by aqaintances... he should be allowed to decide who he shares his plans with.... ...but you know, wives don't get this.
Some people just like privacy. They don't like to brag. It could be going good right now but what if something happens. By you telling everyone and if he fails, its going to be hard for him to deal with that. Remember the saying, ';Hear no evil, Speak no evil, and See no evil.'; Not that your doing any of those but it means keep private.
You could have convinced him before asking for a suggestion from your neighbor.That way you would have satisfied his criteria and at the same time you could have provided him more info. It is not too late between husband and wife. Try to convince him now.
you will never understand.. That's for sure.
He deserves better
You seem like a very wonderful and caring wife
HE, on the otherhand, seems to not appreciate you
The problem is HIM, not you
I suggest a long talk with him, or counseling...............
Sorry honey but you are in the wrong here, you went against your husbands wish and betrayed his trust by ';using your connections';. Sometimes men want to do things on their own and in their own time. I would be a little more cautious about respecting his wishes. What you did, even though you meant well, was disrespectful. He specifically asked you not to tell any one ';JUST YET';. I wonder why you needed the spotlight on you for his sake.
This is too long - to chaotic. Think about your question - ask a pointed question - nobody is interested in bla bla bla bla stories.
That shows a total lack of respect and interest in people who might start to read it.
Would you be okay if he did something that you asked him not to do? You violated his trust and he has a right to be mad no matter how good your intentions were.
Note to Veronica: If it was too long a question then why did you waste your time answering it?
its pride on his part, maybe he think by u getting a job for him, it make him weak
It's got nothing to do with whether or not you can help him out. Sometimes, people just want to their own thing in their own way without everyone having an opinion on it. It irritates the hell out of me when you say you're doing something, and someone else knows someone else who's doing it, has done it, can help me with it. I like to do my own thing my own way. Your husband is probably feels the same way and is mad because you're not giving him space to explore and enjoy his new career for himself - at least for a bit anyway!
I see how you really want to help him and are proud of him, but I do believe you should be trustworthy towards your husbands wishes.Men and Women advice...?
Would you be mad if your husband was out dishing info on you after you told him not to? That's why he's mad, you have loose lips! He doesn't want your help because he feels the need to do for himself, so why not just let him do things his way?
I am so totally with your husband. There are so many reasons... it might upset some people where he is working, he might have some unwanted competition, it is plain embarassment to hear his career being discussed by aqaintances... he should be allowed to decide who he shares his plans with.... ...but you know, wives don't get this.
Some people just like privacy. They don't like to brag. It could be going good right now but what if something happens. By you telling everyone and if he fails, its going to be hard for him to deal with that. Remember the saying, ';Hear no evil, Speak no evil, and See no evil.'; Not that your doing any of those but it means keep private.
You could have convinced him before asking for a suggestion from your neighbor.That way you would have satisfied his criteria and at the same time you could have provided him more info. It is not too late between husband and wife. Try to convince him now.
you will never understand.. That's for sure.
He deserves better
You seem like a very wonderful and caring wife
HE, on the otherhand, seems to not appreciate you
The problem is HIM, not you
I suggest a long talk with him, or counseling...............
Sorry honey but you are in the wrong here, you went against your husbands wish and betrayed his trust by ';using your connections';. Sometimes men want to do things on their own and in their own time. I would be a little more cautious about respecting his wishes. What you did, even though you meant well, was disrespectful. He specifically asked you not to tell any one ';JUST YET';. I wonder why you needed the spotlight on you for his sake.
This is too long - to chaotic. Think about your question - ask a pointed question - nobody is interested in bla bla bla bla stories.
That shows a total lack of respect and interest in people who might start to read it.
Would you be okay if he did something that you asked him not to do? You violated his trust and he has a right to be mad no matter how good your intentions were.
Note to Veronica: If it was too long a question then why did you waste your time answering it?
its pride on his part, maybe he think by u getting a job for him, it make him weak
It's got nothing to do with whether or not you can help him out. Sometimes, people just want to their own thing in their own way without everyone having an opinion on it. It irritates the hell out of me when you say you're doing something, and someone else knows someone else who's doing it, has done it, can help me with it. I like to do my own thing my own way. Your husband is probably feels the same way and is mad because you're not giving him space to explore and enjoy his new career for himself - at least for a bit anyway!
Need a mans advice?
Im a dude, i have nto had sex in about 7 yrs due to being locked up, now that im out i having trouble getting off to fast, can you explain to me how to old back from letting ur load go? Like when u are making love and you feel the urge how do you stop it from busting?Need a mans advice?
pull out and squeeze right under the head. and hold for a few seconds, it will stop you from ';unloading';Need a mans advice?
wow how old are u??? this should be old hat to any guy older then 10yrs old...
you know how to stop peeing? do that when you feel you will be getting off.
don't worry about that right now...you haven't had a cooch in a while so let loose and *** as quick as possible lol
then worry about it hahahah
pull out man, edge a little, squeeze it off if u have too, try a c0ck ring too, maybe that will help..
pull out and squeeze right under the head. and hold for a few seconds, it will stop you from ';unloading';Need a mans advice?
wow how old are u??? this should be old hat to any guy older then 10yrs old...
you know how to stop peeing? do that when you feel you will be getting off.
don't worry about that right now...you haven't had a cooch in a while so let loose and *** as quick as possible lol
then worry about it hahahah
pull out man, edge a little, squeeze it off if u have too, try a c0ck ring too, maybe that will help..
Why do women seek out other women for advice on men?
Think how stupid that is!!
These women maybe married but the fact that they are married whether they admit to it or not only occurred when the man was ready.
And no type of female maneuvering can cause the trigger to be squeezed.
Sure by being sweet and talking to MEN so that you can understand men will help.
However, the more unsavory the laws of divorce get the less likely that trigger will be pulled.
Of course I guess all women could marry short people.Why do women seek out other women for advice on men?
Because they want to to told what they want to hear (usually 1-he loves her or 2-he's a jerk) and don't want to deal with realty.Why do women seek out other women for advice on men?
It's not advice it's a ';have you ever known a man to be this stupid, unkind, lazy, selfish and the list goes on'; venting rant. We don't seek out men for answers on men because most are clueless. It's a stupid woman that seeks help from another woman with their man problems. The helper women either have their own problem man, want your man or have never known a man like you describe. Before telephones or the Internet I suspect most women just screamed into their pillow.
So, what prompted you to ask this question...I bet it's a doozieee!!!
Are you on something or married? Like they say, men are from Mars and women from Venus. So where you from? You do not seem to express yourself very well, but I have to disagree that it is stupid for women to turn to other women for advice. It makes sense - they offer a different objective perspective while being able to understand a woman's point of view. Isn't it just the same as men swapping stories and experiences with each other?
Hey dude, just grab a 6 pack, kick back and watch a game on the flat screen and don't stress about it. You're going to be gray and or bald at an early age trying to figure this one out. The only person that you can truly understand is yourself.
Maybe it is because men stick together and don't tell on each other. I have tried asking other men and they are never honest. So do you think you can be honest and tell us women the truth if we asked you something?
Both people need to be equally committed to marriage for it to be happy. There are not any ways that I know of to trick another person into a commitment.
i dont ask my girlfriends my #1 bestfriend is a guy it so much easier to confide and talk to him than my #2 who is a girl
Sweetie --- is because women can only understand another women feelings -----
Women like things complex. So they seek advice from other women for a complex answer. Things are never simple with them like with men
A woman with experience can know. A man doesnt understand a woman and why she acts the way she does. A woman knows.
Cause your hoping she got it right and can tell you how to fix it.
I don't do that. I go to men and women for advice because everyone has their say
because they can't tell a woman story to a man it's about heart to heart.
These women maybe married but the fact that they are married whether they admit to it or not only occurred when the man was ready.
And no type of female maneuvering can cause the trigger to be squeezed.
Sure by being sweet and talking to MEN so that you can understand men will help.
However, the more unsavory the laws of divorce get the less likely that trigger will be pulled.
Of course I guess all women could marry short people.Why do women seek out other women for advice on men?
Because they want to to told what they want to hear (usually 1-he loves her or 2-he's a jerk) and don't want to deal with realty.Why do women seek out other women for advice on men?
It's not advice it's a ';have you ever known a man to be this stupid, unkind, lazy, selfish and the list goes on'; venting rant. We don't seek out men for answers on men because most are clueless. It's a stupid woman that seeks help from another woman with their man problems. The helper women either have their own problem man, want your man or have never known a man like you describe. Before telephones or the Internet I suspect most women just screamed into their pillow.
So, what prompted you to ask this question...I bet it's a doozieee!!!
Are you on something or married? Like they say, men are from Mars and women from Venus. So where you from? You do not seem to express yourself very well, but I have to disagree that it is stupid for women to turn to other women for advice. It makes sense - they offer a different objective perspective while being able to understand a woman's point of view. Isn't it just the same as men swapping stories and experiences with each other?
Hey dude, just grab a 6 pack, kick back and watch a game on the flat screen and don't stress about it. You're going to be gray and or bald at an early age trying to figure this one out. The only person that you can truly understand is yourself.
Maybe it is because men stick together and don't tell on each other. I have tried asking other men and they are never honest. So do you think you can be honest and tell us women the truth if we asked you something?
Both people need to be equally committed to marriage for it to be happy. There are not any ways that I know of to trick another person into a commitment.
i dont ask my girlfriends my #1 bestfriend is a guy it so much easier to confide and talk to him than my #2 who is a girl
Sweetie --- is because women can only understand another women feelings -----
Women like things complex. So they seek advice from other women for a complex answer. Things are never simple with them like with men
A woman with experience can know. A man doesnt understand a woman and why she acts the way she does. A woman knows.
Cause your hoping she got it right and can tell you how to fix it.
I don't do that. I go to men and women for advice because everyone has their say
because they can't tell a woman story to a man it's about heart to heart.
Why do people, especially women, keep giving bad advice to men looking for love/sex help?
Some men have trouble finding love/sex in their lives, and they are told such stupid things as ';wait for the right person to arrive';, ';the right person will arrive some day';, etc. No, it won't. When it comes to men, they can't ';wait';, they have to LOOK for the right person, because things don't work the same for men as they do for women. Not only that, but I see virgin males on here who want help losing their virginity, and women ATTACK them just for wanting to fulfill a natural human desire. They say things such as ';if all you want is sex, you don't deserve a woman'; and other ridiculous comments, when these very same women probably all lost their virginities at a young age just for being women and having it easy. I'm by no means complaining that women have it easier than men; what I am complaining about is men trying to get help and women attack them like they're evil just for wanting sex, as well as giving them bad ';don't worry, eventually someone will arrive'; advice.Why do people, especially women, keep giving bad advice to men looking for love/sex help?
Many women are delusional and try to rationalize certain situations. They lack a basic understanding of reality. It's easy for a woman, because a woman knows that men are just going to approach her and if she doesn't feel that instant rush, spark, gratifying feeling she might reject, or blow the guy off. They want that instant connection with out putting any work in on creating that connection. Many woman don't understand that if you give someone a chance and get to know that person you might actually find yourself caring deeply for that other person. Women don't understand, or appreciate the effort that guys put in when trying to win someone over. Have you ever heard of a woman complain that if the guy doesn't approach her then he is intimidated and a coward. Many women are hypocrites, because they have no idea what it is actually like to approach and ask someone out. Women are a lot more judgmental then guys are. Woman will jump to conclusions about a guy in the first second of meeting that all he wants is sex, or is a jerk, creep, whatever else when he actually wants to get to know her for her and could possible be the best thing that ever happened to her. Woman tend to stereotype guys. There are a lot of guys that are truly uncaring and cruel and just want sex, but woman tend to lump all guys the same. They fall for the same guy over and over and complain that all guys are the same. The glass ceiling effect is not only in the business world, but also for women in the dating world. I don't want to sound as if I am ranting, because everything I wrote is purely from an observational point on watching people in action. To sum everything up women give bad advice, because they just don't realize, nor know any better.Why do people, especially women, keep giving bad advice to men looking for love/sex help?
good point but my answer to your questions is because they are stupid and honestly dont know but want to share there stupidity with someone who doesnt know any better
Woman can get sex from most guys, if they just asked. They usually won't of course. This is where the ';wait and you'll get them'; approach comes in.
The guy just need to get confidence in himself first, then he looks better to a woman. Woman, by nature IMHO arent as confident in themselves as men, b/c all kinds of stereotypes, and ';that girl';'s turn up.
I found confidence through playing pool, and if I date a woman and take her out, she sees confidence, and that in trigues her to find more... although at the same time she may be replused too.
It;s really a crapshoot since you'll remember the missteps more than the sucesses.
Well certain men are pigs about it. I mean, if a guy wants sex, just for sex, then whatever, that's his choice. I don't think it's wrong, unless he's using a girl that thinks he's in love with her. some guys are just stupid. The women that attack guys for stuff like that are just stuck up, and holding grudges on the people that have hurt them in life. That's why I hate when opinionated people give advice. Someone will ask a question about sex with their gf/bf, and there are always at least 5 answers saying ';don't have sex before marriage!'; Seriously, shut up, and respect peoples choices. If they choose to live their lives a certain way, don't try to change that, especially if they're not asking, and especially if you don;t KNOW them.
As for the ';don't worry it will come with time'; I agree with it. Things like love take time, and patience. At least, true love does. You can't sit back and literally just wait for someone to arrive, you have to put yourself out there and work for it. Women have it just as tough though bud. I mean, sure some women yell at men for being pigs about sex, but then there are those guys who are worshiped for having so much sex. God forbid a girl have sex with a man she's not in love with. No, of course that's not accepted, because you know, then it would be logical. People are just way too judge mental.
Haha wow, sorry for the rant.
Firstly women are NOT logical -- it amazes me how these women pass exams as they say such illogical things as you mentioned.
Secondly women by nature are monogomous(sp?) and men polygmous( nature made us to impregnate as many females as we can ---eg millions of sperms Vs women one egg a month)
So what modern women do is try to enforce their instincts of monogomous on us --- if we even think of girls and sex . women act like we have committed the worst sin in the world.
Unfortunately in Western societies especially in America there is a vicious witch hunt againt men ...( these women want to convert us to some feminine toy)
Oh well you get the message.
You can do two things:
Date foreign women ( from Eastern Europe , south America, Asia etc) where things are more realistic .
And secondly avoid American women ....:)
Well then, what you need to do is get in your car, make sure to have money on you, drive downtown to the nearest dive you can find. It's usually something on a corner with a concave red door or something, and hot pink neon verticle lettering overhead that says ';Spanky's'; or ';Endless Possibilities'; Go inside...sit confidently at the bar until you make eye contact with a willing onlooker. Buy her a few drinks, take her home or to a motel and WaLaaa you've got a piece of a**!
And please, please DO wear a condom.
as true as that is, wheres the question?
Hi. Wanna screw? Just teasin, I swear. Just tryin to keep it light. I'm not sure if you want an answer or just felt like ranting, but I will tell you what I think. I guess us girls keep telling yall that because that's how we feel about it? Women are naturally empathetic (it's the middle part of the brain) and a lot of us have only found what we wanted most when we stopped looking. So I guess maybe we weren't listening close enough and had no idea it was different for you, or you weren't listening close enough, I don't know which. Take care.
*I really was just kidding with the joke, please don't get offended.
That's natural for women! Women are more on the emotional aspect and men are more on the physical aspect.
good point.
