I've met up with this guy twice now and he is realy nice but on both dates he hasn't even made any attempt to flirt with me or mentioned us getting it on and I would like to know why?Guys advice on men?
He could be a little reserved. There must be some attraction if he went out on a date with you twice. Think about it, if the first date was lame, why would he ask you out on another?
On the next date you should make the first move. Help get him out of his shell.Guys advice on men?
Maybe he's trying to figure out his next move. If the first date didn't answer all the questions he's asking himself, he probably thought a second date might. Basically, it sounds like he's interested in you, not so sure of how deep that interest runs, and doesn't want to mislead either you or himself. If he likes you, really likes, he'll become confident in that and make his next move. If he figures out that he isn't as into you as he originally thought, then no harm done...he didn't mislead you or ';play'; you. Sounds like he's playing it safe until he sorts out his feelings, that way nobody gets really hurt later on.
Because he's either shy, playing it incredibly slow, not able to ask you out coz he ain't got the balls downstairs, or he's just not interested in a relationship. You can get guys like that. ask him if you're so interested in what his intentions are. Maybe he just wants to be sweet.
He's probably sick of people putting him in the stereotype of how most guys 'only want one thing', so he's trying really hard to not be that. He probably really does like you, but is afraid to scare you off.
Maybe he doesn't want to come across as that is all he is after a quick shag. He should of payed u some sort of compliment though maybe he's just shy. He obviously likes u otherwise why would he go on a second date?
a)...prob playing hard to get.
b) he has no interest in your whatsover?
Could be neither of them things, but that's what first came to mind.
could be he is a gentleman
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
Ok:
Picture the one thing you want to do most in the world/ your favorite thing. (like hiking through the Appalachian mountains...some life goal-ish thing)
Now, picture the person you think you might be in love with doing that one thing with you. Do you feel good about them being with you, or is awkward? If you feel like them partaking in that activity with you is just awesome, I'd say you are in love.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
It's different form person-to-person. It is really hard to explain. When you are-you'll just know.
Picture the one thing you want to do most in the world/ your favorite thing. (like hiking through the Appalachian mountains...some life goal-ish thing)
Now, picture the person you think you might be in love with doing that one thing with you. Do you feel good about them being with you, or is awkward? If you feel like them partaking in that activity with you is just awesome, I'd say you are in love.Men and women advice- how do you know you are in love? women ? men?
It's different form person-to-person. It is really hard to explain. When you are-you'll just know.
Relationship advice from men please?
I have been seeing this guy who id out the country at the moment,
He is gone for a month, he has been busy with work and didnt contact me for three days then got on messenger for a chat seemed fine with me but was exhausted having worked 10 days straight without a day off and worked 12 hour day
he isnt working now his contract finished he is in the process of moving country to live here, i havent heard from him in 4 days now, my question is would it be plausable for him to not get in contact now till he moves over to the Uk permanetly cause he has nothing to say cause he will see me in 2 weeks or should I think that maybe he is losing interest
2 weeks ago the day he left he told me that he thought I was amazing and thought he had hit the jackpot, so guys, is this just a case of female neurocis on my part cause he is probably busy packing sorting flights etc. or is he losing interest
id be really keen to hear male thoughts on thisRelationship advice from men please?
Yes, just a case of female neurosis...I think..
Have patience...He may be busy with his work or something else.....you have not told how long you were knowing him, since he left for other country..........Even if we want to contact our family members, we could not, due to some circumstances...If you both are in love, no need to worry.....he will come back to you.Relationship advice from men please?
Just wait n watch. He must have been worn out after the hectic job n taking rest. He may not be losing interest in you but u cant say this for sure. Maybe he is busy with his work or packing,etc. So, have patience n then make a move.(we men do need our time atleast for sometime)
He is gone for a month, he has been busy with work and didnt contact me for three days then got on messenger for a chat seemed fine with me but was exhausted having worked 10 days straight without a day off and worked 12 hour day
he isnt working now his contract finished he is in the process of moving country to live here, i havent heard from him in 4 days now, my question is would it be plausable for him to not get in contact now till he moves over to the Uk permanetly cause he has nothing to say cause he will see me in 2 weeks or should I think that maybe he is losing interest
2 weeks ago the day he left he told me that he thought I was amazing and thought he had hit the jackpot, so guys, is this just a case of female neurocis on my part cause he is probably busy packing sorting flights etc. or is he losing interest
id be really keen to hear male thoughts on thisRelationship advice from men please?