Many women are delusional and try to rationalize certain situations. They lack a basic understanding of reality. It's easy for a woman, because a woman knows that men are just going to approach her and if she doesn't feel that instant rush, spark, gratifying feeling she might reject, or blow the guy off. They want that instant connection with out putting any work in on creating that connection. Many woman don't understand that if you give someone a chance and get to know that person you might actually find yourself caring deeply for that other person. Women don't understand, or appreciate the effort that guys put in when trying to win someone over. Have you ever heard of a woman complain that if the guy doesn't approach her then he is intimidated and a coward. Many women are hypocrites, because they have no idea what it is actually like to approach and ask someone out. Women are a lot more judgmental then guys are. Woman will jump to conclusions about a guy in the first second of meeting that all he wants is sex, or is a jerk, creep, whatever else when he actually wants to get to know her for her and could possible be the best thing that ever happened to her. Woman tend to stereotype guys. There are a lot of guys that are truly uncaring and cruel and just want sex, but woman tend to lump all guys the same. They fall for the same guy over and over and complain that all guys are the same. The glass ceiling effect is not only in the business world, but also for women in the dating world. I don't want to sound as if I am ranting, because everything I wrote is purely from an observational point on watching people in action. To sum everything up women give bad advice, because they just don't realize, nor know any better.Why do people, especially women, keep giving bad advice to men looking for love/sex help?
good point but my answer to your questions is because they are stupid and honestly dont know but want to share there stupidity with someone who doesnt know any better
Woman can get sex from most guys, if they just asked. They usually won't of course. This is where the ';wait and you'll get them'; approach comes in.
The guy just need to get confidence in himself first, then he looks better to a woman. Woman, by nature IMHO arent as confident in themselves as men, b/c all kinds of stereotypes, and ';that girl';'s turn up.
I found confidence through playing pool, and if I date a woman and take her out, she sees confidence, and that in trigues her to find more... although at the same time she may be replused too.
It;s really a crapshoot since you'll remember the missteps more than the sucesses.
Well certain men are pigs about it. I mean, if a guy wants sex, just for sex, then whatever, that's his choice. I don't think it's wrong, unless he's using a girl that thinks he's in love with her. some guys are just stupid. The women that attack guys for stuff like that are just stuck up, and holding grudges on the people that have hurt them in life. That's why I hate when opinionated people give advice. Someone will ask a question about sex with their gf/bf, and there are always at least 5 answers saying ';don't have sex before marriage!'; Seriously, shut up, and respect peoples choices. If they choose to live their lives a certain way, don't try to change that, especially if they're not asking, and especially if you don;t KNOW them.
As for the ';don't worry it will come with time'; I agree with it. Things like love take time, and patience. At least, true love does. You can't sit back and literally just wait for someone to arrive, you have to put yourself out there and work for it. Women have it just as tough though bud. I mean, sure some women yell at men for being pigs about sex, but then there are those guys who are worshiped for having so much sex. God forbid a girl have sex with a man she's not in love with. No, of course that's not accepted, because you know, then it would be logical. People are just way too judge mental.
Haha wow, sorry for the rant.
Firstly women are NOT logical -- it amazes me how these women pass exams as they say such illogical things as you mentioned.
Secondly women by nature are monogomous(sp?) and men polygmous( nature made us to impregnate as many females as we can ---eg millions of sperms Vs women one egg a month)
So what modern women do is try to enforce their instincts of monogomous on us --- if we even think of girls and sex . women act like we have committed the worst sin in the world.
Unfortunately in Western societies especially in America there is a vicious witch hunt againt men ...( these women want to convert us to some feminine toy)
Oh well you get the message.
You can do two things:
Date foreign women ( from Eastern Europe , south America, Asia etc) where things are more realistic .
And secondly avoid American women ....:)
Well then, what you need to do is get in your car, make sure to have money on you, drive downtown to the nearest dive you can find. It's usually something on a corner with a concave red door or something, and hot pink neon verticle lettering overhead that says ';Spanky's'; or ';Endless Possibilities'; Go inside...sit confidently at the bar until you make eye contact with a willing onlooker. Buy her a few drinks, take her home or to a motel and WaLaaa you've got a piece of a**!
And please, please DO wear a condom.
as true as that is, wheres the question?
Hi. Wanna screw? Just teasin, I swear. Just tryin to keep it light. I'm not sure if you want an answer or just felt like ranting, but I will tell you what I think. I guess us girls keep telling yall that because that's how we feel about it? Women are naturally empathetic (it's the middle part of the brain) and a lot of us have only found what we wanted most when we stopped looking. So I guess maybe we weren't listening close enough and had no idea it was different for you, or you weren't listening close enough, I don't know which. Take care.
*I really was just kidding with the joke, please don't get offended.
That's natural for women! Women are more on the emotional aspect and men are more on the physical aspect.
good point.
How can i revive my husband's libido? advice from men especially appreciated?
hi,
i would like some advice from men who used to have a low libido but have a good libido now. what did you do to get your sex life back on track? what did your wife or long term girlfriend do to get you exited again, or what did you do yourself to get into the mood for sex again?
i'm with my husband for 11 years, i'm 29, slim and have a good libido and i'm also up for new things in the bedroom/bathroom/kitchen depending.
my husband is 41 and his libido is extremely variable, as in for a month or so we might make love every day or even more than once but then suddenly he loses interest and no matter what i try, be it dirty talk, nice underwear etc, nothing gets him exited. we haven't been intimate in any way apart from hugging whilst standing up in the kitchen since before christmas but everytime i make a move, he's either too tired, playing a computer game or something good is on the telly, backache etc.
i have to add that we do have 3 children aged 10, 8 and 1 year old. but they all go to bed at 9 at the latest so in the evening there should be plenty of time but he doesn't seem to want to make time by putting the computer away or whatever. he gets plenty of sleep, i get up with the kids every morning except maybe once a week and let him sleep until between 11 and 2 in the afternoon.
please give me some advice on how to turn him on again. whenever i try to talk to him about it he blames me, because i go to bed between 11 and 12 every night. but i still have to do nightfeeds and get up at 7 every morning, so it's not really feasable for me to stay up ntil 3 am every night in the hope that he might get in the mood for sex. he still masturbates so where am i going wrong. trying to turn him on doesn't work, and just waiting for him to make a move hasn't worked either. one other excuse of his, fear of another pregnancy before we are ready has been taken care of by me getting a coil fitted, but i have it 3 weeks now and still nothing.
help.How can i revive my husband's libido? advice from men especially appreciated?
You don't want to pressurise him too much but I think communication is key.
Keep him talking (if possible). don't let sex become a 'taboo' i.e., too painful to discuss....
Assuming its not a medical or serious emotional/mental issue....then it is probably that he feels unsexual and every advance you make puts pressure on him to perform. The best way out is probably to show him that he can satisfy you with his hands or mouth. Or just ask him if he'll lie down and let you just 'use' his body, with no pressure on him to do much. (I find that non-penetrative sex can be really sexy and one reason is that I don't have to 'perform'.)
Another thing that might work is to have on and off nights. Agree that say Tues and Sat is a sex night so that on other nghts its not brought up. On the sex nights, make it fun...no pressure just fun....If he doesn't want to do anything maybe he'll watch you masturbate....
...Lastly try to have sexual contact every day. Ask him if he'll touch you betwen the legs every day just for a few minutes...just resting his hand there to create a moment of sexual intimacy....(but no pressure to go further).
I hope that is in someway helpful!!How can i revive my husband's libido? advice from men especially appreciated?
I think it's the pregnancy issue; 3 weeks is not long enough to be safe yet.
Talk to him more, tell him you have to get to sleep and that he can get back up after wards if he really wants to.
Yeah what a selfish f*** it sound like to me. I only wish my wife would do some s*** like that to turn me on. We're 31 and 32 respectively and her drive is in neutral all the time and she gets off three or four times when we do. I would say get yourself a toy or man that is in your shoes and the possibilities are endless. Sound like you are at his beck and call. Do yourself a favor for a month. Take the advice above and when his jerkin is no longer workin and wants a piece tell him you need to take a bath or a nap to get rested up since you obviously do so much more for your children. Sorry for rambling you hit a hot button! Good luck!~
He goes to bed at 3 am and sleeps until 2 in the afternoon???? Doesn't the man have a job??? He sounds selfish and lazy to me.
The other poster is incorrect...a coil is effective immediately after insertion. Does your husband know this?
i would like some advice from men who used to have a low libido but have a good libido now. what did you do to get your sex life back on track? what did your wife or long term girlfriend do to get you exited again, or what did you do yourself to get into the mood for sex again?
i'm with my husband for 11 years, i'm 29, slim and have a good libido and i'm also up for new things in the bedroom/bathroom/kitchen depending.
my husband is 41 and his libido is extremely variable, as in for a month or so we might make love every day or even more than once but then suddenly he loses interest and no matter what i try, be it dirty talk, nice underwear etc, nothing gets him exited. we haven't been intimate in any way apart from hugging whilst standing up in the kitchen since before christmas but everytime i make a move, he's either too tired, playing a computer game or something good is on the telly, backache etc.
i have to add that we do have 3 children aged 10, 8 and 1 year old. but they all go to bed at 9 at the latest so in the evening there should be plenty of time but he doesn't seem to want to make time by putting the computer away or whatever. he gets plenty of sleep, i get up with the kids every morning except maybe once a week and let him sleep until between 11 and 2 in the afternoon.
please give me some advice on how to turn him on again. whenever i try to talk to him about it he blames me, because i go to bed between 11 and 12 every night. but i still have to do nightfeeds and get up at 7 every morning, so it's not really feasable for me to stay up ntil 3 am every night in the hope that he might get in the mood for sex. he still masturbates so where am i going wrong. trying to turn him on doesn't work, and just waiting for him to make a move hasn't worked either. one other excuse of his, fear of another pregnancy before we are ready has been taken care of by me getting a coil fitted, but i have it 3 weeks now and still nothing.
help.How can i revive my husband's libido? advice from men especially appreciated?
You don't want to pressurise him too much but I think communication is key.
Keep him talking (if possible). don't let sex become a 'taboo' i.e., too painful to discuss....
Assuming its not a medical or serious emotional/mental issue....then it is probably that he feels unsexual and every advance you make puts pressure on him to perform. The best way out is probably to show him that he can satisfy you with his hands or mouth. Or just ask him if he'll lie down and let you just 'use' his body, with no pressure on him to do much. (I find that non-penetrative sex can be really sexy and one reason is that I don't have to 'perform'.)
Another thing that might work is to have on and off nights. Agree that say Tues and Sat is a sex night so that on other nghts its not brought up. On the sex nights, make it fun...no pressure just fun....If he doesn't want to do anything maybe he'll watch you masturbate....
...Lastly try to have sexual contact every day. Ask him if he'll touch you betwen the legs every day just for a few minutes...just resting his hand there to create a moment of sexual intimacy....(but no pressure to go further).
I hope that is in someway helpful!!How can i revive my husband's libido? advice from men especially appreciated?
I think it's the pregnancy issue; 3 weeks is not long enough to be safe yet.
Talk to him more, tell him you have to get to sleep and that he can get back up after wards if he really wants to.
Yeah what a selfish f*** it sound like to me. I only wish my wife would do some s*** like that to turn me on. We're 31 and 32 respectively and her drive is in neutral all the time and she gets off three or four times when we do. I would say get yourself a toy or man that is in your shoes and the possibilities are endless. Sound like you are at his beck and call. Do yourself a favor for a month. Take the advice above and when his jerkin is no longer workin and wants a piece tell him you need to take a bath or a nap to get rested up since you obviously do so much more for your children. Sorry for rambling you hit a hot button! Good luck!~
He goes to bed at 3 am and sleeps until 2 in the afternoon???? Doesn't the man have a job??? He sounds selfish and lazy to me.
The other poster is incorrect...a coil is effective immediately after insertion. Does your husband know this?
Do all military men cheat?....need advice?
I just started dating this drill instructor in the marines and he is a nice person ..... i trust him.....people at my job are saying to keep checking to see if he's married there's a lady at my job that is pressuring me to investigate on him i feel soo bad about this situation i don't know what to do but i keep hearing this everyday i work around drill instructors and i know alot that faithfully wear their wedding band and some who don't.....what should i do?.....i feel that it's jealousy how do I stop it?Do all military men cheat?....need advice?
That is an akward situation! I don't think it is safe to generalize, though there is a lot of adultery in all parts of society, not just in the military. Investigating, reasonably, is OK. Just don't go overboard. Is it just a stereotype that makes your friend assume that he is married and cheating? Is there any other evidence?
Talk to him about his family (relatives and such). Casually ask him if he's ever been married. Get a sense of wether he is really open and honest or if he is hiding something.Do all military men cheat?....need advice?
hell to the mother ******* yes cause if there's no p***y to f**k that ***** gonna find him a hoe and f**k then lie to u and say he love u while f**king another *****
To answer your question, it is in a man's nature to cheat. All ment cheat. All women cheat. Cheating is the result of human weakness. Just accept the fact that he cheats and make the best of it by allowing him to sew his oats. Maybe you will cheat with someone who turns you on. He should accept that. Cheating is the essence of who we are and what we like, and what we expect to get out of life. There's a saying that goes, ';A man who cheats is often unique.'; And then again, ';A woman who cheats must be a freak.';
im dating a guy who was in the navy and no they do not all cheat but a majority do :) sorry thats just how they are and if you are feeling this way then you should check i mean whats the big deal if he is you dump him if he's not you can sleep better at night right? :) good luck
Lots of them do. Sorry to break it to you. Personal experience and knowledge is all I can say. Some military guys are great, but lots of them are asses. (Not that I don't appreciate what they do for their country, but lots of them aren't good people)
not all guys are like that unless they are despret!!!!!!
if you think that then start dating someone else but military men!!!
LOTS of military men cheat! But lots of men cheat! What would it hurt to do a little investigation on your part? You don't have to be weired about it just thorough.
People in your job are jealous, If you staring to have doubts, get away, that is not a way to start anything, drill instructor are no different than the guy next door.
It dont matter what he does for a living! thats stupid. Theres always a chance that someone will cheat. Foret what they say, if u think he might be then he might be. If he goes overseas that increases the chances
I have been in the service and it is not uncommon for men to look outside theri marriage sometimes one way to check up on him would be to call his superiors if he is married though you could potentially ruin his military career as this is supposedly reason for a discharge never did it so don't know for surenatural beauty tips
That is an akward situation! I don't think it is safe to generalize, though there is a lot of adultery in all parts of society, not just in the military. Investigating, reasonably, is OK. Just don't go overboard. Is it just a stereotype that makes your friend assume that he is married and cheating? Is there any other evidence?
Talk to him about his family (relatives and such). Casually ask him if he's ever been married. Get a sense of wether he is really open and honest or if he is hiding something.Do all military men cheat?....need advice?
hell to the mother ******* yes cause if there's no p***y to f**k that ***** gonna find him a hoe and f**k then lie to u and say he love u while f**king another *****
To answer your question, it is in a man's nature to cheat. All ment cheat. All women cheat. Cheating is the result of human weakness. Just accept the fact that he cheats and make the best of it by allowing him to sew his oats. Maybe you will cheat with someone who turns you on. He should accept that. Cheating is the essence of who we are and what we like, and what we expect to get out of life. There's a saying that goes, ';A man who cheats is often unique.'; And then again, ';A woman who cheats must be a freak.';
im dating a guy who was in the navy and no they do not all cheat but a majority do :) sorry thats just how they are and if you are feeling this way then you should check i mean whats the big deal if he is you dump him if he's not you can sleep better at night right? :) good luck
Lots of them do. Sorry to break it to you. Personal experience and knowledge is all I can say. Some military guys are great, but lots of them are asses. (Not that I don't appreciate what they do for their country, but lots of them aren't good people)
not all guys are like that unless they are despret!!!!!!
if you think that then start dating someone else but military men!!!
LOTS of military men cheat! But lots of men cheat! What would it hurt to do a little investigation on your part? You don't have to be weired about it just thorough.
People in your job are jealous, If you staring to have doubts, get away, that is not a way to start anything, drill instructor are no different than the guy next door.
It dont matter what he does for a living! thats stupid. Theres always a chance that someone will cheat. Foret what they say, if u think he might be then he might be. If he goes overseas that increases the chances
I have been in the service and it is not uncommon for men to look outside theri marriage sometimes one way to check up on him would be to call his superiors if he is married though you could potentially ruin his military career as this is supposedly reason for a discharge never did it so don't know for sure
Ladies: do you agree with this dating advice for men?
A ';dating-advice-for-men'; specialist asked this question in one of his web pages:
Among the following methods of preparing for a first date with a woman, which is best?
1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,
and show up with a dozen of them so she would be
';wowed';.
2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so
you could discuss it with her.
3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so
you could take her to dinner... and she could see
that you cared enough to choose something that she
enjoyed.
His answer: ';none of the above';. His claim was that women will interpret any of the above as manipulation.
Ladies, do you agree with that assessment or not? (If you're a guy, please use the opinion of the lady(ies) in your life and not just your own.)Ladies: do you agree with this dating advice for men?
I as a woman appreciate it when a man goes though some trouble to find out what pleases me. So few of them do. It's not manipulation (the advice guy is thinking from a guy's point of view) it's being considerate and thoughtful.Ladies: do you agree with this dating advice for men?
i dont think so. its sweet.
Flowers, in my opinion NO because thats just too over the top.
Among the following methods of preparing for a first date with a woman, which is best?
1) Find out what her favorite type of flowers are,
and show up with a dozen of them so she would be
';wowed';.
2) Learn about her favorite travel destination so
you could discuss it with her.
3) Find out what her favorite type of food is so
you could take her to dinner... and she could see
that you cared enough to choose something that she
enjoyed.
His answer: ';none of the above';. His claim was that women will interpret any of the above as manipulation.
Ladies, do you agree with that assessment or not? (If you're a guy, please use the opinion of the lady(ies) in your life and not just your own.)Ladies: do you agree with this dating advice for men?
I as a woman appreciate it when a man goes though some trouble to find out what pleases me. So few of them do. It's not manipulation (the advice guy is thinking from a guy's point of view) it's being considerate and thoughtful.Ladies: do you agree with this dating advice for men?
i dont think so. its sweet.
Flowers, in my opinion NO because thats just too over the top.
Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
ok so me and my fella were due to marry in 3 months but yesterday he turns round and says he doesn't think he can do it! (something just feels wrong'; he says) i dont know why? we are both single apart from to each other no other commitment, and been together for six years! he has now gone home to think about things, but we agreed before he left that we would stay together as i would rather forget the marriage than throw away 6 years! so when he left he promised he would let me know when he was on train and stuff and when he got home as he knows how much i worry! now phone is off and i cant get through and i wonder is he having major cold feet, am i fool for saying we will stay together i dont know what to do! do i say f$%k it and move on although my heart truly does not want to!!! help please!!!!!Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
dont make any hasty decisions. wait until he has had time to think it through properly, then sit down and discuss it together. he may just have cold feet and want to stay together. if you say f$%k it and walk away your not giving him a chance.Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
u can live without him. u need to follow that line of thinking to your own happiness.
sorry to hear about your suffering, but you are not going to get through this evenly if you subjugate your well-being to his whims. take a break and find your inner peace before you hastily decide on anything but figuring out how to move on in a positive direction either way.
good luck.
Sounds like commitment jitters. Don't strangle him - if he decides it's not for him, then you're better off anyway. It might take a bit of cool distance to make him understand what life will be like without you by his side. Get out with your own mates a bit and check in with him when you can. Best bet - don't get in his face and let him have his distance. I suspect he'll be lonely before your are!
I think you just need to give him space, and let him get his head together. Weddings are a huge stress and he may just need some time alone to work things through in his mind. I dont think you should move on, you havent even split up so why should you !!!
I would wait for him to contact you, then at least you know he has gotten in touch because he really wants to and not because he has to.
The time apart will make you stronger, 6 years is a long time - it was maybe just too intense for him.
Hope he calls soon!
:o)
whats with the whole ';marriage'; thing. what are you a pair of 18 year olds? is there a family dowry thing going? I mean, just think about it? Just LEAVE IT AS IT IS!!! So, youwear a pretty dress and get into loads of debt and nothing really changes does it? except thee added pressure on the realtionship i cant see how this is a move forward.
%26gt;%26gt;What i mean is, maybe you should just give up on it. its really not a big deal. And if it matters to you, then just move on. Some guys just react really badly to the idea
dont make any hasty decisions. wait until he has had time to think it through properly, then sit down and discuss it together. he may just have cold feet and want to stay together. if you say f$%k it and walk away your not giving him a chance.Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
u can live without him. u need to follow that line of thinking to your own happiness.
sorry to hear about your suffering, but you are not going to get through this evenly if you subjugate your well-being to his whims. take a break and find your inner peace before you hastily decide on anything but figuring out how to move on in a positive direction either way.
good luck.
Sounds like commitment jitters. Don't strangle him - if he decides it's not for him, then you're better off anyway. It might take a bit of cool distance to make him understand what life will be like without you by his side. Get out with your own mates a bit and check in with him when you can. Best bet - don't get in his face and let him have his distance. I suspect he'll be lonely before your are!
I think you just need to give him space, and let him get his head together. Weddings are a huge stress and he may just need some time alone to work things through in his mind. I dont think you should move on, you havent even split up so why should you !!!
I would wait for him to contact you, then at least you know he has gotten in touch because he really wants to and not because he has to.
The time apart will make you stronger, 6 years is a long time - it was maybe just too intense for him.
Hope he calls soon!
:o)
whats with the whole ';marriage'; thing. what are you a pair of 18 year olds? is there a family dowry thing going? I mean, just think about it? Just LEAVE IT AS IT IS!!! So, youwear a pretty dress and get into loads of debt and nothing really changes does it? except thee added pressure on the realtionship i cant see how this is a move forward.
%26gt;%26gt;What i mean is, maybe you should just give up on it. its really not a big deal. And if it matters to you, then just move on. Some guys just react really badly to the idea
I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I just don't know what to do about my marriage anymore. My husband and I were PERFECT before we got married, and everyone else said so but when we got married and had our son, it all changed. He stopped talking to me, he tells me everything I'm interested in, ';Only an idiot would care about'; or something similar, he quit sleeping with me.. now we got months at a time and nothing but a little kiss, usually on the forehead, before he leaves for work.. all of this started just months after our baby was born so, upon the advice of my best friend, I stopped cooking for him, washing his clothes, packing his lunches, laying out his clothes.. everything. I stopped doing everything for him, which is what he did for me (besides working, but I see it this way- his job is his work, my job is caring for our baby.. we're even. Everything else I will resume as soon as I start to get some respect again) This is what I told him the other day when he started yelling at me and I asked him to please be an adult and not yell at me in front of our son and he slammed the laptop on my hand and smashed my pinky so as a reaction I knocked it off my lap and he went crazy! He raised up his foot (He was half sitting/laying on the couch) and slammed it down/kicked me in the top of my thigh as hard as he could. I didn't react and just told him to please not act like that which made him madder so he sat up and grabbed my left wrist and twisted it as hard as he could. All of this after he had already told me how fat I am and how I can't even sit in a normal chair (which is ridiculous, I absolutely can). IDK, I'm sick of it. He's hit me lots of times. ONce he threw a brand new can of whipped cream at me and hit me in the back of the head. We're supposed to close on some land/a house in five days but I'm thinking of staying here b/c I can't handle it anymore and he just says that he'll take our son with him (he's 2). He's in college and I'm not yet, so he says that no court will give me custody when I have ';no education and no job'; Is that true? I'm just lost and really don't know what to do!I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. You need to get away from him and I know that it is hard because you have a young child. But your husband is an abuser and it's not going to get better. You don't want your son growing up and seeing his dad beat his mom and who's to say that your husband won't eventually start hitting your child. Of course he's going to threaten you and say he'll take your son because he knows that using your son will make you stay and put up w/ the abuse. Talk to a family lawyer, some offer a free consultation and also look a women's shelter. I know they can help and protect you and your son. Hopefully you have family you can also go to for help and support. I really hope you find the help you need.I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I think me and you should talk. Thats' so strange because my boyfriend has done somewhat of the same thing before. You can IM me if you want tanyamarie88 on yahoo...
you would be granted joint access with your husband unless you can show that your husbands contact with your son is detrimental to your sons health and well being.
It sounds as if your husband is jealous since the problems started after your son was born, this is common for men after a baby is born because they no longer have your undivided attention.
If your husband is becoming violent like you say the best thing is to leave, its a big step to take but it can be done. Maybe just being apart for a week will make him see what he is missing if you leave for good. Hope this is helpful, remember its not just you that this happens to nd there are plenty of groups that can offer you support.
TAKE YOUR SON AND GET OUT!!!! Your obviously in an abusive relationship and that is not healthy for you or your child. Sounds to me like he is probably cheating on you also. Men just dont stop wanting sex. Get a divorce. You legally have full custody of your son because you are his mother. Go to a lawyers office and talk to a lawyer about your situation.
Okay first of all thats abuse! Do you love him still? You really need to talk to him say sorry spend more time with him start doing everything again try getting a babysitter and have dates with him more often. Maybe even take your son and his father to a cruise or vacation. If this doesn't stop call the police when he hits you or you have another fight.They will let you keep your son.
You do not deserve to be treated this way. You have a choice to make and that is do you want this marriage to work? If yes, get ready for the long haul. Are you a Christian? If so watch the movie FIREPROOF.
You also need counseling. Do not let the custody thought enter your head. What he said is not true.
I'm saying a prayer for you as I send this. You deserve to be treated with respect.
First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. You need to get away from him and I know that it is hard because you have a young child. But your husband is an abuser and it's not going to get better. You don't want your son growing up and seeing his dad beat his mom and who's to say that your husband won't eventually start hitting your child. Of course he's going to threaten you and say he'll take your son because he knows that using your son will make you stay and put up w/ the abuse. Talk to a family lawyer, some offer a free consultation and also look a women's shelter. I know they can help and protect you and your son. Hopefully you have family you can also go to for help and support. I really hope you find the help you need.I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I think me and you should talk. Thats' so strange because my boyfriend has done somewhat of the same thing before. You can IM me if you want tanyamarie88 on yahoo...
you would be granted joint access with your husband unless you can show that your husbands contact with your son is detrimental to your sons health and well being.
It sounds as if your husband is jealous since the problems started after your son was born, this is common for men after a baby is born because they no longer have your undivided attention.
If your husband is becoming violent like you say the best thing is to leave, its a big step to take but it can be done. Maybe just being apart for a week will make him see what he is missing if you leave for good. Hope this is helpful, remember its not just you that this happens to nd there are plenty of groups that can offer you support.
TAKE YOUR SON AND GET OUT!!!! Your obviously in an abusive relationship and that is not healthy for you or your child. Sounds to me like he is probably cheating on you also. Men just dont stop wanting sex. Get a divorce. You legally have full custody of your son because you are his mother. Go to a lawyers office and talk to a lawyer about your situation.
Okay first of all thats abuse! Do you love him still? You really need to talk to him say sorry spend more time with him start doing everything again try getting a babysitter and have dates with him more often. Maybe even take your son and his father to a cruise or vacation. If this doesn't stop call the police when he hits you or you have another fight.They will let you keep your son.
You do not deserve to be treated this way. You have a choice to make and that is do you want this marriage to work? If yes, get ready for the long haul. Are you a Christian? If so watch the movie FIREPROOF.
You also need counseling. Do not let the custody thought enter your head. What he said is not true.
I'm saying a prayer for you as I send this. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Women.. or men.. i need advice?
ok.. so i talk to tons of guys.... problem is im starting to hate men.. im 19 and i shold be boy crazy! but im not.. the last couple relationships just seem like the guys only want one thing sex! idk wats going on?
am i thinking to hard? making mistakes wats up i need adviceWomen.. or men.. i need advice?
i feel for you
ive felt the exact same.
im 20 and i have alot of guy friends, but the more i talk to them the more i realize some guys are just dogs..not to me but just in general.
i guess you just need some you time, focuse on another stuff, then come back to guys and you'll feel...refresh in a way?
idk if that makes sense..hope it helps :)Women.. or men.. i need advice?
Don't hate men, just try and find someone who likes you for everything you have to offer- good and bad. This could be accomplished by using an internet dating site where you can list all your interests and people find you based on compatibility. You're at an age where yeah all guys want is sex, but you'd be surprised to find that there are some that want relationships.
If you're not interested in sex at 19, I'd check with my physician if I were you. A normal physical reaction to getting excited over the opposite sex is the expectation of sexual gratification; if that doesn't cross your mind(or give you some unusual emotional feelings) when you like a guy, there's something wrong. From your spelling, I can tell you aren't dedicating all your energy to studying, so...lol
Yes you are over thinking things. Try making yourself happy. Go to school and get an education or find work you enjoy pamper yourself and don't worry about all the guy stuff and when you find your happy with yourself that right one will come along and you will still be your own person no matter if your in a relationship or not. Your only 19 find out what you want first with your life.
your not thinking to hard!! you just need to relax! take a breath! stay away for guys for a while! and not being sex crazy is nothing to worry about lots of people aren't!!! and if you Absolutely must then try going bi for a while maybe that will help!! if not sorry! but just take a brake have some options!! go for it!!!:D
Hope this helps!!!
I'm the same way..guys aren't nothing but headaches and heartbreaks. It's just your basically meeting the wrong guys...and those ones are your type...maybe you should try something new or enjoy being single for a while and take a break and let the right one come to you.
Just slow down. I am a guy, I hate to admit it, but most of us are out for one thing. But don;t loose faith in us (men) one will come around that is worth while, and will treat you right.
Sounds like you're picking the wrong fellas, Missy. Take a look at the guys who are attractive to you. Is there a pattern? Time to change that pattern.
your starting to hate men... so you want to be a lesbian is that what your saying, its ok but you need to talk to less people or go get some therapy.
wiht the next guy u date wait on the sex..if he still stays around u know thats not all hes wanting..not all guys r like that
u will find a good guy..
give it time.
yeah well at your ages a lot of guys want flings, sex and physical stuff.
am i thinking to hard? making mistakes wats up i need adviceWomen.. or men.. i need advice?
i feel for you
ive felt the exact same.
im 20 and i have alot of guy friends, but the more i talk to them the more i realize some guys are just dogs..not to me but just in general.
i guess you just need some you time, focuse on another stuff, then come back to guys and you'll feel...refresh in a way?
idk if that makes sense..hope it helps :)Women.. or men.. i need advice?
Don't hate men, just try and find someone who likes you for everything you have to offer- good and bad. This could be accomplished by using an internet dating site where you can list all your interests and people find you based on compatibility. You're at an age where yeah all guys want is sex, but you'd be surprised to find that there are some that want relationships.
If you're not interested in sex at 19, I'd check with my physician if I were you. A normal physical reaction to getting excited over the opposite sex is the expectation of sexual gratification; if that doesn't cross your mind(or give you some unusual emotional feelings) when you like a guy, there's something wrong. From your spelling, I can tell you aren't dedicating all your energy to studying, so...lol
Yes you are over thinking things. Try making yourself happy. Go to school and get an education or find work you enjoy pamper yourself and don't worry about all the guy stuff and when you find your happy with yourself that right one will come along and you will still be your own person no matter if your in a relationship or not. Your only 19 find out what you want first with your life.
your not thinking to hard!! you just need to relax! take a breath! stay away for guys for a while! and not being sex crazy is nothing to worry about lots of people aren't!!! and if you Absolutely must then try going bi for a while maybe that will help!! if not sorry! but just take a brake have some options!! go for it!!!:D
Hope this helps!!!