Yes, just a case of female neurosis...I think..
Have patience...He may be busy with his work or something else.....you have not told how long you were knowing him, since he left for other country..........Even if we want to contact our family members, we could not, due to some circumstances...If you both are in love, no need to worry.....he will come back to you.Relationship advice from men please?
Just wait n watch. He must have been worn out after the hectic job n taking rest. He may not be losing interest in you but u cant say this for sure. Maybe he is busy with his work or packing,etc. So, have patience n then make a move.(we men do need our time atleast for sometime)
Need advice on men issue?
Can anyone explain these dudes to me?
1. Is a guy I had a crush on long ago, now he tells his mother he likes me, but won't have anything to do with me. Cause he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. ??
2. Is a guy I used to party with in the old days, he acts like he's jealous of every guy around me, but he's married. Keeps bringing up that I turned him down in the old days and telling me how I missed out. ??
3. Is this guy I met online, we've been talking for almost a year and he seems very sweet, but now he wants to meet. He gets jealous too is I mention another guy. He says he hasn't been with any other woman for months cause he didn't think I would like it.??
4. Is the man I've been seeing for awhile. We we're together and then broke up. Then we started seeing each other again. We get together about once a week and it is so perfect. He's affrectionate, caring, giving, and so sweet. But we don't want to be together full time. Do I stick with this or run?Need advice on men issue?
Sounds like you have some admires of sorts. I would tell them all that you are only interested in being friends and nothing more. Then when you are ready to settle with someone, they will be top on your list for consideration; if your friendships last that long. Reason is because you want to see if their issues of insecurity and jealously pass. Who needs their drama if your not interested in them like that. Get to know them for what they are truly worth, good and bad qualities alike before you commit to having any kind of relationship other than friends. Life is too short to have to deal with un-necessary stress of someones Else's short coming especially if you are not married to them.Need advice on men issue?
i say give it sometime and don't rush into a relationship but don't run from it either :)
Wow, It doesn't sound like any of these guys want to be your friend. And it doesn't sound like they are into any kind of relationship except a one nighter. Some sound arrogant and possessive and (especially) #4 sounds like a player. #2 doesn't sound like you missed out on too much there, he's already dissing his wife by being out there and flirting with you. #3 sounds like a control freak, I don't know if you made some kind of commitment when you first got online with him but if you didn't then I'd dump his *** NOW and definitely don't meet with him.
1. Is a guy I had a crush on long ago, now he tells his mother he likes me, but won't have anything to do with me. Cause he doesn't want anyone to know he likes me. ??
2. Is a guy I used to party with in the old days, he acts like he's jealous of every guy around me, but he's married. Keeps bringing up that I turned him down in the old days and telling me how I missed out. ??
3. Is this guy I met online, we've been talking for almost a year and he seems very sweet, but now he wants to meet. He gets jealous too is I mention another guy. He says he hasn't been with any other woman for months cause he didn't think I would like it.??
4. Is the man I've been seeing for awhile. We we're together and then broke up. Then we started seeing each other again. We get together about once a week and it is so perfect. He's affrectionate, caring, giving, and so sweet. But we don't want to be together full time. Do I stick with this or run?Need advice on men issue?
Sounds like you have some admires of sorts. I would tell them all that you are only interested in being friends and nothing more. Then when you are ready to settle with someone, they will be top on your list for consideration; if your friendships last that long. Reason is because you want to see if their issues of insecurity and jealously pass. Who needs their drama if your not interested in them like that. Get to know them for what they are truly worth, good and bad qualities alike before you commit to having any kind of relationship other than friends. Life is too short to have to deal with un-necessary stress of someones Else's short coming especially if you are not married to them.Need advice on men issue?
i say give it sometime and don't rush into a relationship but don't run from it either :)
Wow, It doesn't sound like any of these guys want to be your friend. And it doesn't sound like they are into any kind of relationship except a one nighter. Some sound arrogant and possessive and (especially) #4 sounds like a player. #2 doesn't sound like you missed out on too much there, he's already dissing his wife by being out there and flirting with you. #3 sounds like a control freak, I don't know if you made some kind of commitment when you first got online with him but if you didn't then I'd dump his *** NOW and definitely don't meet with him.
Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
I recently married a very nice guy that I love dearly. Problem is that real life is settling in and now that we are married, he is getting a lot more demanding, intolerant of my needs ( I am finishing grad school..working full time now), and likes things his way. Now I don't mind so much, I am accomodating as I can be. But the moodiness and blaming is getting concerning....and I am working so hard to get him legal, with health insurance...ya da ya da.
I don't want pity, I just want to know what to do..some ideas. I see problems brewing. Not easy ones...and I know what the problems are: smoker, drinking but doesn't think it is an issue. Wanting to quit but still in an awkward time adjusting to it all.
I am being tolerant. But the moodiness is a bit much. And I put a lot of time into legal matters, homemaking, and him every week. What is the deal? Does it even matter in the long run?Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
Is he getting more demanding and intolerant, or is it just that the bloom is starting to come off the rose? Could it be that all these behaviors were evident but ';love is blind'; was in effect prior to marriage?
As you say, Russians are usually pretty serious folk. And they are notorious drinkers. Was the ';wanting to quit'; a pre-marital promise, or a sincere confession on his part? If you had to solicit promises of changed behavior prior to tying the knot, that's a huge red flag in my book.
I think the larger question here is what your motivations were for getting married to this guy. It sounds like your life is frantic right now...seems you'd be wanting someone more supportive rather than someone demanding MORE of your energy. I'm beginning to wonder if maybe you got hitched in less time than you needed to evaluate his character (there's that word again) and disposition.
It's still early in your marriage...may be time to draw the line and illustrate what a loving marriage looks like...because yours is rapidly deviating from the path.Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
how long have you been married? that would be my first question. a fellow has to know his castle is his and no one else's, i have been married 12 years and we went to marriage counc. three years ago because we were not very happy with each other.............we are still married...............and let me guess.sex and money are the two hot issues in your household. well, it will get better in time as long as he is able to see both side of the fence...........if he is unable to se it both ways, then it is time to wake his *** up, because if not, you will not be married much longer.......pack his lunch for him and leave a note in it explaining what is going to happen if he does not start talking to instead of demanding........get him to talk to you....slow down, the both of you...set date nights at least once a week, and always try to have dinner together.............hope this helped.......good luck
Sorry, to be free %26amp; frank, but I want to kick such persons, who don't care the feelings of others.
Infact, it is difficult to change the attitude of others, but try by departing for some period. You may go to your parents for a longer time. your absense may create and prove your importance in life which might torch ignition to change the feelings.
I'd say that your hubby is feeling insecured - maybe the reason for his actions. I'd suggest you both go to a marriage counselor to iron things out. Most of the problems you have are perhaps superficial, and he might even be thinking that it's you who have changed.
As with everything else, patience is the key. And try and do things both of you were doing before you got married.
Too bad marriage did not come with a manual....
Yes it matters. You don't say how long you've been married but didn't he smoke and drink before marriage? You can't change a person, try as you might. You'll have to sit down with him and tell him you'd like to have a serious discussion. Lay it out on the line. Explain that you are scared things may spiral out of control and you want him to know how you feel. Ask him if there is something he'd like you to work on. Don't be surprised if he comes up with a few things. If you think seeing a counselor once or twice to help get the discussion going do that. Open communication is the only way to go at this point. Hope all goes well. Keep love alive.
if the problems are the same things that wasnt a problem before you got married ...like if he smoked before you knew that then as well..so why a problem now, both of you are probably less tolorable of things now that you are married and the honeymoon is over...its not going to be easy, but talk out your concerns and address them together without blame or fault
I think the problem is that you are being tolerant. You are letting him be this way so he continues. You are telling him it's ok to be that way while you are waiting for it to go away. It will probably get worse, he's seeing what he can get away with. I started doing that (not being nice) to my husband and the more he let me the more I did it. The day he got so mad and yelled at me I felt so bad and snapped out of it and I then felt apologetic and never did it again. Before I was feeling smarter than him and actually annoyed that he wouldn't put me in my place, I kind of thought he was a wimp. I don't know what got into me.