I'm the same way..guys aren't nothing but headaches and heartbreaks. It's just your basically meeting the wrong guys...and those ones are your type...maybe you should try something new or enjoy being single for a while and take a break and let the right one come to you.
Just slow down. I am a guy, I hate to admit it, but most of us are out for one thing. But don;t loose faith in us (men) one will come around that is worth while, and will treat you right.
Sounds like you're picking the wrong fellas, Missy. Take a look at the guys who are attractive to you. Is there a pattern? Time to change that pattern.
your starting to hate men... so you want to be a lesbian is that what your saying, its ok but you need to talk to less people or go get some therapy.
wiht the next guy u date wait on the sex..if he still stays around u know thats not all hes wanting..not all guys r like that
u will find a good guy..
give it time.
yeah well at your ages a lot of guys want flings, sex and physical stuff.
I Do Not Understand This Guy! Help! Advice From MEN Please?!?
So it all started when I met this guy online. Please don't call me any sort of names for having an online relationship. It's not that I can't get people in real life, I Can, I just this guy caught my interest more than any of them ever could. If you're going to trash talk, leave,I just want advice please and thank you. :] We talked for like a month as friends, but I swore I wouldn't let myself fall for him because I've had my heart broken far too many times in the past. But yes I did end up falling for him. We talk online, text, and talked on the phone every day, how could I not? But I didn't tell him because I didn't think he felt the same way. I went out to a party one night, got really drunk and had some fun with a couple guys. Drunkenly I texted the guy I like and was talking to him, and there's nothing I wont say when drunk. So the next day we got into a huge fight, because he was angry that I was doing things with other guys when he thought I liked him. We talked it over, didn't realize we both had feelings for eachother and decided to 'wait for eachother'. He lives in the United States, and I live in Canada. Now I realized it was stupid to make that promise, I felt I could wait as long as I needed to until I met him, but I didn't expect him to. Like I Said, bad past relationships, low self esteem. I expected him to find someone else, but I didn't want that. We talked for a few weeks, very in love and were making plans to visit eachother when suddenly he says we need to talk.
Apparently his rl best friend told him she loved him and he loves her too. I was heartbroken. He told me he loved me but didn't know who he wanted. Which I was like BS, if you love me you wouldn't be questioning it. But I told him I'd wait to see what he wanted. Because I really do love him. You may not think you can fall in love with someone you haven't met, but I have never loved anyone like I love him and I could picture myself a future with him. We didn't speak for like a day, things were awkward. Then he texts me the next night, he's clearly intoxicated and going on about how much he loves me and wants me there with him.I went along with it not wanting to upset him, but I didn't believe it. Because he's drunk.
Then the next night, depressed I went out and got drunk as well.
And apparently he did as well, I got the same sort of texts, eventually the night ended in him calling me where we had [cant believe I'm admiting this] pretty great great phone s*x for about an hour, and then for a while after he was talking about how much he loved me again, and wanted me there with him.
But what I'm thinking. Am I just that girl he calls when he's drunk or horny? And wants to feel good about himself, to know that someone wants him. When he just wants to get off? Am I nothing but some whore to him, that he would call for an actual booty call if I lived near him? Am I the one he called because he couldn't find anyone where he lives that night?
I'm so confused as to what he wants.
Do I just come out and ask him, if he remembers what he's saying each night when he's drunk and I want to know what I mean to him?
Or do you think that would ruin everything, cause him to stop talking completly and embarass myself?
I need advice.
What is he thinking?
What does he want?
To quote a famous book and movie, is he Just not that Into me?I Do Not Understand This Guy! Help! Advice From MEN Please?!?
lol two drunks saying things they dont mean or do mean back and forth back and forth.I Do Not Understand This Guy! Help! Advice From MEN Please?!?
sounds to me like hes being shady and is being paranoid about what youre doing because he is doing something wrong. honestly, sounds like you need to get rid of him.
Apparently his rl best friend told him she loved him and he loves her too. I was heartbroken. He told me he loved me but didn't know who he wanted. Which I was like BS, if you love me you wouldn't be questioning it. But I told him I'd wait to see what he wanted. Because I really do love him. You may not think you can fall in love with someone you haven't met, but I have never loved anyone like I love him and I could picture myself a future with him. We didn't speak for like a day, things were awkward. Then he texts me the next night, he's clearly intoxicated and going on about how much he loves me and wants me there with him.I went along with it not wanting to upset him, but I didn't believe it. Because he's drunk.
Then the next night, depressed I went out and got drunk as well.
And apparently he did as well, I got the same sort of texts, eventually the night ended in him calling me where we had [cant believe I'm admiting this] pretty great great phone s*x for about an hour, and then for a while after he was talking about how much he loved me again, and wanted me there with him.
But what I'm thinking. Am I just that girl he calls when he's drunk or horny? And wants to feel good about himself, to know that someone wants him. When he just wants to get off? Am I nothing but some whore to him, that he would call for an actual booty call if I lived near him? Am I the one he called because he couldn't find anyone where he lives that night?
I'm so confused as to what he wants.
Do I just come out and ask him, if he remembers what he's saying each night when he's drunk and I want to know what I mean to him?
Or do you think that would ruin everything, cause him to stop talking completly and embarass myself?
I need advice.
What is he thinking?
What does he want?
To quote a famous book and movie, is he Just not that Into me?I Do Not Understand This Guy! Help! Advice From MEN Please?!?
lol two drunks saying things they dont mean or do mean back and forth back and forth.I Do Not Understand This Guy! Help! Advice From MEN Please?!?
sounds to me like hes being shady and is being paranoid about what youre doing because he is doing something wrong. honestly, sounds like you need to get rid of him.
I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I just don't know what to do about my marriage anymore. My husband and I were PERFECT before we got married, and everyone else said so but when we got married and had our son, it all changed. He stopped talking to me, he tells me everything I'm interested in, ';Only an idiot would care about'; or something similar, he quit sleeping with me.. now we got months at a time and nothing but a little kiss, usually on the forehead, before he leaves for work.. all of this started just months after our baby was born so, upon the advice of my best friend, I stopped cooking for him, washing his clothes, packing his lunches, laying out his clothes.. everything. I stopped doing everything for him, which is what he did for me (besides working, but I see it this way- his job is his work, my job is caring for our baby.. we're even. Everything else I will resume as soon as I start to get some respect again) This is what I told him the other day when he started yelling at me and I asked him to please be an adult and not yell at me in front of our son and he slammed the laptop on my hand and smashed my pinky so as a reaction I knocked it off my lap and he went crazy! He raised up his foot (He was half sitting/laying on the couch) and slammed it down/kicked me in the top of my thigh as hard as he could. I didn't react and just told him to please not act like that which made him madder so he sat up and grabbed my left wrist and twisted it as hard as he could. All of this after he had already told me how fat I am and how I can't even sit in a normal chair (which is ridiculous, I absolutely can). IDK, I'm sick of it. He's hit me lots of times. ONce he threw a brand new can of whipped cream at me and hit me in the back of the head. We're supposed to close on some land/a house in five days but I'm thinking of staying here b/c I can't handle it anymore and he just says that he'll take our son with him (he's 2). He's in college and I'm not yet, so he says that no court will give me custody when I have ';no education and no job'; Is that true? I'm just lost and really don't know what to do!I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. You need to get away from him and I know that it is hard because you have a young child. But your husband is an abuser and it's not going to get better. You don't want your son growing up and seeing his dad beat his mom and who's to say that your husband won't eventually start hitting your child. Of course he's going to threaten you and say he'll take your son because he knows that using your son will make you stay and put up w/ the abuse. Talk to a family lawyer, some offer a free consultation and also look a women's shelter. I know they can help and protect you and your son. Hopefully you have family you can also go to for help and support. I really hope you find the help you need.I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I think me and you should talk. Thats' so strange because my boyfriend has done somewhat of the same thing before. You can IM me if you want tanyamarie88 on yahoo...
you would be granted joint access with your husband unless you can show that your husbands contact with your son is detrimental to your sons health and well being.
It sounds as if your husband is jealous since the problems started after your son was born, this is common for men after a baby is born because they no longer have your undivided attention.
If your husband is becoming violent like you say the best thing is to leave, its a big step to take but it can be done. Maybe just being apart for a week will make him see what he is missing if you leave for good. Hope this is helpful, remember its not just you that this happens to nd there are plenty of groups that can offer you support.
TAKE YOUR SON AND GET OUT!!!! Your obviously in an abusive relationship and that is not healthy for you or your child. Sounds to me like he is probably cheating on you also. Men just dont stop wanting sex. Get a divorce. You legally have full custody of your son because you are his mother. Go to a lawyers office and talk to a lawyer about your situation.
Okay first of all thats abuse! Do you love him still? You really need to talk to him say sorry spend more time with him start doing everything again try getting a babysitter and have dates with him more often. Maybe even take your son and his father to a cruise or vacation. If this doesn't stop call the police when he hits you or you have another fight.They will let you keep your son.
You do not deserve to be treated this way. You have a choice to make and that is do you want this marriage to work? If yes, get ready for the long haul. Are you a Christian? If so watch the movie FIREPROOF.
You also need counseling. Do not let the custody thought enter your head. What he said is not true.
I'm saying a prayer for you as I send this. You deserve to be treated with respect.natural beauty tips
First of all, I am so sorry you are going through this. You need to get away from him and I know that it is hard because you have a young child. But your husband is an abuser and it's not going to get better. You don't want your son growing up and seeing his dad beat his mom and who's to say that your husband won't eventually start hitting your child. Of course he's going to threaten you and say he'll take your son because he knows that using your son will make you stay and put up w/ the abuse. Talk to a family lawyer, some offer a free consultation and also look a women's shelter. I know they can help and protect you and your son. Hopefully you have family you can also go to for help and support. I really hope you find the help you need.I don't know what to do! Advice Please? (Men and women)?
I think me and you should talk. Thats' so strange because my boyfriend has done somewhat of the same thing before. You can IM me if you want tanyamarie88 on yahoo...
you would be granted joint access with your husband unless you can show that your husbands contact with your son is detrimental to your sons health and well being.
It sounds as if your husband is jealous since the problems started after your son was born, this is common for men after a baby is born because they no longer have your undivided attention.
If your husband is becoming violent like you say the best thing is to leave, its a big step to take but it can be done. Maybe just being apart for a week will make him see what he is missing if you leave for good. Hope this is helpful, remember its not just you that this happens to nd there are plenty of groups that can offer you support.
TAKE YOUR SON AND GET OUT!!!! Your obviously in an abusive relationship and that is not healthy for you or your child. Sounds to me like he is probably cheating on you also. Men just dont stop wanting sex. Get a divorce. You legally have full custody of your son because you are his mother. Go to a lawyers office and talk to a lawyer about your situation.
Okay first of all thats abuse! Do you love him still? You really need to talk to him say sorry spend more time with him start doing everything again try getting a babysitter and have dates with him more often. Maybe even take your son and his father to a cruise or vacation. If this doesn't stop call the police when he hits you or you have another fight.They will let you keep your son.
You do not deserve to be treated this way. You have a choice to make and that is do you want this marriage to work? If yes, get ready for the long haul. Are you a Christian? If so watch the movie FIREPROOF.
You also need counseling. Do not let the custody thought enter your head. What he said is not true.
I'm saying a prayer for you as I send this. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
ok so me and my fella were due to marry in 3 months but yesterday he turns round and says he doesn't think he can do it! (something just feels wrong'; he says) i dont know why? we are both single apart from to each other no other commitment, and been together for six years! he has now gone home to think about things, but we agreed before he left that we would stay together as i would rather forget the marriage than throw away 6 years! so when he left he promised he would let me know when he was on train and stuff and when he got home as he knows how much i worry! now phone is off and i cant get through and i wonder is he having major cold feet, am i fool for saying we will stay together i dont know what to do! do i say f$%k it and move on although my heart truly does not want to!!! help please!!!!!Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
dont make any hasty decisions. wait until he has had time to think it through properly, then sit down and discuss it together. he may just have cold feet and want to stay together. if you say f$%k it and walk away your not giving him a chance.Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
u can live without him. u need to follow that line of thinking to your own happiness.
sorry to hear about your suffering, but you are not going to get through this evenly if you subjugate your well-being to his whims. take a break and find your inner peace before you hastily decide on anything but figuring out how to move on in a positive direction either way.
good luck.
Sounds like commitment jitters. Don't strangle him - if he decides it's not for him, then you're better off anyway. It might take a bit of cool distance to make him understand what life will be like without you by his side. Get out with your own mates a bit and check in with him when you can. Best bet - don't get in his face and let him have his distance. I suspect he'll be lonely before your are!
I think you just need to give him space, and let him get his head together. Weddings are a huge stress and he may just need some time alone to work things through in his mind. I dont think you should move on, you havent even split up so why should you !!!
I would wait for him to contact you, then at least you know he has gotten in touch because he really wants to and not because he has to.
The time apart will make you stronger, 6 years is a long time - it was maybe just too intense for him.
Hope he calls soon!
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whats with the whole ';marriage'; thing. what are you a pair of 18 year olds? is there a family dowry thing going? I mean, just think about it? Just LEAVE IT AS IT IS!!! So, youwear a pretty dress and get into loads of debt and nothing really changes does it? except thee added pressure on the realtionship i cant see how this is a move forward.
%26gt;%26gt;What i mean is, maybe you should just give up on it. its really not a big deal. And if it matters to you, then just move on. Some guys just react really badly to the idea
dont make any hasty decisions. wait until he has had time to think it through properly, then sit down and discuss it together. he may just have cold feet and want to stay together. if you say f$%k it and walk away your not giving him a chance.Ok help needed and lots of helpful advice on men walking away from weddings PLEASE!!?
u can live without him. u need to follow that line of thinking to your own happiness.
sorry to hear about your suffering, but you are not going to get through this evenly if you subjugate your well-being to his whims. take a break and find your inner peace before you hastily decide on anything but figuring out how to move on in a positive direction either way.
good luck.
Sounds like commitment jitters. Don't strangle him - if he decides it's not for him, then you're better off anyway. It might take a bit of cool distance to make him understand what life will be like without you by his side. Get out with your own mates a bit and check in with him when you can. Best bet - don't get in his face and let him have his distance. I suspect he'll be lonely before your are!
I think you just need to give him space, and let him get his head together. Weddings are a huge stress and he may just need some time alone to work things through in his mind. I dont think you should move on, you havent even split up so why should you !!!
I would wait for him to contact you, then at least you know he has gotten in touch because he really wants to and not because he has to.
The time apart will make you stronger, 6 years is a long time - it was maybe just too intense for him.
Hope he calls soon!
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whats with the whole ';marriage'; thing. what are you a pair of 18 year olds? is there a family dowry thing going? I mean, just think about it? Just LEAVE IT AS IT IS!!! So, youwear a pretty dress and get into loads of debt and nothing really changes does it? except thee added pressure on the realtionship i cant see how this is a move forward.
%26gt;%26gt;What i mean is, maybe you should just give up on it. its really not a big deal. And if it matters to you, then just move on. Some guys just react really badly to the idea
Women.. or men.. i need advice?
ok.. so i talk to tons of guys.... problem is im starting to hate men.. im 19 and i shold be boy crazy! but im not.. the last couple relationships just seem like the guys only want one thing sex! idk wats going on?
am i thinking to hard? making mistakes wats up i need adviceWomen.. or men.. i need advice?
i feel for you
ive felt the exact same.
im 20 and i have alot of guy friends, but the more i talk to them the more i realize some guys are just dogs..not to me but just in general.
i guess you just need some you time, focuse on another stuff, then come back to guys and you'll feel...refresh in a way?
idk if that makes sense..hope it helps :)Women.. or men.. i need advice?