What does THIS mean?
';I am working so hard to get him legal';??
Tell you what... the person you are starting to see now IS the real person. There is no telling how far he will change. It all depends on how far he went pretending to be someone else before the marriage. Forget what you thought of him before. Ask yourself, do you want to marry this person now? Then think, why was he nice to you before?
Yes, I see problem blewing too. The only thing you can do is to sit him down and have a long talk with him. Come to an agreement both of you can live with.
By the way, international marriage is difficult. You assumed he knows how hard you are working, and you want the job shared or at least recognized. Are you sure he knows? In some culture, those things are automatically women's job. He may not even know he is supposed to acknowledge it and offer help? If you want something different (obviously you do), it may become your job to teach him these cultural differences.
I have no excuse for moodiness though. Like I said, you really need to sit down and talk with him about reality of marriage in the US.
..is he working? If not he doesn't play the role of homemaker? He is an alien resident and can't work?
marriage is about wanting to know the needs of the partner and feeling good about taking care of those things...sounds like you are but he isn't... I think a real man must be able to provide for his woman or he starts to fall apart...
Marriage has a lot of ups and downs. You need to communicate. Talk all day and all night if you must to come to an understanding. Things that are left unsaid will linger. Yes the honeymoon is over, but if you want the marriage to continue, you will be open and honest with each other. If he doesn't know what is bothering you, he will just go on as if nothing is wrong, visa-versa. Whatever the problem, talk to each other. He needs to know that his parents marriage was then and his is now. Unfortunately, his mother will influence the situation. Put your foot down and take control.
All relationships need adjustments.But it is from both the sides.Ignore his moodiness and tantrums.Dont give 100% to any relationship.you are always at loss.
Put it out there for him bluntly. If he expects things to work out then he is going to have to change his attitude and stop acting childish or its not going to work. Too many guys are like this. Sometimes it takes a 'threat' to open their eyes.
Mark
Communication is key in a marriage. Set aside time from both your busy schedules to sit down and talk (away from all distractions). Let him know you need his support and that school won't last forever. Perhaps when you're done with grad school, there is something he wants to do. Drinking is a being issue brewing and it will only get bigger. Make him legal? What's with that? I think you should have looked before you lept, but right now I think you'd better sit down and get things straight with him.
Reading between the lines, it sounds like he is having real trouble integrating into a new society.
You are doing so well and he sees an insurmountable problem of being your equal partner. This hurts his pride and is immensely frustrating to him.
However, that is his problem. He is getting excellent help and support from you. (which probably makes him feel inferior) He needs to grow up and be a man.
If he can't do that, your future is not good.
a marriage is a lot like book keeping check and balance its sound like me cave man you women i hope he help you out around the house because you re working full time if not its get old fast trust me
Do you save this marriage, or run for your life?
Get a marriage counselor before it is too late.
Life is too short for a bad marriage.
A big YES. you're in a long haul. Talk to him and let him know you have your own needs too. You need affirmation from him too.
You should try marrige threapy or consuling so he can see a different point of view and realize that its not just you but him that is doing wrong.
Familiarity breeds contempt.
This is a major problem with
marriage.
Thus, any such union requires a lot
of work and compromise.
Have a sit-down talk with your
husband.
If he can't handle this,
find another husband.
Im sorry to say but if he is damanding already it will get worse. Get out now before he gets really controlling and abusive. My mom is going through that with someone and she has been with him 15 years and I worry about her everyday that we know that he is home. The moodiness is a true sign of how he really is. And my husband totally agrees with me on this.
sometimes marriage is tough, that's what for better or worse means
This is a tough boat, but you got in it willingly. I'm sure you knew about all of these issues before you married him.
I'm not saying you should let him walk on you. But you chose to take this on, and now you need to tough it out and make it work.blush brush
I don't want pity, I just want to know what to do..some ideas. I see problems brewing. Not easy ones...and I know what the problems are: smoker, drinking but doesn't think it is an issue. Wanting to quit but still in an awkward time adjusting to it all.