Don't hate men, just try and find someone who likes you for everything you have to offer- good and bad. This could be accomplished by using an internet dating site where you can list all your interests and people find you based on compatibility. You're at an age where yeah all guys want is sex, but you'd be surprised to find that there are some that want relationships.
If you're not interested in sex at 19, I'd check with my physician if I were you. A normal physical reaction to getting excited over the opposite sex is the expectation of sexual gratification; if that doesn't cross your mind(or give you some unusual emotional feelings) when you like a guy, there's something wrong. From your spelling, I can tell you aren't dedicating all your energy to studying, so...lol
Yes you are over thinking things. Try making yourself happy. Go to school and get an education or find work you enjoy pamper yourself and don't worry about all the guy stuff and when you find your happy with yourself that right one will come along and you will still be your own person no matter if your in a relationship or not. Your only 19 find out what you want first with your life.
your not thinking to hard!! you just need to relax! take a breath! stay away for guys for a while! and not being sex crazy is nothing to worry about lots of people aren't!!! and if you Absolutely must then try going bi for a while maybe that will help!! if not sorry! but just take a brake have some options!! go for it!!!:D
Hope this helps!!!
I'm the same way..guys aren't nothing but headaches and heartbreaks. It's just your basically meeting the wrong guys...and those ones are your type...maybe you should try something new or enjoy being single for a while and take a break and let the right one come to you.
Just slow down. I am a guy, I hate to admit it, but most of us are out for one thing. But don;t loose faith in us (men) one will come around that is worth while, and will treat you right.
Sounds like you're picking the wrong fellas, Missy. Take a look at the guys who are attractive to you. Is there a pattern? Time to change that pattern.
your starting to hate men... so you want to be a lesbian is that what your saying, its ok but you need to talk to less people or go get some therapy.
wiht the next guy u date wait on the sex..if he still stays around u know thats not all hes wanting..not all guys r like that
u will find a good guy..
give it time.
yeah well at your ages a lot of guys want flings, sex and physical stuff.
am i thinking to hard? making mistakes wats up i need adviceWomen.. or men.. i need advice?
i feel for you
ive felt the exact same.
im 20 and i have alot of guy friends, but the more i talk to them the more i realize some guys are just dogs..not to me but just in general.
i guess you just need some you time, focuse on another stuff, then come back to guys and you'll feel...refresh in a way?
idk if that makes sense..hope it helps :)Women.. or men.. i need advice?
Don't hate men, just try and find someone who likes you for everything you have to offer- good and bad. This could be accomplished by using an internet dating site where you can list all your interests and people find you based on compatibility. You're at an age where yeah all guys want is sex, but you'd be surprised to find that there are some that want relationships.
If you're not interested in sex at 19, I'd check with my physician if I were you. A normal physical reaction to getting excited over the opposite sex is the expectation of sexual gratification; if that doesn't cross your mind(or give you some unusual emotional feelings) when you like a guy, there's something wrong. From your spelling, I can tell you aren't dedicating all your energy to studying, so...lol
Yes you are over thinking things. Try making yourself happy. Go to school and get an education or find work you enjoy pamper yourself and don't worry about all the guy stuff and when you find your happy with yourself that right one will come along and you will still be your own person no matter if your in a relationship or not. Your only 19 find out what you want first with your life.
your not thinking to hard!! you just need to relax! take a breath! stay away for guys for a while! and not being sex crazy is nothing to worry about lots of people aren't!!! and if you Absolutely must then try going bi for a while maybe that will help!! if not sorry! but just take a brake have some options!! go for it!!!:D
Hope this helps!!!
I'm the same way..guys aren't nothing but headaches and heartbreaks. It's just your basically meeting the wrong guys...and those ones are your type...maybe you should try something new or enjoy being single for a while and take a break and let the right one come to you.
Just slow down. I am a guy, I hate to admit it, but most of us are out for one thing. But don;t loose faith in us (men) one will come around that is worth while, and will treat you right.
Sounds like you're picking the wrong fellas, Missy. Take a look at the guys who are attractive to you. Is there a pattern? Time to change that pattern.
your starting to hate men... so you want to be a lesbian is that what your saying, its ok but you need to talk to less people or go get some therapy.
wiht the next guy u date wait on the sex..if he still stays around u know thats not all hes wanting..not all guys r like that
u will find a good guy..
give it time.
yeah well at your ages a lot of guys want flings, sex and physical stuff.
28 year old woman needs advice from men in early 30's?
About a year ago I was in Vegas and met a guy. Turns out he lives only 3 hours away from my home town. We had a great night together and exchanged phone numbers.
I went to visit him about 3 months after that and had a decent weekend together. It was a little awkward for me, being out of ';fantasy land'; and into the real world. But he was a great guy and treated me like a lady.
After our weekend, we stayed in touch via phone calls, and text messages, and they all ranged from casual to naughty. In January I moved back to my home town and saw him a week later. We had what I would consider a fabulous weekend. I felt much more comfortable with him, and once again he was a gentlemen. He paid for everything, and he had insisted on paying for dinner. We even hooked up with my friend and her husband for a drink, and yet again, he paid..FOR ALL OF US! What a really nice guy. Right?
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not about the money. It was about me feeling like he wanted to take care of me. Opening doors, holding me close as we walked the streets...etc, etc.
Then Valentines Day was approaching, I really wanted to see if he wanted to get together, but I chickend out. (mostly because it was ';that time of the month'; for me and didn't want that to ruin a romantic weekend.) My friends insisted I at least send him a card, but yet again, I chickend out. I sent him a text message simply saying Happy Valentines Day, and he ended up calling. He asked if I had any plans for the night and I told him I didn't, and when I asked him if he did, he said no. Which made me feel really bummed out.
We still have stayed in touch and are in the works for getting together again next month. I really like this guy, so how do I try to bring it to next level? From what I gather, he's into me to or else he wouldn't stay in touch and treat me like such a lady. But at the same time, we don't talk as much as I would like, which makes me think maybe he doesn't want to bring it to that level.
Ugh...boys...help me out...what do you think?
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ps...I really don't think I am the woman on the side. Both times I visited him, I stayed at his apartment and there was not one shred of evidence that there was another girl around, let alone him being married...haha28 year old woman needs advice from men in early 30's?
I can't see any issues but then all the question comments are from your view. He's trying but you seem to be careful, which is ok. The interest needs to be mutual and if there is any hesitation it has to be the excuses or reasons to hold that up. Talking is better under a place where it's quiet and you can feel free to flow into conversation. I gather you know that and not everyone is a phone person. They do better in a face to face sit down and have to explain, discuss, or just talk about different topics with a good listener. Of course he sounds polite and would allow you to talk freely too. Level you insist upon might be in that turn but held up from comments mentioned above. So do what you think you want to do and let it flow into what ever you want from your perspective. Give him a loose rein on moving to that level. Everything that flows naturally and with ease will seem less stilted and forcing people to pull back moving into other directions. Then you can see what really gives here and the truth will pop out to some clearer resolution. Not cloudy as you portrayed it, but sunny and bright.......28 year old woman needs advice from men in early 30's?
Tell him how you feel, that you love his company and would like more of it, and not just the romance in the bedroom kind. How can we take this to the next level ?
You will soon have your answer. If he bails or offers excuses, then you know you deserve better and it is time to move on. He has been paying and you have been offering.
Beware of this situation. As a woman you may be mistaking sex for love. What does he do all those weeks and months you're not around. If you think he is living the life of a monk you better get counseling. I am still surprised when I hear from a woman who thinks they actually can take it to the next level. You can't change a man, you have to wait him out to see if he is ready for the next level. If you trap a man he will eventually break free.
I'm a little older than 30's but I've got a clue. He's simply a bachelor. Sounds like he's content staying that way. A lady friend here and there and he's a happy man. It doesn't mean he's using you at all. He means he most likely doesn't want to take it to the next level. You could bring it up though. Lots of bachelors have changed when the right girl comes along. My 30 year old son was confirmed until his now live in girlfriend came along.
Well I'm 33 so I guess I'm qualified to answer this one! First, us men know all about your little time of the month and you gals should never be embarrassed by it. Thats a terrible reason to not go on the trip. I would have rather seen you than not, even if downstairs stuff wasn't going to be an option. There is no way I could tell you what this guy is thinking or wanting from this relationship. Guys are just as different from one to another as girls are. If you like this guy, chickening out certainly won't help you land him. For me, hard to get is a turn off. I simply lose interest and move on. If all you did for Vday was send him a text, he probably is assuming you're not very interested and may act accordingly. Thats what I would do anyway. Its not a lack of confidence. Once you're in your thirties, you've pretty much figured out where you stand with the opposite sex. And you've realized sometimes ugly girls don't like ya, and sometimes hot girls love ya. Just don't assume if this does really like you that he will necessarily make all the moves. You gotta meet him half way. Don't end up later on regretting you weren't more forward with him. good luck.
i just think you guys are dating. you live far from each other. you act like 3 hours isn't a big deal. i think that you should just see where it goes. either you guys will click or you wont. or you can grow some balls and tell him you like him and want to know what he's looking for cause you're looking for a relationship and if he's not, move on.
personally, i would just play it by ear and keep dating other people. dont come off desperate cause i'm sure you're not.
I went to visit him about 3 months after that and had a decent weekend together. It was a little awkward for me, being out of ';fantasy land'; and into the real world. But he was a great guy and treated me like a lady.
After our weekend, we stayed in touch via phone calls, and text messages, and they all ranged from casual to naughty. In January I moved back to my home town and saw him a week later. We had what I would consider a fabulous weekend. I felt much more comfortable with him, and once again he was a gentlemen. He paid for everything, and he had insisted on paying for dinner. We even hooked up with my friend and her husband for a drink, and yet again, he paid..FOR ALL OF US! What a really nice guy. Right?
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not about the money. It was about me feeling like he wanted to take care of me. Opening doors, holding me close as we walked the streets...etc, etc.
Then Valentines Day was approaching, I really wanted to see if he wanted to get together, but I chickend out. (mostly because it was ';that time of the month'; for me and didn't want that to ruin a romantic weekend.) My friends insisted I at least send him a card, but yet again, I chickend out. I sent him a text message simply saying Happy Valentines Day, and he ended up calling. He asked if I had any plans for the night and I told him I didn't, and when I asked him if he did, he said no. Which made me feel really bummed out.
We still have stayed in touch and are in the works for getting together again next month. I really like this guy, so how do I try to bring it to next level? From what I gather, he's into me to or else he wouldn't stay in touch and treat me like such a lady. But at the same time, we don't talk as much as I would like, which makes me think maybe he doesn't want to bring it to that level.
Ugh...boys...help me out...what do you think?
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ps...I really don't think I am the woman on the side. Both times I visited him, I stayed at his apartment and there was not one shred of evidence that there was another girl around, let alone him being married...haha28 year old woman needs advice from men in early 30's?
I can't see any issues but then all the question comments are from your view. He's trying but you seem to be careful, which is ok. The interest needs to be mutual and if there is any hesitation it has to be the excuses or reasons to hold that up. Talking is better under a place where it's quiet and you can feel free to flow into conversation. I gather you know that and not everyone is a phone person. They do better in a face to face sit down and have to explain, discuss, or just talk about different topics with a good listener. Of course he sounds polite and would allow you to talk freely too. Level you insist upon might be in that turn but held up from comments mentioned above. So do what you think you want to do and let it flow into what ever you want from your perspective. Give him a loose rein on moving to that level. Everything that flows naturally and with ease will seem less stilted and forcing people to pull back moving into other directions. Then you can see what really gives here and the truth will pop out to some clearer resolution. Not cloudy as you portrayed it, but sunny and bright.......28 year old woman needs advice from men in early 30's?
Tell him how you feel, that you love his company and would like more of it, and not just the romance in the bedroom kind. How can we take this to the next level ?
You will soon have your answer. If he bails or offers excuses, then you know you deserve better and it is time to move on. He has been paying and you have been offering.
Beware of this situation. As a woman you may be mistaking sex for love. What does he do all those weeks and months you're not around. If you think he is living the life of a monk you better get counseling. I am still surprised when I hear from a woman who thinks they actually can take it to the next level. You can't change a man, you have to wait him out to see if he is ready for the next level. If you trap a man he will eventually break free.
I'm a little older than 30's but I've got a clue. He's simply a bachelor. Sounds like he's content staying that way. A lady friend here and there and he's a happy man. It doesn't mean he's using you at all. He means he most likely doesn't want to take it to the next level. You could bring it up though. Lots of bachelors have changed when the right girl comes along. My 30 year old son was confirmed until his now live in girlfriend came along.
Well I'm 33 so I guess I'm qualified to answer this one! First, us men know all about your little time of the month and you gals should never be embarrassed by it. Thats a terrible reason to not go on the trip. I would have rather seen you than not, even if downstairs stuff wasn't going to be an option. There is no way I could tell you what this guy is thinking or wanting from this relationship. Guys are just as different from one to another as girls are. If you like this guy, chickening out certainly won't help you land him. For me, hard to get is a turn off. I simply lose interest and move on. If all you did for Vday was send him a text, he probably is assuming you're not very interested and may act accordingly. Thats what I would do anyway. Its not a lack of confidence. Once you're in your thirties, you've pretty much figured out where you stand with the opposite sex. And you've realized sometimes ugly girls don't like ya, and sometimes hot girls love ya. Just don't assume if this does really like you that he will necessarily make all the moves. You gotta meet him half way. Don't end up later on regretting you weren't more forward with him. good luck.
i just think you guys are dating. you live far from each other. you act like 3 hours isn't a big deal. i think that you should just see where it goes. either you guys will click or you wont. or you can grow some balls and tell him you like him and want to know what he's looking for cause you're looking for a relationship and if he's not, move on.
personally, i would just play it by ear and keep dating other people. dont come off desperate cause i'm sure you're not.
Is this the best dating advice for men ever?
';Just be as rich and handsome as you can be.....if you have super high social status that will help to. If none of these things apply, then it really doesn't matter what you do - it will still be a roll of the dice dependent on her first reaction of you, her mood, what's going on in her life at the moment, and how horny she is....good luck.';Is this the best dating advice for men ever?
Second best.
First is, Don't date.Is this the best dating advice for men ever?
I'm sorry but I disagree. I handsome man can become repulsive if he has a miserable personality and often times the fact that a man considers himself very handsome causes him to be condescending and believe he is entitled to have any woman he wants and a rich man often believes he can buy his way into any relationship and that a woman has to go out of her way to make him happy because of his wealth. I would say those are the things that matter least but I suppose it depends on what the woman is interested in.
I'm not saying looks are not important but a well mannered and educated man can go a lot further with a woman.
Yea, all losers will blame their problems on other people.
You will find out that the only person who really cares about your happiness and your dating success is you. If you don't do anything to improve yourself, then don't expect the whole world to magically change in your favor all of a sudden.
Instead of whining that women reject you before you even open your mouth (and begging all women everywhere to change their preferences just for you), you could try to improve yourself by reading books on how to approach women. Some, like ';The Mystery Method'; are in your local library and you can read them for free. The best is David D's ';Double Your Dating';. It is an e-book that you have to pay for, but it has some type of money back provision so that you can read it and return it for a refund if you don't find it useful (and his website does offer a free dating advice newsletter).
Wow, I would not be the slightest bit interested in a woman that used those objectives as her criteria for judging a ';good catch';.
I would walk away and not look back.
Let me clarify myself, by saying that I do enjoy and appreciate Women, and respect the many facets of their being. However, I do not, or will not cow tow to those of them that feel they are entitled to anything beyond what every human is entitled to, basic respect, and decency, And I also expect that from them. Many times in my life, I havent recieved that from them.
Nah....They did an experiment to find out which kind of man women prefer. They had 2 guys, one posing as a millionaire and the other posing as his driver. Women prefered the driver. Then they swapped roles, as in the other man pretended to be the driver and the other was the millionaire.....They all still went for the driver. The difference being was that the driver was wearing a uniform.
Best dating advice i would give to a man is ';Don't date';
@charitar- lol Did you just call me a feminist?? I hope that was a typo....Coz i'm probably THE most ';Anti'; fem in here.
Benny Boodle
His advice is off. Women are attracted to men with money. Just go outside and see it in real life. I've seen a fifty year old doctor go to the bank with the 19 yr old female teller getting a hard on for him, then later raising her voice at me for no apparent reason other than I'm poor.
I just wanted to tell the doctor, doesn't that make you sick. Benny is obviously deflecting the truth which raises my suspicion........ feminist?
benny boodlt
hmmm so you feminists secretly desire of men in uniform? how politically incorrect!!
preaching about the glories of feminized nerd men who take gender studies in college, while secretly dreaming about being rescued by a manly firefighter who absolutely doesnt give a **** about what feminist is
so are u one of those women that admit that most women usually really care for looks and money most of the time? and i have heard dat dating advice from my father, who was told by my grandfather, who was told by my great grandfather and so on.
Yes, the majority of women are looking for a man with money to take care of them.
If they are looking for a certain type of woman yes. Who are you quoting?
EDIT- Whats the genius's name?
Second best.
First is, Don't date.Is this the best dating advice for men ever?
I'm sorry but I disagree. I handsome man can become repulsive if he has a miserable personality and often times the fact that a man considers himself very handsome causes him to be condescending and believe he is entitled to have any woman he wants and a rich man often believes he can buy his way into any relationship and that a woman has to go out of her way to make him happy because of his wealth. I would say those are the things that matter least but I suppose it depends on what the woman is interested in.
I'm not saying looks are not important but a well mannered and educated man can go a lot further with a woman.
Yea, all losers will blame their problems on other people.
You will find out that the only person who really cares about your happiness and your dating success is you. If you don't do anything to improve yourself, then don't expect the whole world to magically change in your favor all of a sudden.
Instead of whining that women reject you before you even open your mouth (and begging all women everywhere to change their preferences just for you), you could try to improve yourself by reading books on how to approach women. Some, like ';The Mystery Method'; are in your local library and you can read them for free. The best is David D's ';Double Your Dating';. It is an e-book that you have to pay for, but it has some type of money back provision so that you can read it and return it for a refund if you don't find it useful (and his website does offer a free dating advice newsletter).
Wow, I would not be the slightest bit interested in a woman that used those objectives as her criteria for judging a ';good catch';.
I would walk away and not look back.
Let me clarify myself, by saying that I do enjoy and appreciate Women, and respect the many facets of their being. However, I do not, or will not cow tow to those of them that feel they are entitled to anything beyond what every human is entitled to, basic respect, and decency, And I also expect that from them. Many times in my life, I havent recieved that from them.
Nah....They did an experiment to find out which kind of man women prefer. They had 2 guys, one posing as a millionaire and the other posing as his driver. Women prefered the driver. Then they swapped roles, as in the other man pretended to be the driver and the other was the millionaire.....They all still went for the driver. The difference being was that the driver was wearing a uniform.
Best dating advice i would give to a man is ';Don't date';
@charitar- lol Did you just call me a feminist?? I hope that was a typo....Coz i'm probably THE most ';Anti'; fem in here.
Benny Boodle
His advice is off. Women are attracted to men with money. Just go outside and see it in real life. I've seen a fifty year old doctor go to the bank with the 19 yr old female teller getting a hard on for him, then later raising her voice at me for no apparent reason other than I'm poor.
I just wanted to tell the doctor, doesn't that make you sick. Benny is obviously deflecting the truth which raises my suspicion........ feminist?
benny boodlt
hmmm so you feminists secretly desire of men in uniform? how politically incorrect!!
preaching about the glories of feminized nerd men who take gender studies in college, while secretly dreaming about being rescued by a manly firefighter who absolutely doesnt give a **** about what feminist is
so are u one of those women that admit that most women usually really care for looks and money most of the time? and i have heard dat dating advice from my father, who was told by my grandfather, who was told by my great grandfather and so on.
Yes, the majority of women are looking for a man with money to take care of them.
If they are looking for a certain type of woman yes. Who are you quoting?
EDIT- Whats the genius's name?
Husband's 40th birthday? Need advice from men and women, please!?
Husband will celebrate 40th birthday soon. Has taken a few weeks off to spend at home. Will leave to Las Vegas for 5 days for birthday. Wants me to leave with him and return before the weekend. Can't get childcare for 5 days and kids have activities we need to drive them to. I feel torn leaving kids behind for 2 nights. Kids have practices, homework, and games during the week. Don't like the idea of dumping them on grandparents while I'm off in Las Vegas. Husband really wants me to go. He works VERY hard and deserves this trip. Not sure if I should go. Advice, please. THANKSHusband's 40th birthday? Need advice from men and women, please!?
1 reason men have affairs,wives aren't there for them.You have to keep your guy#1 in the relationship and this trip is like a minnie honeymoon.If the grandparents are willing to do what you say is keeping you behind then let them have them for the 5 days.What a great 40th party the two of you willl have and rekindle your romance that I'm sure has been put on the back burner with the kids . So go, have fun and don't feel guilty and don't worry about the kids they'll be fine.Husband's 40th birthday? Need advice from men and women, please!?
Accept it, go! You have to trust your parents/in-laws. Make a list of your kids activities and explain clearly to them so that they won't miss their lessons. You should feel great %26amp; happy, bcos from here you let me know that you have a great %26amp; loving husband. Don't disappoint him. Hands in hands %26amp; start your journey happily enjoying the few days, exploring another new world outside your family home. (Temporary forget about household chores %26amp; kids - after all its just a few days.) When enjoy, feel free to enjoy! Good luck!
You sound like you need to get away for a couple of days too. Considering it sounds like you run you @ss off every day. It would be good for your children to have a break from their little hectic lives of school, practice, and games. I think it would be good for everyone if you had your ';little'; vacation. Go for it, and have fun!!
Listen.
He is YOUR HUSBAND. You have to stop feeling guilty about devoting some quality time to your marriage. That is just as important as being there for your kids. It's 2 days!!! It will have NO affect on your kids in the long run and will have wonderful impact on your marriage.
It's called investment. He wants you there so you should make every effort to go. Enjoy him!
I would go. If you do not want to DUMP the kids on grandparents Pay them. They will cost you less than a babysitter and you know you can trust them. Anyway you go about it I suggest you go I have a felling you would regret not going later. Go and have fun you kids will be fine.
Go, silly girl!!
1 reason men have affairs,wives aren't there for them.You have to keep your guy#1 in the relationship and this trip is like a minnie honeymoon.If the grandparents are willing to do what you say is keeping you behind then let them have them for the 5 days.What a great 40th party the two of you willl have and rekindle your romance that I'm sure has been put on the back burner with the kids . So go, have fun and don't feel guilty and don't worry about the kids they'll be fine.Husband's 40th birthday? Need advice from men and women, please!?
Accept it, go! You have to trust your parents/in-laws. Make a list of your kids activities and explain clearly to them so that they won't miss their lessons. You should feel great %26amp; happy, bcos from here you let me know that you have a great %26amp; loving husband. Don't disappoint him. Hands in hands %26amp; start your journey happily enjoying the few days, exploring another new world outside your family home. (Temporary forget about household chores %26amp; kids - after all its just a few days.) When enjoy, feel free to enjoy! Good luck!
You sound like you need to get away for a couple of days too. Considering it sounds like you run you @ss off every day. It would be good for your children to have a break from their little hectic lives of school, practice, and games. I think it would be good for everyone if you had your ';little'; vacation. Go for it, and have fun!!
Listen.
He is YOUR HUSBAND. You have to stop feeling guilty about devoting some quality time to your marriage. That is just as important as being there for your kids. It's 2 days!!! It will have NO affect on your kids in the long run and will have wonderful impact on your marriage.
It's called investment. He wants you there so you should make every effort to go. Enjoy him!
I would go. If you do not want to DUMP the kids on grandparents Pay them. They will cost you less than a babysitter and you know you can trust them. Anyway you go about it I suggest you go I have a felling you would regret not going later. Go and have fun you kids will be fine.
Go, silly girl!!
Men, need adult advice.. serious answers please?
Gentlemen, I need your help. Can you please give me some advice about what turns you on, what is a good foreplay technique and what really drives you wild? I am looking to surprise my husband, and need soem new ideas.
Please don't say the lingerie, candles, striptease thing... been there done that. Its fun, but I am looking for something really new, really raw and even raunchy would not offend. Please don't hold back, tell me what you desire, crave, need and what you think I could do, what might blow his mind?
I appreciate the advice :)Men, need adult advice.. serious answers please?
OK..A lot of the answers above are true but if you want to keep a guy coming back for more here's the secret..Unlike woman who have the ability to have several orgasms in a row [yes I'm jealous] most guys can't. So with us the key is the intensity of the orgasm.
To make this happen is simple. Bring us close to orgasm several time with out letting us go over the edge. About the fifth time finally let us go.. Not only will you have to peal us off the ceiling I guaranty he will beg to come back..
One last thing what ever the way is that you choose to get us there, make it one you truly enjoy. Nothing is worse then feeling she is going through the motions..Hopes this helpsMen, need adult advice.. serious answers please?
Willingness - intiative - sense of adventure.
The rest is details and up to you.
We can offer ideas all day and all day you can say ';done that.';
So remove that middle conversation and use the above three principles to take you places only *you* know you haven't been yet.
Clevage with extremely sexy clothing. Kill him in seduction, kiss him and go away. Let him follow you and just ignore him. Be strict in your tone and once he seems tired , get on the bed with him, throw urself on him and lick and bite his chest. I hope that helps!
lay in bed nude with rear hiked up in air when he comes home use sex toys when he comes home have one way up in u is awesome my wife does it all the time
There is no one thing that will work for all men. EXCEPT...the chase. Men love to conquer. So, set up some scenes that begin out of the house, you don't know each other, he comes on, you repel, he overwhelms you with his ';charm,'; you end up going to a cheap motel, and do the deed...You could both be married, sneaking around. Cheap thrills are great. Go for it. It isn't so much what you do, it is how you do it.
Try playing with food. Start first with whipped cream or mousse being eaten off each other. Go on to syrups (chocolate or fruit) or drink concoctions (wine, champagne, or bar drinks like pina colada or daiquiri). Maybe even serve yourself for dinner, covered with edible treats so he can eat to your pleasures.
i wouldnt answer this here, but i think you can get a book from the library called ';Kama Sutra'; it has explicite details of stuff.. very different from western cultures
My wife tries to mix it up, there is no one thing - but more the element of surprise. Once she was cooking dinner when I walked in and she had on a t-shirt and apron but once I walked around the counter island and she bent over to put something in the oven I could see she wasn't wearing anything on the lower half, it got some juices flowing. Another time she just stripped and walked in on me showering and joined me, another time she waited til I fell asleep and began to arouse me and pleasure me while I slowly awoke and then went for a ride. There are lots of simple things that can be done sometimes it seems more arousing when they aren't expected. Toys are fun but always better for a rainy day where you can take your time and try out new things. Right now she is pregnant (5 mos) and has that nice round belly, but she still walks into the living room unzips me and does the reverse cowboy. Keep it new fresh and lively!
buy the strap on, and try do his rear end with a lot lube. Maybe he will like it. Sorry if too vulgar. That is always in head that I want to do to my hubby. By the way, I am woman lol.
I know you asked men, but I know what turns my husband on. If you have long hair have him strip naked, tell him he is not allowed to touch you until you tell him to. Be over top of him and let your hair just brush his entire body, it kind of tickles and arouses at the same time, and the idea of not touching you makes it even better. After that gently kiss him from fead to toe saving his special area for last, go so close that he thinks you are going to then move to a different area. Do that and he should be ready to blow just from the anticipation!! Good luck and have fun
My advice is this, talk to him more and get hints from HIM what he likes and then surprise him one day. Asking other guys what they like, won't really help him, we are all different. Also, it might not sit too well that you ask random guys about sexual things, even if it is for him.
Books, or getting info from him, but my best advice is communication with him about what feels good and what he likes. Beyond that you are playing with fire. He'll want to know where it came from too, so be careful.
Hmmmm I'd like to know too. That's why im here.
When he comes home from work have dinner on the table with a note telling him to start with out you and you will join him for the food later. and you secretly would be hiding under the table waiting on him to sit down and you would unzip him and give him a bj and then crawl out from the other end of the table and say (hi honey how was your day) and sit down and act like nothing had happened.
candles do NOTHING for men, by the way.
Pick him up at his work in your car -- naked. Masturbate while you drive, but don't climax. Ask him to masturbate but not climax while you drive beside a sexy looking women in an SUV, while she watches. Park your car in front of your house and both of you get out and walk to the house naked.
Make love in your back yard where your neighbors can see you.
You are in dangerous territory. Know your husband first before you try the crazy stuff. Not all men are into wild stuff. If your husband is a nerdy engineer, you might make him think you had a past he didn't know about and he will hit the Escape button.black heads
Please don't say the lingerie, candles, striptease thing... been there done that. Its fun, but I am looking for something really new, really raw and even raunchy would not offend. Please don't hold back, tell me what you desire, crave, need and what you think I could do, what might blow his mind?
I appreciate the advice :)Men, need adult advice.. serious answers please?
OK..A lot of the answers above are true but if you want to keep a guy coming back for more here's the secret..Unlike woman who have the ability to have several orgasms in a row [yes I'm jealous] most guys can't. So with us the key is the intensity of the orgasm.
To make this happen is simple. Bring us close to orgasm several time with out letting us go over the edge. About the fifth time finally let us go.. Not only will you have to peal us off the ceiling I guaranty he will beg to come back..
One last thing what ever the way is that you choose to get us there, make it one you truly enjoy. Nothing is worse then feeling she is going through the motions..Hopes this helpsMen, need adult advice.. serious answers please?
Willingness - intiative - sense of adventure.
The rest is details and up to you.
We can offer ideas all day and all day you can say ';done that.';
So remove that middle conversation and use the above three principles to take you places only *you* know you haven't been yet.
Clevage with extremely sexy clothing. Kill him in seduction, kiss him and go away. Let him follow you and just ignore him. Be strict in your tone and once he seems tired , get on the bed with him, throw urself on him and lick and bite his chest. I hope that helps!
lay in bed nude with rear hiked up in air when he comes home use sex toys when he comes home have one way up in u is awesome my wife does it all the time
There is no one thing that will work for all men. EXCEPT...the chase. Men love to conquer. So, set up some scenes that begin out of the house, you don't know each other, he comes on, you repel, he overwhelms you with his ';charm,'; you end up going to a cheap motel, and do the deed...You could both be married, sneaking around. Cheap thrills are great. Go for it. It isn't so much what you do, it is how you do it.
Try playing with food. Start first with whipped cream or mousse being eaten off each other. Go on to syrups (chocolate or fruit) or drink concoctions (wine, champagne, or bar drinks like pina colada or daiquiri). Maybe even serve yourself for dinner, covered with edible treats so he can eat to your pleasures.
i wouldnt answer this here, but i think you can get a book from the library called ';Kama Sutra'; it has explicite details of stuff.. very different from western cultures
My wife tries to mix it up, there is no one thing - but more the element of surprise. Once she was cooking dinner when I walked in and she had on a t-shirt and apron but once I walked around the counter island and she bent over to put something in the oven I could see she wasn't wearing anything on the lower half, it got some juices flowing. Another time she just stripped and walked in on me showering and joined me, another time she waited til I fell asleep and began to arouse me and pleasure me while I slowly awoke and then went for a ride. There are lots of simple things that can be done sometimes it seems more arousing when they aren't expected. Toys are fun but always better for a rainy day where you can take your time and try out new things. Right now she is pregnant (5 mos) and has that nice round belly, but she still walks into the living room unzips me and does the reverse cowboy. Keep it new fresh and lively!
buy the strap on, and try do his rear end with a lot lube. Maybe he will like it. Sorry if too vulgar. That is always in head that I want to do to my hubby. By the way, I am woman lol.