I am being tolerant. But the moodiness is a bit much. And I put a lot of time into legal matters, homemaking, and him every week. What is the deal? Does it even matter in the long run?Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
Is he getting more demanding and intolerant, or is it just that the bloom is starting to come off the rose? Could it be that all these behaviors were evident but ';love is blind'; was in effect prior to marriage?
As you say, Russians are usually pretty serious folk. And they are notorious drinkers. Was the ';wanting to quit'; a pre-marital promise, or a sincere confession on his part? If you had to solicit promises of changed behavior prior to tying the knot, that's a huge red flag in my book.
I think the larger question here is what your motivations were for getting married to this guy. It sounds like your life is frantic right now...seems you'd be wanting someone more supportive rather than someone demanding MORE of your energy. I'm beginning to wonder if maybe you got hitched in less time than you needed to evaluate his character (there's that word again) and disposition.
It's still early in your marriage...may be time to draw the line and illustrate what a loving marriage looks like...because yours is rapidly deviating from the path.Husband advice please (men and women-married please)?
how long have you been married? that would be my first question. a fellow has to know his castle is his and no one else's, i have been married 12 years and we went to marriage counc. three years ago because we were not very happy with each other.............we are still married...............and let me guess.sex and money are the two hot issues in your household. well, it will get better in time as long as he is able to see both side of the fence...........if he is unable to se it both ways, then it is time to wake his *** up, because if not, you will not be married much longer.......pack his lunch for him and leave a note in it explaining what is going to happen if he does not start talking to instead of demanding........get him to talk to you....slow down, the both of you...set date nights at least once a week, and always try to have dinner together.............hope this helped.......good luck
Sorry, to be free %26amp; frank, but I want to kick such persons, who don't care the feelings of others.
Infact, it is difficult to change the attitude of others, but try by departing for some period. You may go to your parents for a longer time. your absense may create and prove your importance in life which might torch ignition to change the feelings.
I'd say that your hubby is feeling insecured - maybe the reason for his actions. I'd suggest you both go to a marriage counselor to iron things out. Most of the problems you have are perhaps superficial, and he might even be thinking that it's you who have changed.
As with everything else, patience is the key. And try and do things both of you were doing before you got married.
Too bad marriage did not come with a manual....
Yes it matters. You don't say how long you've been married but didn't he smoke and drink before marriage? You can't change a person, try as you might. You'll have to sit down with him and tell him you'd like to have a serious discussion. Lay it out on the line. Explain that you are scared things may spiral out of control and you want him to know how you feel. Ask him if there is something he'd like you to work on. Don't be surprised if he comes up with a few things. If you think seeing a counselor once or twice to help get the discussion going do that. Open communication is the only way to go at this point. Hope all goes well. Keep love alive.
if the problems are the same things that wasnt a problem before you got married ...like if he smoked before you knew that then as well..so why a problem now, both of you are probably less tolorable of things now that you are married and the honeymoon is over...its not going to be easy, but talk out your concerns and address them together without blame or fault
I think the problem is that you are being tolerant. You are letting him be this way so he continues. You are telling him it's ok to be that way while you are waiting for it to go away. It will probably get worse, he's seeing what he can get away with. I started doing that (not being nice) to my husband and the more he let me the more I did it. The day he got so mad and yelled at me I felt so bad and snapped out of it and I then felt apologetic and never did it again. Before I was feeling smarter than him and actually annoyed that he wouldn't put me in my place, I kind of thought he was a wimp. I don't know what got into me.
What does THIS mean?
';I am working so hard to get him legal';??
Tell you what... the person you are starting to see now IS the real person. There is no telling how far he will change. It all depends on how far he went pretending to be someone else before the marriage. Forget what you thought of him before. Ask yourself, do you want to marry this person now? Then think, why was he nice to you before?
Yes, I see problem blewing too. The only thing you can do is to sit him down and have a long talk with him. Come to an agreement both of you can live with.
By the way, international marriage is difficult. You assumed he knows how hard you are working, and you want the job shared or at least recognized. Are you sure he knows? In some culture, those things are automatically women's job. He may not even know he is supposed to acknowledge it and offer help? If you want something different (obviously you do), it may become your job to teach him these cultural differences.
I have no excuse for moodiness though. Like I said, you really need to sit down and talk with him about reality of marriage in the US.
..is he working? If not he doesn't play the role of homemaker? He is an alien resident and can't work?
marriage is about wanting to know the needs of the partner and feeling good about taking care of those things...sounds like you are but he isn't... I think a real man must be able to provide for his woman or he starts to fall apart...
Marriage has a lot of ups and downs. You need to communicate. Talk all day and all night if you must to come to an understanding. Things that are left unsaid will linger. Yes the honeymoon is over, but if you want the marriage to continue, you will be open and honest with each other. If he doesn't know what is bothering you, he will just go on as if nothing is wrong, visa-versa. Whatever the problem, talk to each other. He needs to know that his parents marriage was then and his is now. Unfortunately, his mother will influence the situation. Put your foot down and take control.
All relationships need adjustments.But it is from both the sides.Ignore his moodiness and tantrums.Dont give 100% to any relationship.you are always at loss.
Put it out there for him bluntly. If he expects things to work out then he is going to have to change his attitude and stop acting childish or its not going to work. Too many guys are like this. Sometimes it takes a 'threat' to open their eyes.
Mark
Communication is key in a marriage. Set aside time from both your busy schedules to sit down and talk (away from all distractions). Let him know you need his support and that school won't last forever. Perhaps when you're done with grad school, there is something he wants to do. Drinking is a being issue brewing and it will only get bigger. Make him legal? What's with that? I think you should have looked before you lept, but right now I think you'd better sit down and get things straight with him.
Reading between the lines, it sounds like he is having real trouble integrating into a new society.
You are doing so well and he sees an insurmountable problem of being your equal partner. This hurts his pride and is immensely frustrating to him.
However, that is his problem. He is getting excellent help and support from you. (which probably makes him feel inferior) He needs to grow up and be a man.
If he can't do that, your future is not good.
a marriage is a lot like book keeping check and balance its sound like me cave man you women i hope he help you out around the house because you re working full time if not its get old fast trust me
Do you save this marriage, or run for your life?
Get a marriage counselor before it is too late.
Life is too short for a bad marriage.
A big YES. you're in a long haul. Talk to him and let him know you have your own needs too. You need affirmation from him too.
You should try marrige threapy or consuling so he can see a different point of view and realize that its not just you but him that is doing wrong.
Familiarity breeds contempt.
This is a major problem with
marriage.
Thus, any such union requires a lot
of work and compromise.
Have a sit-down talk with your
husband.
If he can't handle this,
find another husband.
Im sorry to say but if he is damanding already it will get worse. Get out now before he gets really controlling and abusive. My mom is going through that with someone and she has been with him 15 years and I worry about her everyday that we know that he is home. The moodiness is a true sign of how he really is. And my husband totally agrees with me on this.
sometimes marriage is tough, that's what for better or worse means
This is a tough boat, but you got in it willingly. I'm sure you knew about all of these issues before you married him.
I'm not saying you should let him walk on you. But you chose to take this on, and now you need to tough it out and make it work.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
Mid-thirties recently divorced after 12 years forces one to look at this a little closer than normalAdvice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
askmen.com
USE IT.
It works wonders.Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
http://hypebeast.com/
we dont
Askmen.com
askmen.com
USE IT.
It works wonders.Advice is unlimited for women, but where do men learn of fashion do's and don'ts as well as trends if you will?
http://hypebeast.com/
we dont
Askmen.com
Advice for men?
Here is few tips to help you (men) next time you are trying to hook up with someone.
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/single鈥?/a>
What do you think, are they good or bad, and did they help you at all?Advice for men?
They are fair and would probably help. I think looking and making comments about your environment and keeping eye contact are impossible to do at the same time.
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/single鈥?/a>
What do you think, are they good or bad, and did they help you at all?Advice for men?
They are fair and would probably help. I think looking and making comments about your environment and keeping eye contact are impossible to do at the same time.
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