I know you asked men, but I know what turns my husband on. If you have long hair have him strip naked, tell him he is not allowed to touch you until you tell him to. Be over top of him and let your hair just brush his entire body, it kind of tickles and arouses at the same time, and the idea of not touching you makes it even better. After that gently kiss him from fead to toe saving his special area for last, go so close that he thinks you are going to then move to a different area. Do that and he should be ready to blow just from the anticipation!! Good luck and have fun
My advice is this, talk to him more and get hints from HIM what he likes and then surprise him one day. Asking other guys what they like, won't really help him, we are all different. Also, it might not sit too well that you ask random guys about sexual things, even if it is for him.
Books, or getting info from him, but my best advice is communication with him about what feels good and what he likes. Beyond that you are playing with fire. He'll want to know where it came from too, so be careful.
Hmmmm I'd like to know too. That's why im here.
When he comes home from work have dinner on the table with a note telling him to start with out you and you will join him for the food later. and you secretly would be hiding under the table waiting on him to sit down and you would unzip him and give him a bj and then crawl out from the other end of the table and say (hi honey how was your day) and sit down and act like nothing had happened.
candles do NOTHING for men, by the way.
Pick him up at his work in your car -- naked. Masturbate while you drive, but don't climax. Ask him to masturbate but not climax while you drive beside a sexy looking women in an SUV, while she watches. Park your car in front of your house and both of you get out and walk to the house naked.
Make love in your back yard where your neighbors can see you.
You are in dangerous territory. Know your husband first before you try the crazy stuff. Not all men are into wild stuff. If your husband is a nerdy engineer, you might make him think you had a past he didn't know about and he will hit the Escape button.
Not sure what to think, advice from men please?
My boyfriend of 2 years and I recently broke up.
Shortly after I started dating this really fun, outgoing and personable guy. I don't want to get too serious with this new guy because I just got out of a relationship and he will be moving upstate in a few months.
Well this new guy has been quite amazing so far, calling when he says, surprising me... all good.
We got really drunk and ended up having sex on our maybe? 4th date. I didn't regret this too much mainly because it has really helped me get over my ex.
The next date he came over with a bottle of LUBE and expected sex! Like prepared and everything!!! I thought our first time sleeping together would be looked past as a drunken/fun night. I apologized for leading him on like that but clearly stated that if he was dating me for the expectations of sex, to stop calling and that we wouldn't work out.
He's on a trip but has called me multiple times since and says he understands where I'm coming from. Keep him or leave him?!Not sure what to think, advice from men please?
cant blame a guy for trying and he seems to understand and he called u from his trip. so i say harmless mistake.Not sure what to think, advice from men please?
I think you should give him a chance. The truth is men just like (love) sex. See what happens and go from there.If he still seems like all he wants to do is get naked with you than do what your gut tells you to.
Keep him unless he hasn't really understood then and you still think he only wants one thing from the relationship leave him
Shortly after I started dating this really fun, outgoing and personable guy. I don't want to get too serious with this new guy because I just got out of a relationship and he will be moving upstate in a few months.
Well this new guy has been quite amazing so far, calling when he says, surprising me... all good.
We got really drunk and ended up having sex on our maybe? 4th date. I didn't regret this too much mainly because it has really helped me get over my ex.
The next date he came over with a bottle of LUBE and expected sex! Like prepared and everything!!! I thought our first time sleeping together would be looked past as a drunken/fun night. I apologized for leading him on like that but clearly stated that if he was dating me for the expectations of sex, to stop calling and that we wouldn't work out.
He's on a trip but has called me multiple times since and says he understands where I'm coming from. Keep him or leave him?!Not sure what to think, advice from men please?
cant blame a guy for trying and he seems to understand and he called u from his trip. so i say harmless mistake.Not sure what to think, advice from men please?
I think you should give him a chance. The truth is men just like (love) sex. See what happens and go from there.If he still seems like all he wants to do is get naked with you than do what your gut tells you to.
Keep him unless he hasn't really understood then and you still think he only wants one thing from the relationship leave him
This relationship seems imbalanced! NEED ADVICE FROM MEN!!?
I've been dating a guy for over a year. It seems like we've be doing well and are definitely happy together.
Lately he's been having stressed as well as me.
During his time of stress, I did not dare tell him too much details about my work related stress. But when his project was over, he never even tried asking about my side. I'm really upset because it seems like all the family and friends around me really cared and tried to help me but him. Now I just feel like maybe we should break up. Love is full of up and down and you're suppose to find a partner that can be there for you for better or worse.
An added note, he's not an emotional person and can't really show any empathy, but that's not an excuse for him to treat me this way right?
How can I make him understand? Yell? Cry? Ignore?This relationship seems imbalanced! NEED ADVICE FROM MEN!!?
Some people just don't know what to say and think you need space when really you need them there to comfort you. Let him know what you've been felling and say that you need him. Some people just aren't comfortable with really showing their emotions and you need to work on that before you think about breaking up.. Don't ignore the facts, and you don't need to yell at him.. just talk!This relationship seems imbalanced! NEED ADVICE FROM MEN!!?
is he seeing somebody else !!!!!!
Lately he's been having stressed as well as me.
During his time of stress, I did not dare tell him too much details about my work related stress. But when his project was over, he never even tried asking about my side. I'm really upset because it seems like all the family and friends around me really cared and tried to help me but him. Now I just feel like maybe we should break up. Love is full of up and down and you're suppose to find a partner that can be there for you for better or worse.
An added note, he's not an emotional person and can't really show any empathy, but that's not an excuse for him to treat me this way right?
How can I make him understand? Yell? Cry? Ignore?This relationship seems imbalanced! NEED ADVICE FROM MEN!!?
Some people just don't know what to say and think you need space when really you need them there to comfort you. Let him know what you've been felling and say that you need him. Some people just aren't comfortable with really showing their emotions and you need to work on that before you think about breaking up.. Don't ignore the facts, and you don't need to yell at him.. just talk!This relationship seems imbalanced! NEED ADVICE FROM MEN!!?
is he seeing somebody else !!!!!!
So... I'm confused - need advice from men preferably... messed up situation...?
So, I was with this guy for 2 1/2 years. We got together when my daughter was 6 months old. Its like he was a missing puzzle piece (he fit perfect). He ended up being a great man with me, a great father with her and a great provider for both of us.
We split 2 weeks ago (his decision)... we had been bickering non stop for like 2 months! I was getting pretty sick of him too... but I just figured it was the constant seeing him EVERYDAY... and not going off and hanging out with people separately. This guy and I were perfect together - we knew each other so well and got along great before those two months.
Anyway, he talked about marriage a month before he left me. Had sex with me the night before. Then we had an argument the next night and he was gone.
Now he is living with his mother, I have a little girl asking and crying for him all the time. And for the past two weeks he hasn't really called or came by. Until yesterday - he came in and emotions came and we had sex twice and after that he said ';well what are we going to do?'; I told him to just stay at his moms maybe we can figure things out with a little space. So today he tells me he isn't sure he wants a relationship with me because he is worried things wont change but he loves me and THEN tells me he still wants to have sex with me!!
I freaked out a little bit then he explained that he just doesnt know yet. ';I might want to be back with you in a week or so'; So I'm assuming that he just needs to figure things out..
But if he decides he doesn't want me anymore I'm going to be so emotionally messed up that I prob wont be able to trust another guy for MANY years to come.
Do I wait it out?
Do I tell him to F off?
I miss him, and I KNOW he is making a mistake.
What do I do?So... I'm confused - need advice from men preferably... messed up situation...?
Sound like a lot more talking might be the answer. Try and find out what he wants, and specifically what he wants changed.
If you want commitment then, after 2 and a half years, it wouldn't be too soon to demand it, if he wants to keep having sex that is.
You have been going out with him for far too long just to blow him off without talking a lot more, but perhaps you should do it somewhere other than a bedroom, for your sake, for your daughter's sake. So... I'm confused - need advice from men preferably... messed up situation...?
Have patience grasshopper.
Big Brother nailed it perfectly.. trust me that's what it is.
When a woman has a baby and gets a man after the fact and then the baby attaches herself to her now imprinted father figure. YOU BEG forgiveness and do all you can to be exactly what this guy wants. Its not for you its for your baby.
Look for a new man on the side, but men who can handle a baby in the mix are few and far between. And I mean MEN not sissy baby boys who just want their mommy because that's about all the men your gonna get who will even go out on a date.
Signed
Rude slap of reality guy..
i believe he is making a grave mistake. if he says he loves you then he will come back to you and try to work things out with you. im not sure what happened in those two months to cause the bickering but next time thats about to happen try and sit down and talk it over reasonably. if it helps each say each others view one at a time. like each gets two minutes or somethin. just a thought. try to tell him to listen to his heart. tell him of all the good times yall have had and the life yall could have. just tell how you feel. hope this helps
I'm sorry to have to say this, but from what you said, I honestly think that he's done with you, but when the hormones kick in he knows that he has you on enough of a string that he can have sex with you, not because he wants you but because he wants the sex and you can give it to him. That's not to say he didn't care about you before, and that he has no more feelings for you, but he only seems to come around when he can get sex quickly. His feelings have probably changed but until he gets a new girlfriend or you tell him to ';F off'; he'll keep telling you what he needs to to string you along. Hopefully I'm wrong.
You wanted a guy to answer, so I am sorry. I have a suggestion for you. I think that the two of you COULD have something going on if you focus on other activities other than SEX.
The two of you need to spend some time really getting to know each other. Do anything other than have sex. Cuddle on the couch and watch movies or play video games together. Go on a picnic in the park. Take your daughter to a park or swimming. Take a trip together. Basically get a real friendship going on before you lose what might be a good chance to be happy.
Patience is of virtue.
I know that it may sound all girly to do this, but why not invite him over and sit down for an ';Adult '; conversation and let him know how you feel. It is so true that you don't know what you have until it's gone and if you feel he is so worth making things work, then let him know. Change can't happen on one end, it has to happen on both ends. I understand that make-up sex is great, but it sounds like when sex is not a part of the equation, he doubts again where he stands. So how do you fix this? Well, as hard as it may be, you need to not let sex drive your meetings with one another. If he stops coming around, then you know he only came back for sex and not because he was genuinely interrested in making things work. Just as it takes two to have hot fiery sex, it also takes two to make things work.
We split 2 weeks ago (his decision)... we had been bickering non stop for like 2 months! I was getting pretty sick of him too... but I just figured it was the constant seeing him EVERYDAY... and not going off and hanging out with people separately. This guy and I were perfect together - we knew each other so well and got along great before those two months.
Anyway, he talked about marriage a month before he left me. Had sex with me the night before. Then we had an argument the next night and he was gone.
Now he is living with his mother, I have a little girl asking and crying for him all the time. And for the past two weeks he hasn't really called or came by. Until yesterday - he came in and emotions came and we had sex twice and after that he said ';well what are we going to do?'; I told him to just stay at his moms maybe we can figure things out with a little space. So today he tells me he isn't sure he wants a relationship with me because he is worried things wont change but he loves me and THEN tells me he still wants to have sex with me!!
I freaked out a little bit then he explained that he just doesnt know yet. ';I might want to be back with you in a week or so'; So I'm assuming that he just needs to figure things out..
But if he decides he doesn't want me anymore I'm going to be so emotionally messed up that I prob wont be able to trust another guy for MANY years to come.
Do I wait it out?
Do I tell him to F off?
I miss him, and I KNOW he is making a mistake.
What do I do?So... I'm confused - need advice from men preferably... messed up situation...?
Sound like a lot more talking might be the answer. Try and find out what he wants, and specifically what he wants changed.
If you want commitment then, after 2 and a half years, it wouldn't be too soon to demand it, if he wants to keep having sex that is.
You have been going out with him for far too long just to blow him off without talking a lot more, but perhaps you should do it somewhere other than a bedroom, for your sake, for your daughter's sake. So... I'm confused - need advice from men preferably... messed up situation...?
Have patience grasshopper.
Big Brother nailed it perfectly.. trust me that's what it is.
When a woman has a baby and gets a man after the fact and then the baby attaches herself to her now imprinted father figure. YOU BEG forgiveness and do all you can to be exactly what this guy wants. Its not for you its for your baby.
Look for a new man on the side, but men who can handle a baby in the mix are few and far between. And I mean MEN not sissy baby boys who just want their mommy because that's about all the men your gonna get who will even go out on a date.
Signed
Rude slap of reality guy..
i believe he is making a grave mistake. if he says he loves you then he will come back to you and try to work things out with you. im not sure what happened in those two months to cause the bickering but next time thats about to happen try and sit down and talk it over reasonably. if it helps each say each others view one at a time. like each gets two minutes or somethin. just a thought. try to tell him to listen to his heart. tell him of all the good times yall have had and the life yall could have. just tell how you feel. hope this helps
I'm sorry to have to say this, but from what you said, I honestly think that he's done with you, but when the hormones kick in he knows that he has you on enough of a string that he can have sex with you, not because he wants you but because he wants the sex and you can give it to him. That's not to say he didn't care about you before, and that he has no more feelings for you, but he only seems to come around when he can get sex quickly. His feelings have probably changed but until he gets a new girlfriend or you tell him to ';F off'; he'll keep telling you what he needs to to string you along. Hopefully I'm wrong.
You wanted a guy to answer, so I am sorry. I have a suggestion for you. I think that the two of you COULD have something going on if you focus on other activities other than SEX.
The two of you need to spend some time really getting to know each other. Do anything other than have sex. Cuddle on the couch and watch movies or play video games together. Go on a picnic in the park. Take your daughter to a park or swimming. Take a trip together. Basically get a real friendship going on before you lose what might be a good chance to be happy.
Patience is of virtue.
I know that it may sound all girly to do this, but why not invite him over and sit down for an ';Adult '; conversation and let him know how you feel. It is so true that you don't know what you have until it's gone and if you feel he is so worth making things work, then let him know. Change can't happen on one end, it has to happen on both ends. I understand that make-up sex is great, but it sounds like when sex is not a part of the equation, he doubts again where he stands. So how do you fix this? Well, as hard as it may be, you need to not let sex drive your meetings with one another. If he stops coming around, then you know he only came back for sex and not because he was genuinely interrested in making things work. Just as it takes two to have hot fiery sex, it also takes two to make things work.
What do I do? Need advice from men(preferably Indian)?
I weigh 107 pounds and Iam 152 cms tall. I feel that I should lose 10 moe pounds but my boyfriend and friends keep telling me not to do that. I dont like to look so skinny anyway. And I have heard that skinny girls dont attract men. I find myself attractive now. SO what do I do? Stay in this weight or should I reduce a bit?What do I do? Need advice from men(preferably Indian)?
Other than film actresses(young) I have yet to see an Indian woman without a pot belly(Rice belly?) the folds of skin are visible between the gap of sari and the blouse. most disgusting sight if ever.What do I do? Need advice from men(preferably Indian)?
you need to do what anil kapoor did in BADHAI HO BADHAI ......adnan sami did .....,so go ahead what r u waiting for........and thats true dear guys dont like skinny.........
skinny girls dont attract us inidan guys. we like our ladies 'full'. the more the better. the only thing we dont like is pot belly.
dont reduce!!
personally for me, skinny is not attractive; but again it depends; beauty lies in the eyes of a beholder; its better to keep a watch on your weight, as the more time passes, you are likely to add more pounds, with physical changes, like marriage et al;
but if you look fit and attractive, be like that; dont attempt things, too hard;
D nly thng dt men dnt like is tummy fat in girls........bt mind u it dsnt meen being skinny......coz it simply gets a ';yukkkk';
If u hv u proper figure %26amp; shape (not 2 sound vulgar at all) u dnt need 2 worry.....
Other than film actresses(young) I have yet to see an Indian woman without a pot belly(Rice belly?) the folds of skin are visible between the gap of sari and the blouse. most disgusting sight if ever.What do I do? Need advice from men(preferably Indian)?
you need to do what anil kapoor did in BADHAI HO BADHAI ......adnan sami did .....,so go ahead what r u waiting for........and thats true dear guys dont like skinny.........
skinny girls dont attract us inidan guys. we like our ladies 'full'. the more the better. the only thing we dont like is pot belly.
dont reduce!!
personally for me, skinny is not attractive; but again it depends; beauty lies in the eyes of a beholder; its better to keep a watch on your weight, as the more time passes, you are likely to add more pounds, with physical changes, like marriage et al;
but if you look fit and attractive, be like that; dont attempt things, too hard;
D nly thng dt men dnt like is tummy fat in girls........bt mind u it dsnt meen being skinny......coz it simply gets a ';yukkkk';
If u hv u proper figure %26amp; shape (not 2 sound vulgar at all) u dnt need 2 worry.....
28 year old girl needs advice from men in early 30's?
About a year ago I was in Vegas and met a guy. Turns out he lives only 3 hours away from my home town. We had a great night together and exchanged phone numbers.
I went to visit him about 3 months after that and had a decent weekend together. It was a little awkward for me, being out of ';fantasy land'; and into the real world. But he was a great guy and treated me like a lady.
After our weekend, we stayed in touch via phone calls, and text messages, and they all ranged from casual to naughty. In January I moved back to my home town and saw him a week later. We had what I would consider a fabulous weekend. I felt much more comfortable with him, and once again he was a gentlemen. He paid for everything, and he had insisted on paying for dinner. We even hooked up with my friend and her husband for a drink, and yet again, he paid..FOR ALL OF US! What a really nice guy. Right?
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not about the money. It was about me feeling like he wanted to take care of me. Opening doors, holding me close as we walked the streets...etc, etc.
Then Valentines Day was approaching, I really wanted to see if he wanted to get together, but I chickend out. (mostly because it was ';that time of the month'; for me and didn't want that to ruin a romantic weekend.) My friends insisted I at least send him a card, but yet again, I chickend out. I sent him a text message simply saying Happy Valentines Day, and he ended up calling. He asked if I had any plans for the night and I told him I didn't, and when I asked him if he did, he said no. Which made me feel really bummed out.
We still have stayed in touch and are in the works for getting together again next month. I really like this guy, so how do I try to bring it to next level? From what I gather, he's into me to or else he wouldn't stay in touch and treat me like such a lady. But at the same time, we don't talk as much as I would like, which makes me think maybe he doesn't want to bring it to that level.
Ugh...boys...help me out...what do you think?
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ps...I really don't think I am the woman on the side. Both times I visited him, I stayed at his apartment and there was not one shred of evidence that there was another girl around, let alone him being married...haha
See to me, he is slightly intimedating. He is 32, really smart and successful. He is from another country and has been here for over 10 years. English being his second language. And I'm not sure how he is like in a relationship, with a different culture. He is from Albania, and I don't know much about the country.28 year old girl needs advice from men in early 30's?
I'll start by disagreeing with the first answer. Albania is a country, it isn't muslim. Islam does have a considerable history in Albania, but most people there are actually agnostic now.
As far as proceeding further with your relationship, just talk to him. Tell him you enjoy your time together and ask him what he is looking for in a relationship -- but don't corner him into making a commitment early.
Reading minds never works. You've got to talk.28 year old girl needs advice from men in early 30's?
Albania is muslim -- enough said.
However, I am assuming you're like 95% of the population, so go on.
a muslim? run like heck while you stil have your head!
F**k the one who talks about religion....
well Im albanian too and at our country we guys always pay for girls and everything and its kinda a rule well guess hes OK...... if you wanna hear the other stereothypic answers that the albanians are bad...................i can say Americans are fat.. but they are not so...
Wow! He sounds like the dream guy us women strive for. On the other hand, sometimes it can be to good to be true and we always find out in the end.
From the way you explained your situation, he is travels, wealthy and willing to make an effort. In addition, he might have family in Albania and if I am correct; their culture believes that marriage comes before sex and marry within their own culture. I do know women that found out that their lover from another country had a wife and kids. She was hurt and destroyed; the guy came over with a green card and wasn't even a citizen. He had a house, car, worked for a business oriented place and the money came from family member to family member. They do that so thier not paying taxes here in the U.S.
Guys like that are willing to have several women to please in different areas, states and countries. Especially if their parents are strong believers to say with their own, he has to keep it a secret because he could be disowned! I am not saying that he doesn't like you But, he stopped the next step that people that really liked each would actually persue the chance for that next step.
Don't always believe people, trusting them is something that comes with time! I mean a long time.
I hope i did help you.
Sorry, I know you wanted advice from men but I had to respond anyway. Are you sure he is not just looking for a booty call? It is still common for men to treat a woman well and still only be looking for sex. If you think it is more than that why don't you just be open with him and tell him that you really like him and that you hope the relationship could go further. Is he shy at all? In my experience, unless the guy is really shy they are the ones that normally make the first move of initiating more in the relationship. Good Luck1
i say do not rush things let your heart lead you you are doing great !
one thing i live by is what the heart feels
and
when in doubt through it out
best wishes
one qustion to ask your self
he gives all this to you but what do you give to him ?????
I went to visit him about 3 months after that and had a decent weekend together. It was a little awkward for me, being out of ';fantasy land'; and into the real world. But he was a great guy and treated me like a lady.
After our weekend, we stayed in touch via phone calls, and text messages, and they all ranged from casual to naughty. In January I moved back to my home town and saw him a week later. We had what I would consider a fabulous weekend. I felt much more comfortable with him, and once again he was a gentlemen. He paid for everything, and he had insisted on paying for dinner. We even hooked up with my friend and her husband for a drink, and yet again, he paid..FOR ALL OF US! What a really nice guy. Right?
Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not about the money. It was about me feeling like he wanted to take care of me. Opening doors, holding me close as we walked the streets...etc, etc.
Then Valentines Day was approaching, I really wanted to see if he wanted to get together, but I chickend out. (mostly because it was ';that time of the month'; for me and didn't want that to ruin a romantic weekend.) My friends insisted I at least send him a card, but yet again, I chickend out. I sent him a text message simply saying Happy Valentines Day, and he ended up calling. He asked if I had any plans for the night and I told him I didn't, and when I asked him if he did, he said no. Which made me feel really bummed out.
We still have stayed in touch and are in the works for getting together again next month. I really like this guy, so how do I try to bring it to next level? From what I gather, he's into me to or else he wouldn't stay in touch and treat me like such a lady. But at the same time, we don't talk as much as I would like, which makes me think maybe he doesn't want to bring it to that level.
Ugh...boys...help me out...what do you think?
Additional Details
ps...I really don't think I am the woman on the side. Both times I visited him, I stayed at his apartment and there was not one shred of evidence that there was another girl around, let alone him being married...haha
See to me, he is slightly intimedating. He is 32, really smart and successful. He is from another country and has been here for over 10 years. English being his second language. And I'm not sure how he is like in a relationship, with a different culture. He is from Albania, and I don't know much about the country.28 year old girl needs advice from men in early 30's?
I'll start by disagreeing with the first answer. Albania is a country, it isn't muslim. Islam does have a considerable history in Albania, but most people there are actually agnostic now.
As far as proceeding further with your relationship, just talk to him. Tell him you enjoy your time together and ask him what he is looking for in a relationship -- but don't corner him into making a commitment early.
Reading minds never works. You've got to talk.28 year old girl needs advice from men in early 30's?
Albania is muslim -- enough said.
However, I am assuming you're like 95% of the population, so go on.
a muslim? run like heck while you stil have your head!
F**k the one who talks about religion....
well Im albanian too and at our country we guys always pay for girls and everything and its kinda a rule well guess hes OK...... if you wanna hear the other stereothypic answers that the albanians are bad...................i can say Americans are fat.. but they are not so...
Wow! He sounds like the dream guy us women strive for. On the other hand, sometimes it can be to good to be true and we always find out in the end.
From the way you explained your situation, he is travels, wealthy and willing to make an effort. In addition, he might have family in Albania and if I am correct; their culture believes that marriage comes before sex and marry within their own culture. I do know women that found out that their lover from another country had a wife and kids. She was hurt and destroyed; the guy came over with a green card and wasn't even a citizen. He had a house, car, worked for a business oriented place and the money came from family member to family member. They do that so thier not paying taxes here in the U.S.
Guys like that are willing to have several women to please in different areas, states and countries. Especially if their parents are strong believers to say with their own, he has to keep it a secret because he could be disowned! I am not saying that he doesn't like you But, he stopped the next step that people that really liked each would actually persue the chance for that next step.
Don't always believe people, trusting them is something that comes with time! I mean a long time.
I hope i did help you.
Sorry, I know you wanted advice from men but I had to respond anyway. Are you sure he is not just looking for a booty call? It is still common for men to treat a woman well and still only be looking for sex. If you think it is more than that why don't you just be open with him and tell him that you really like him and that you hope the relationship could go further. Is he shy at all? In my experience, unless the guy is really shy they are the ones that normally make the first move of initiating more in the relationship. Good Luck1
i say do not rush things let your heart lead you you are doing great !
one thing i live by is what the heart feels
and
when in doubt through it out
best wishes
one qustion to ask your self
he gives all this to you but what do you give to him ?????
I'll look into professional advice, but Men: is it common to stay hard... ?
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Advice from older men.?
I really have a thing for older guys. What are some tips to get the attention of older men. My cousin has a gorgeous 35 year old single neighbour, how can I get with him or know if an older guy is interested?Advice from older men.?
Older guys are like younger guys when it comes to girls.
You can get his attention by flirting with him. Winking will definitely get his attetion.
Older guys are like younger guys when it comes to girls.
You can get his attention by flirting with him. Winking will definitely get his attetion.
Need advice (ladies n men)?
I'm getting married next month i feel like i'm getting cold feet and so is my fiance we've been together 3 years...
i'm 18 he is 21
have you guys experience this type of thing before?
i know i love him because he is my everything we are best friends we are always together to the point where our friends get annoyed lol we've been living together for almost 10 months :)Need advice (ladies n men)?
I am getting married next month as well. I am 21 and he is 24 and we have been together for 5 years and living together for 3. We are best friends as well. I'm not nervous or anything because I know that its still going to be us. Nothing is going to change, its just a piece of paper. People tend to have the mind set that marriage changes everything but I do not think so. Yes I'm sure it has its ups and downs just like every RELATIONSHIP. What is it that scares you about marriage?Need advice (ladies n men)?
My cousin got married at your age. She's 19 now and she has already had her first baby. And let me tell you how much her and her parents regret it. The other day she came in to the lounge, her baby in her arms, vomit over flowing in its mouth and suffocating. She was panicking (didn't know what to do) and my uncle had to quickly grab the baby off her and help it to revive. Don't say that you won't have any kids cause you will be pressured.
Many people who get married so young lose time on getting to know what they want and setting their priorities. You lose your youth and gain sooo much responsibility.
You also run a very high risk of getting depressed and ending up in financial turmoil.
It is not a GAME. Don't be so quick to think you've found the right person. Take your time. You'll know the answer in the future. Go and have fun.
Edit: WoW!! I just ready your profile and Your doing radiology!! Congrats on that! If you want t o keep that going I suggest finishing your degree first and savng up some money!! That would be more wise. Don't be afraid to say no too, it's your life.
Good luck
personally i would leave it until you're a bit older, most young marriages don't last.
i don't think 10 months is long enough to judge what it'll be like to be with him for the rest of your life, but obviously it's your choice.
i hope everything goes well for you :)
if you aint ready yet, dont get married, if its too soon, its too soon. i understand that you 2 been together a long time, but somethings its better to betogether for a long time not married, than te be together a short time alltogether. talk to him about it.
Don't worry about it, maybe there's too many things to think about. I think you are too young to get married, ... but it's your choice. You've been together for 3 years, you must know deep down in your heart that's exactly what you want.
Well if you aren't sure then i don't think you should do it, it will end in tears, sit down and really think about it then make your decision xx
Too short. What's the rush? You are VERY young, and people change a lot at this age. You really don't know what you'll both be like by the time you are 25 or 30. Wait.
the rule of the thumb is if you are not laid by at least 3 guys, you do not marry.
grow up a little go bang some men and then see if you still love him experience life!!! get stoned get drunk hes probably not the one!! but don't listen to me listen to your heart!
If you have doubts now,
then you are probably not ready .
I smell divorce shortly after you have your first child...
Bad idea to get married so young but whatever...
10 months and so young mabye hold on for another 6 months and see how u feel =)
Woah.. that's young!
i'm 18 he is 21
have you guys experience this type of thing before?
i know i love him because he is my everything we are best friends we are always together to the point where our friends get annoyed lol we've been living together for almost 10 months :)Need advice (ladies n men)?
I am getting married next month as well. I am 21 and he is 24 and we have been together for 5 years and living together for 3. We are best friends as well. I'm not nervous or anything because I know that its still going to be us. Nothing is going to change, its just a piece of paper. People tend to have the mind set that marriage changes everything but I do not think so. Yes I'm sure it has its ups and downs just like every RELATIONSHIP. What is it that scares you about marriage?Need advice (ladies n men)?
My cousin got married at your age. She's 19 now and she has already had her first baby. And let me tell you how much her and her parents regret it. The other day she came in to the lounge, her baby in her arms, vomit over flowing in its mouth and suffocating. She was panicking (didn't know what to do) and my uncle had to quickly grab the baby off her and help it to revive. Don't say that you won't have any kids cause you will be pressured.
Many people who get married so young lose time on getting to know what they want and setting their priorities. You lose your youth and gain sooo much responsibility.
You also run a very high risk of getting depressed and ending up in financial turmoil.
It is not a GAME. Don't be so quick to think you've found the right person. Take your time. You'll know the answer in the future. Go and have fun.
Edit: WoW!! I just ready your profile and Your doing radiology!! Congrats on that! If you want t o keep that going I suggest finishing your degree first and savng up some money!! That would be more wise. Don't be afraid to say no too, it's your life.
Good luck
personally i would leave it until you're a bit older, most young marriages don't last.
i don't think 10 months is long enough to judge what it'll be like to be with him for the rest of your life, but obviously it's your choice.
i hope everything goes well for you :)
if you aint ready yet, dont get married, if its too soon, its too soon. i understand that you 2 been together a long time, but somethings its better to betogether for a long time not married, than te be together a short time alltogether. talk to him about it.
Don't worry about it, maybe there's too many things to think about. I think you are too young to get married, ... but it's your choice. You've been together for 3 years, you must know deep down in your heart that's exactly what you want.
Well if you aren't sure then i don't think you should do it, it will end in tears, sit down and really think about it then make your decision xx
Too short. What's the rush? You are VERY young, and people change a lot at this age. You really don't know what you'll both be like by the time you are 25 or 30. Wait.
the rule of the thumb is if you are not laid by at least 3 guys, you do not marry.
grow up a little go bang some men and then see if you still love him experience life!!! get stoned get drunk hes probably not the one!! but don't listen to me listen to your heart!
If you have doubts now,
then you are probably not ready .
I smell divorce shortly after you have your first child...
Bad idea to get married so young but whatever...
10 months and so young mabye hold on for another 6 months and see how u feel =)
Woah.. that's young!
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